Ten years ago, I set up this blog with the intention of sharing my vision of sexuality with the world. Despite all the information and sexual content that was already available online, I didn’t feel as though my own sexuality was being represented so I wanted to do something about it.
Now, I can proudly say that I have achieved my objective.
These days I would define myself as an orgasm activist. This is because all my work revolves around promoting female orgasm. I have had to have hundreds of orgasms of my own to come to this realisation. Quite literally.
Orgasm has been life-changing for me. When I first started having sex, I was able to reach climax easily through penetration. This was great for me and my partners, and somewhat atypical, as only 30% of women are able to regularly have orgasms during penetration. In contrast to my orgasmic sexual encounters, my masturbation sessions were orgasm-less, no matter how hard I tried. This meant that sometimes I ended up in a relationship almost because I depended on the sex for my orgasms.
Then, when I was in my mid-twenties, I discovered vibrators and I was finally able to provoke orgasms whenever I wanted. Not only was this intensely pleasurable, but more importantly, it had a profound effect on my personal relationships. This is because I no longer went out with toxic people just because of the good sex. My relationships had to be good – both in and out of bed – for me to be interested in orgasms provoked by humans. If not, I had sex toys to take care of my sexual needs. Despite this, I still enjoyed my real sexual encounters very much. In fact, I would say that they became more special.
Becoming orgasmically independent was mindblowing on so many levels. It wasn’t just about the obvious sexual pleasure and associated endorphin release. It was far deeper than that. Through masturbation, I found that I was able to connect with my mind and body. It was like meditation. It also became my favourite solution for writer’s block, insomnia and menstrual cramps.
Now, as a professional sex toy tester, orgasms are my life. But, it’s not just about lying on my unmade bed and paying my bills with moans of pleasure over and over again. I’m on a mission to share my wisdom with the world and help women become orgasmic, as I know, first hand, how much it can mean.
Over the years, I have received hundreds of messages from women all over the world telling me that my work has helped them to enjoy their bodies. Some have even written to me after their first orgasm! Not only am I flattered when these messages arrive; they also inspire me to carry on and work harder and they prove to me that there is a legitimate need for my work.
Not everyone is happy about my work, though. I have had to endure plenty of pejorative comments from friends and relatives about how I don’t have a real job as well as other unpleasant situations. One former friend even went so far as to suggest that I should keep my job a secret when I meet new people…
Unfortunately, I can’t say I’m surprised when I encounter naysayers who just don’t understand my work. I was fully aware that I would be judged negatively when I set up my blog ten years ago. This is because sex is still very much taboo. Instead of being an obstacle, it actually encourages me to work harder and be even more unapologetic.
Because I’m definitely not sorry.
Three of the sex toys that I have used the most over these last ten years are:
LELO Siri 2 – My most repeated clitoral stimulator.
I just love the shape of this vibrator. The motor is deep and rumbly and incredibly stimulating. I have lost count of how many orgasms I have enjoyed with Siri 2.
LELO Nea 2 – Multi orgasms on tap and my favourite travel toy.
I learned how to provoke multiple orgasms on demand thanks to this sex toy. Check out my video below and I will show you the technique. I love the shape and the fact that it’s so small, strong and silent. Perfect for travelling!
LELO Ina Wave – The best dual stimulation sex toy. Long lasting battery and still going strong after all these years.
This is one of my most multifunctional sex toys. It is ideal for G spot and clitoral stimulation. It also has an optional wave feature which feels divine. I also enjoy using it completely externally.
Enjoy and don’t ever apologise for being orgasmic!
Happy Women’s Day!