There is a tendency in mainstream pornography to represent fellatio as an act of female submission, when I think it’s rather the opposite: that is to say it’s often when a woman has the most control. For example, I know I can ask for anything I want when I’m in the middle of giving head. For this to be the case, we must really take control of the situation, and only do it when a really feel like it, not when he expects it. Even if this means doing it less frequently.
Sex & Relationships
This blog was initially intended to be a fetish blog. Soon after its creation in 2009, I began collaborating with a wide variety of Spanish media outlets including: GQ, El País, Playboy, Objetivo Bienestar, Primera Linea, Interviu and Antena 3 TV amongst others. As this was at a time that predated the 50 Shades of Grey era, I was asked to write about general sex and relationships topics .
In this category, you will find translations of my articles that were originally published in Spanish media. Including topics such as: masturbation, orgasms, infidelity, sexual confessions, sex tips, singles, dating, online dating, cybersex, sexting, advice, myths and much more.
Articles are published every Friday.
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“More than Lady Di but less than Madonna”, Andie McDowell answered in the film Four Weddings and a Funeral when she was questioned, by Hugh Grant’s character, about how many lovers she’d had before him. In another film – American Pie – the ‘rule of three’ was mentioned as a response to the same query.This ‘rule’ dictates that, when asked about the numerical quantity of previous partners, men multiply the true number by three whereas women divide theirs by three.
8 Reasons to Masturbate: I never really understood why the nuns at my high school always insisted that we went to sleep with our hands resting on top of the blankets. It made no sense, especially considering England’s cold climate. I knew even then, after the lights went out, that every pair of hands would inevitably creep back down under the bedclothes. It took me a few years more to understand why this practice wasn’t just discouraged but actually forbidden. I can’t deny that it amused me greatly when I uncovered the whole truth.
I know very few couples who celebrate Valentines Day. In the world of erotic boutiques, however, Valentine’s Day can represent the potentially most profitable sales opportunity of the year. Of course, giving your partner a sex toy, erotic lingerie or other adult accessories to enhance sexual intercourse on one specific night or single weekend is all well and good, if it works. In my opinion, great sex shouldn’t depend on the date.
Faked orgasms usually occur when the sexual act seems to be going on for far too long with no real end-point in sight. Many men try to prolong their performance until a woman has had her climax. This consideration is not due to a man’s sense of sexual chivalry. It’s more likely that seeing a woman spasming, because of his own efforts, turns a man on more strongly, increases his own pleasure and satisfies his ego as well.
I prefer that a certain amount of time goes by between having one lover and the next. And, I’m not just talking about the time it takes to have a shower and to change the sheets – I mean a space of several days at least. When I was talking about this subject to a friend recently, he explained that just after he’s woken up with one women, he becomes anxious to sleep with another one that very day.
Today, the most common excuse for avoiding sex is: ‘I’m tired’.This simple phrase seems to be replacing the classic: ‘Sorry, I’ve got a headache’. Given that the amount of sleeping disorders has increased with our hectic lives, it’s really no wonder that more and more couples have chosen to sleep in separate bedrooms during the working week. Oddly enough, many of them claim that this unusual arrangement not only gives them a far better quality of sleep but that doing so has improved their sex life as well.
The most frustrating part of travelling is the arrival. Just when you think that you’ve reached the end of the journey, you still have to hang on a little bit longer. If you’re on a train, it slows down to a crawl as it approaches the station. If, on the other hand, you’re on a plane that’s just touched down, you still have to sit and wait until everyone else has taken their luggage down. You’re there, where you want to be but you’re still kept a short distance away from complete fulfilment. Holding on seems to take an eternity, especially if you have a long distance lover waiting for you..
When it comes to oral sex, If there isn’t equality of giving and receiving, it can become a real issue with some couples. But, please don’t assume that reciprocity should be mandatory where this subject is concerned. Deciding who gives oral sex on a given night shouldn’t be like buying rounds of drinks in a bar; your turn, my turn, your turn and so on.