In this era of 24/7 social networking, anyone can call themselves a writer because their words can be published online whenever they feel like it. I’ve always had plenty to say and my free website was the first ongoing outlet for my views and opinions. At the start, writing my posts was something fun I did on a Sunday afternoon; it was a hobby. Within three months though, I had an offer to co-author a book with Erika Lust and, suddenly, my hobby had to be taken a lot more seriously.
The masochist in me enjoyed the unhelpful conditions I suffered to complete the project. For example, I always sat in the same old vintage leather chair-featured in many of my photo-sets-to get the work done. I wore old jogging bottoms, an ancient hoodie and, as it was during the winter months, I was usually wrapped up in a blanket that my grandma had sent to me; it had kept generations of O’Haras warm and I was very glad to have it. The door to my balcony was broken and no matter how much furniture I piled up against it, I still heard the rattle as it let in another bitter draft of cold air. My fingers were frozen and I could see my breath as I typed, busily, on the keyboard of my tired, unreliable laptop. I’ve got a new one now, thank God.
I knew, even then, that I would look back at the hardship of the writing with nostalgia but I didn’t know when that would be. That moment arrived two weeks ago when the first hard copy of the finished book arrived at my door and I opened the box and slowly took it out. I held the book for a moment and flicked through its glossy pages. Then, I looked across the room at the old PC and smiled. It amazed me to see what was once a word document-stuck in a computer that took ten minutes or more to load-now transformed into a luxurious hardback book with my images, thoughts and philosophy.
Skin Two Magazine reviewed Love Me Like You Hate Me first and called it “our top tip for a super Christmas gift”.
Read their full review HERE.
LOVE ME LIKE YOU HATE ME, written by Venus O’Hara and
Erika Lust, reveals the secrets of domination and submission
in an intense discovery of the world of BDSM, always
remembering that such interaction should always be safe
and consensual. The book provides a modern perspective
on a variety of practices that may be considered taboo for
many women: to be tied up oneself or to tie someone else
up, role-play and dressing up, giving pain or receiving it,
being a strict dominatrix or being a submissive slave,
punishing our partner or being punished by them… This very
detailed introduction to BDSM also features a guide to
fetishism in films and literature, what toys to buy, what to
wear, as well as a series of hot fetish confessions. LOVE ME
LIKE YOU HATE ME also boasts high quality graphic design
and excellent photography.
“We consider feminism to be open to
misinterpretation when applied to the bedroom.
Many women still imagine that being intelligent,
modern and a feminist must be incompatible with
becoming involved in bdsm or fetish practices,
acts often wrongly perceived as being dangerous
for a woman’s physical and moral integrity.
We tend to disagree.”
Venus O’Hara and Erika Lust
Available in 5 languages:
English: Love Me Like You Hate Me
Spanish: Deséame como si me odiaras
French: Je t’aime, fais-moi mal
German: Love Me – Hate Me
Dutch: Boei me en verfoei me
This post is also available in: Spanish