When I went to bed – I decided to test Zumio, a powerful clitoral stimulator that’s ideal for enjoying pinpoint pleasure. Naturally, I wondered what it would be like to share Zumio with another woman as I revisited my sapphic fantasies. I put Zumio to work on my hungry clitoris and closed my eyes. I imagined soft skin, expert caresses and – of course – the singular sensation of four breasts rubbing together.
The armpit fetish – or maschalagnia – has only recently crossed over into mainstream consciousness via popular media. Armpit fetishists experience a powerful sexual attraction to underarms. This fetish works in two major forms or, in some cases, both simultaneously. Some fetishists are aroused by the appearance of armpits– either shaved or hairy – as a voyeuristic stand-in for the female genitalia that they enjoy in photographs or by close observation of other people raising their naked arms in public places. Other fetishists are attracted to the distinctive odour associated with armpits. This odour is the most intense that the human body can produce and fetishists achieve stimulation and arousal from it even without skin to skin contact. Activities associated with this variation can include licking and/or sniffing armpits either hairy or shaved, sweaty or washed. An outcome of the fetish can be the practise of armpit sex which makes the equivalence of the under-arm area and the vagina quite clear.
What’s Wrong with Hairy Armpits?
“It’s not a glamorous look”, “you’ve totally lost your sex appeal” or “how disgusting!” These are just some of the comments I received after publishing photos of my hairy armpits on social media. Of course, there were others that were more positive.
I have to say that the negative comments didn’t surprise me in the slightest. The merest glimpse of a hairy armpit on a woman usually causes this reaction. It was something that I used to find unpleasant too.
Even Hairier Armpits
It’s been almost three months since the last time I shaved my armpits or my legs. Three months. It’s come as a real surprise to me to discover that having a little more leg hair, and a lot more armpit hair, can be an enjoyable experience in some ways. I enjoy having hairy armpits from an aesthetic viewpoint. Trying to use my roll-on deodorant represents one of the downsides; it’s messy and the sensation isn’t pleasant.
Hairy Armpits Fetish
I haven’t welcomed the fact of my fine armpit hairs ever since the first time they appeared. It’s no surprise then that I began to shave them off immediately and didn’t stop. I’m lucky in some ways because I’ve never produced that much body hair in general. That means, if I don’t get around to shaving my armpits for a couple of days, I’m not going to turn into a gorilla. Another benefit of not having to shave all that often is the avoidance of unnecessary, and distracting, skin irritation after the fact.
Primera Linea Covergirl
I worked in print sales for a while. I was good at it too. It was then that I began fantasising about making a living in the world of erotica instead. Every time I visited the printing presses to check the quality of the work coming off them, I wanted it to be me on the full-colour covers. It was my job to pose topless and look scandalous in the near future I decided. That was then. Now, part of my ambition has already been achieved. I have written two erotic books and seen one of them, Ingles Para Pervertidos, roll off another local printing press with my face on the front. I have also been featured inside the pages of Interviu magazine with my discreet sideboob appearing on the cover. Now, I am on the cover of Primera Linea magazine and I am totally topless. When I saw a digital mock-up of the finished cover I was delighted. My body looked natural and you can even see my freckles. My long red hair, green eyes and pouty red mouth looked just right. The thought of seeing my topless covergirl debut on every news stand for a month turned me on then and it still does now. I was in a business meeting when I took a ‘phonecall. It was a former colleague from my old print company. He was excited. “You’ll never guess what?” he teased. After a few minutes of this I shouted “Just tell me!” into […]
The Pain of Retro Lingerie
When I think about wearing retro lingerie, I always remember the pain it gives you just to get the right look. Dressing for a retro lingerie shoot takes up more time than any other. This is especially true if there’s a corset involved. I have to remind myself to attach my favourite six-strap suspender belt to my stockings before the corset is laced up because it’s almost impossible to do it afterwards. I always have a few problems with fitting my own corset no matter how experienced I get with the lacing. At first I didn’t like having to rely on photographers to help me. Then I discovered how much control I had over them when I felt their hands trembling as they laced me up. If I closed my eyes it felt like they were tying me up slowly in a complicated bondage game. A tight corset always changes the way you walk and move. It doesn’t just correct a bad posture or prevent you from slouching if you sit down. It also encourages you to plan your movements carefully and impose yourself more in a shoot. At that point, you start to feel so confident in your image that you don’t want to go back and wear ordinary clothes again. That’s how I felt when I chose my retro lingerie for this shoot. I combined retro-seamed stockings and a bullet bra from What Katy Did, my Van Doren six-strap suspender belt from Kiss Me Deadly and my favourite […]
Confessions of a Sex Writer
Since becoming a sex writer I can confess that writing about sex can be just as good as the real thing. Sometimes, it can be even better. I’m often asked whether my articles are 100% true. I’ve never written fiction so, let me reassure you that everything I write is based on reality. For me, reality is always more interesting than made-up stories. I feel sorry for those people who cannot or will not believe that. When I’m about to start my next column or article I make sure that I keep the title of it in my head for a day before I start to write. Those are with me wherever I go and whatever I do-even at the supermarket. A sex writer, like everyone else – needs to buy groceries and even when I am trying to decide which cheese to buy – Mozzarella or Havarti usually – the title is there in my mind until I sit down and start work. It does not take very long before I search the Venus archives for suitably horny experiences that I have lived through or that my friends have confided in me about. It all helps. Sometimes when I’m writing, I get really turned on by the subject matter. This could include reminiscences and fantasies of my own as well. I get so turned on sometimes that I have to take a break. I check that the battery power is enough in my vibrator before I have my 15 […]
The Rise of The Armpit Fetish
The armpit fetish has moved into the mainstream so far that you only have to look at the covers of recent – high-end – fashion magazines to see its effect. If you are an armpit fetishist and you visit a news stand you could be forgiven for thinking that your favourite erogenous zone had also become the most popular trend this season. There has never been a better time to be an armpit fetishist than now. This focus on underarms is only the latest in a series of body parts that have caught the imagination of editors and photographers. This list has already featured toe-cleavage and side-boobs. One modelling agency insider admitted recently that: “There’s a definite fad for armpit posing at the moment…but they’ve got to be pits to be proud of – smooth and hairless only please.” The most infamous past exception to this current rule was the actress Julia Roberts who – at the premiere of Notting Hill in 1999 – had no problem with baring her hairy armpits. The armpit fetish can appeal in two entirely different ways or both at the same time. Some armpit fetishists are particularly attracted to them visually and they indulge themselves by collecting photos or by appreciating the voyeuristic spectacle of arms being raised in public. By contrast, there are other fetishists who find the odour and pheromones associated with armpits to be completely irresistible. In both cases, this fetish can result in the act of armpit sex. Personally, I […]
According to most celebrity lifestyle magazines the side boob is the new cleavage. There’s nothing like it when it comes to the provocative display of as much bust as possible in front of obliging photographers. This view of the braless breast, seen from the side, is now big news thanks to the trend for backless dresses, cut-away tops and almost non-existent vests among celebrities. Its surging popularity continues regardless of whether it happens accidentally or deliberately. Sideboobs – usually seen under loose-fitting clothing – are subtler than a more obvious flash of a deep cleavage. Unlike cleavages, which can be artificially improved by push-up bras, side boobs are honest about the physical charms of their owners and only the pertest breasts can carry off the style successfully. The real art of the sideboob is to create a great one without showing even a hint of an exposed nipple even though a tiny indication of the outline or shape of one improves the success of the fetish spectacle enormously. When I saw this top in a shop window I realised, at once, that it was perfect for a side boob photo-shoot. It’s fetish potential was unavoidable so I had to buy it. The preparation I put in prior to the session had to be meticulous but it turned out to be serious fun as well. For instance, I wore a bra up until the first shot was about to be taken so that I’d have some fresh elastic compression lines on […]
My Fishnet Fantasies – Venus O’Hara
Fishnet fetish has made its own niche in the world of sexual fetishism as a significant kink with unique associations. Fishnets is hosiery with an open, diamond-shaped, knit often used for stockings, tights and bodystockings. Fishnets cling close to the skin and emphasise every curve while, simultaneously, flattering and perfecting the shape of the wearers legs. It makes them appear sleeker and longer because of the repeated pattern. When stroking the surface of legs wearing fishnets, a fetishist’s hand feels resistance from the knit along with the smoothness of skin beneath it; the contradiction of textures is never less than arousing. The shoot was planned as a featured part of the Pecha Kucha Event where Yuky will be presenting a photographic project on the imagery made possible by transparent clothing. He chose me as the featured model and I had a great many ideas about how to flaunt myself through different sheer materials. I loved the combination of ripped black fishnet tights, shocking pink panties and my discount heels. I added in red nipple tassels, elbow length-black velvet-gloves and a glossy, patterned veil. Having my hair straightened made it look even longer than usual and, in combination with the fishnets and all the transparent surfaces, the effect was exactly what I had imagined. BUY THE FEATURE NIPPLE TASSLES HERE [nggallery id=5] Photogrphy by YUKY
Why I Love Mismatched Underwear – Venus O’Hara
Most women imagine that the classic image of a suspender set with a push-up bra is what gets their man going. However, research has proven that this couldn’t be further from the truth. It has been established that the wannabe stripper look doesn’t really work. So, why are lingerie shop windows full of expensive, matching sets if men aren’t convinced by them? Men are uncomplicated creatures. Whether it’s a simple white set-up with a sexy bow, or some cute polka dot pants, the items that really score big with them are those that suggest innocence and fun. Mismatched underwear is perfect to feed in to this need because it plays along with an important male fantasy. After a solid night of sweet loving, a man likes to imagine that the girl is so overwhelmed by his performance in bed that she’s put on mismatching underwear to stagger out of his room. For me, mismatching underwear says : ‘Yes, I’m hot enough not to conform to your fashion rules, my friend.’ I know that men prefer mixed-up bras and panties that don’t match because I’ve asked them. They told me that mismatched underwear makes them focus their attention on the bra, panties and stockings one at a time and spend longer looking at each piece. That means their gaze is fixed on those important parts that the underwear is designed to flaunt for much longer. Underneath all the sexily chaotic disorganisation of my clothes in this set, there is a kind […]
Cleaning Fetish Confessions – Venus O’Hara
After a long day at work, cleaning is the last thing on anyone’s mind. It still has to be done though and many specialist agencies have woken up to the fact that real cleaning needs to have much more sex appeal. Such agencies now supply fantasy maids so that busy professionals can sit back and enjoy a domestic goddess cleaning the very things that they work so hard for. The service includes all aspects of housekeeping, stimulating conversation and a variety of french maid outfits. Sometimes you can decide what the maid wears. In this set I wanted to be a rebel cleaner in a messed up kitchen. I wasn’t happy with just piles of dirty plates on the floor so I hung underwear on the handles of the kitchen cabinets as well. In the set I am naked apart from my skimpy apron and my discount heels. It was only after we had finished this set that I found out about the apron fetish and, especially, the meaning of the Japanese word Hadaka. In Japan, the word Hadaka means nude and when it is paired with apron, a particular fetish is described. The term Hadaka apron is used to describe a situation where a person, almost always a woman, wears an apron over over her nude, or partially underwear covered body. For a continuation of this set, please see my Member’s Area. Photography by David Vega
A Different Kind of Handcuffs Fetish
When I imagine a security guard or, even better, when I see a policeman, my eager green eyes automatically roll down from his badge to his belt; searching for his pair of handcuffs. The sight of those cuffs dangling from his belt never fails to arouse me in a deep and guilty way. You don’t have to get off on wearing handcuffs to understand and appreciate the power and mystique of the fetish that surrounds their use. I’m a good example of this love/hate relationship with cuffs. I’m not a fan of them when their cold metal encloses my soft, porcelain-white wrists but the idea of them really gets me going. They represent stern discpline and the possibility of being frisked if I’m lucky. Unlike my fantasy peace officers, I don’t really go for accessories when I’m planning an outfit.When I do wear extras to go out with they have to have a fetishistic meaning to them or they don’t qualify for Venuswear. So, when I saw the earrings featured in this set for the first time I knew that I had to have them. I wanted to provoke the same feelings in others that I found in a policeman’s dangling handcuffs. These are just perfect for the job. These pictures are the result of a recent photo-shoot with Sebas Romero. As well as the earrings, I experimented with using my plaited hair as a collar and this unique look allowed me to play with a variety of faces. Photography […]
My Experience as a Calendar Girl
One of the best known calendars is the Pirelli one and for 2011 it features a famous redhead, Julianne Moore, on its cover. If you want a redhead on every page, decorating every month with a unique beauty and a distinctive fetish style then there is only one real choice. It was a real treat for me to look back at all the photo-sets that I’ve featured in over the last year so that I could choose twelve images to represent my best work for the next twelve months. My calendar features a mixture of my most popular pictures and some astounding ones that are totally new. They share one thing, though, and that is the care with which they’ve been selected to fit in with the months of the forthcoming year. January is a time for New Year’s resolutions and self discipline. I couldn’t think of a better way to celebrate this that one of the most powerful images shot of me. In a glistening corset and wearing PVC, elbow-length gloves, this definitive outfit is a real statement of fetish intent. February predicts the celebration of St Valentine’s day. On a surface of twisted bedlinen, you will find me naked and longing for the arrival of my lover. With my fiery red hair spread out and my dreamy face fixed in an ambiguous mood, my hand clasps the thorny stems of expectant roses. March promises the gradual arrival of a better climate but still throws up the occasional surprise […]
Most people imagine that veils are a way of hiding erotic potentials and alluring features but I know, after making this set, that veils can be ultimate fetish. A veil is an article of clothing, worn almost exclusively by women. It is intended to cover some part of the head or face and it is intended to show honour to a specific object or space. The first recorded instance of veiling for women is recorded in an Assyrian legal text from the 13th century, which restricted its use to noble women and forbade prostitutes and common women from adopting it. Ancient Greek texts have also spoken of veiling and seclusion of women being practiced among the Persian elite. Statues from Persepolis depict women both veiled and unveiled, and it seems to be regarded as an attribute of prostitution under their belief system. Sometimes veils would have been used, as an alternative to a mask, as a simple method of hiding the identity of a woman who was traveling to meet a lover, or doing anything she didn’t want other people to find out about. More practically, veils were also sometimes worn to protect the complexion from sun and wind damage (when white skin was fashionable), or to keep dust out of a woman’s face. In Judaism, Christianity and Islam the concept of covering the head is or was associated with propriety. All traditional depictions of the Virgin Mary , the mother of Christ , show her veiled. It was a […]
Bondage for Beginners – Venus O’Hara
I received an advance set of Love Me Like You Hate Me handcuffs from Bijoux Indiscrets even before the book was slated for printing and I knew that it was essential to produce some pictures of me using them to feature in its pages when it did appear. It isn’t a secret that I’m no fan of handcuffs so I was surprised at my intuitive response to these. The material that they’re made of was firm against my fingers yet supple against the softness of my lower arms.They were perfect for wrist and ankle restraint and I enjoyed them from the start. I found out quite quickly that they can be tied together, attached to clothing and secured to furniture but the best part for beginners is knowing that they can escape from them when they want to…if they want to. For beginners, Bondage is the art of restraining someone or tying them up in some way that induces intense feelings of sexual gratification. The person being tied up can relax and allow the person doing the tying to provide pleasure for them while deriving an equal and opposite enjoyment from their own feelings of empowerment. Power, in this context of discipline for the sake of arousal, must not be abused. It will never become an issue as long as both partners approach bondage games in an atmosphere of mutual trust. Tying up a partner is only just the preamble; taking advantage of their restraint is where the fun really […]
The following images were styled and produced by myself to illustrate my book LOVE ME LIKE YOU HATE ME, written with Erika Lust. My objective in producing this set was to demonstrate that the power of bondage can be expressed and projected as easily from ordinary household objects and environments as it can from high-end fetish apparatus. In fact, the ability to fetishize familiar routines-things that we all do everyday-has to be the sexiest use of DIY that I know. Everyone showers or bathes. We know our bathrooms more intimately than any single place other than our bedrooms. In Barcelona on a cold February day I found myself abandoned in a strange bathroom. There was no real warmth to speak of, just two weak heaters to warm me up. The slippery mosaic tiles were freezing to my feet and as I got into the bath, my discount heels threatened to slip on the tiny, cold trickle of water left in the bottom. I was grateful to be wearing even a skimpy silk top, blue, sequinned knickers and my slave collar. Even my old snakeskin scarf, reworked as a blindfold, gave me a little bit of relief from the numbing cold. My shoulder blades, the small of my back and my firm derrière lay flat against the chilly porcelain. I felt my soft skin rise in lines of goosebumps and I was so drained of warmth that I couldn’t keep a single thought in my head. The photographer coiled the ordinary […]
Amaurophilia (Blindfold Fetish) – Venus O’Hara
Blindfolds possess unique fetishistic potential. They are particularly potent when used to experiment with the sensory deprivation of a pliable submissive. There is a key fetish in which the exploitation of sense pleasures is especially important. It is termed Amaurophilia and it refers almost always to a woman being blindfolded. For Amaurophiliacs having sex with a compliant woman who puts on a blindfold during the act itself represents the summit of their particular fantasy. The fetish works its magic because the simple fact of a lover’s visual restriction increases his own sense of power. The ways in which vision can be slowly, but safely, restricted are many and varied. They can range from scarves to even something from your underwear drawer; the longer it takes to manufacture a DIY blindfold the better. The male fetishist maintains strict visual-contact with his subject while she works on covering her eyes. Photos by Sebas Romero
In BDSM, a top or dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or in a BDSM scene who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner. Domination means being able to extract excitement from the pleasure you give to a submissive by every word you speak and every gesture you make no matter how trivial. That enjoyment only increases if a submissive offers unqualified acts of worship. A male dominant may make up for a lack of control in his professional life by expressing his desire for it in the bedroom whereas a female dominant can be regarded, undeservedly, as being counter-intuitive and unnatural in her desires. Most dominants, however, find that a single whiplash is worth more than a thousand wasted words of justification. There are three variables at work in a dominant’s connection to their submissive: Firstly, dominants require a degree of dedication and attention that applies whether they are male or female. For them, the act of worship from a submissive represents a depth of adoration from an individual that simply cannot be found anywhere else. Secondly, in setting tasks and duties to an eager submissive outside of the controlling environment of their BDSM relationship, the dominant understands that the submissive derives nothing but pure joy from the distance application of their adoration. When the submissive is busily proving his or her dedication to the material needs of their dominant even when the dominant is asleep or busy then the […]
Silence: the use of gags in BDSM
A gag can be worn during some bondage and BDSM role-plays. The person who wears it is usually regarded as being the submissive partner, while the one without it is signified as the dominant one. The value of the gag to the wearer can vary but many individuals simply derive profound erotic pleasure from the feel of one, either in a submissive or dominant role. Gags have distinct connotations of punishment and control and can be used as a form of physical and emotional humiliation.The type of gag that is employed will depend on the preferences of the parties and on its suitability to the type of role-play scene. Found clothing like scarves or underwear can stand-in effectively as long as safety is always considered. In the following images you can see me using a wide, theatrical ribbon as a decorative gag. It is softly confrontational yet, visually, it has a huge, fetishistic impact. Photography by Fernando Gebbia
Clothes Ripping Fetish – Venus O’Hara
Whenever I get bored with a piece of clothing I tend to take a pair of scissors and I cut it up. When I was wearing this black negligee in a recent shoot I realised that I had had it for a long time and it had already been seen in other photo-sets. I decided it needed to be revamped. I explained to the photographer that the negligee needed re-working and I mentioned my interest in the clothes ripping fetish and how I wanted to explore it in the shots he was about to take. He cut some holes in the fabric that enabled me to push my fingers into them so I could rip and tear my own larger holes. I felt like the ultimate rebel as I posed. Later in the set, the black negligee was reduced to unrecognisable rags hanging from my body which coolly complemented the ripped tights that I was almost wearing. Photos by Fernando Gebbia
Since becoming a fetish model I’ve had numerous requests for smoking fetish pictures. Smoking fetishists are very particular about certain, vital, details within the imagery that they adore so much; the type of cigarette used can be a deal-breaker. I knew that I should find a packet of Virginia Slim 120s. I just couldn’t lay my hands on those long, thin, tubes of delight when I needed them. I had to compromise. In these images you will see me with Ronhill slim 100s and, for the benefit of the gallery, they couldn’t have been more appropriate. The rest of the set takes great pains to illustrate all of the fetish essentials required for a singular smoking set; lighting up, the first long drag on the cigarette, dangling it from the lower lip and close ups of the lipstick-stained white tips and much more. Photography by Andrew O’Hara.
I forget how effective my rebellious red curls are as a shield for my neck; it feels so covered up when I wear it down. That all changes when I wear my hair up, then my neck feels naked, exposed and available to endless sets of hungry eyes. Its exposure makes me instantly aware of minor shifts in room temperature, sharp drafts from open windows and odd alterations of atmosphere. That edgy awareness extends to the instant effect its display seems to have on some individuals. Necks are like small bodies in their own right with unique curves, softnesses and scents. For some neck fetishists the nape is as important as a perfect pair of long legs. It is without a doubt an essential erogenous zone that responds so well to exploration by hands, mouths and eyes. Photos by Fernando Gebbia
Love Me Like You Hate Me – Teaser
I recently made my acting debut in the acclaimed short film “Love Me Like You Hate Me”, written and directed by Erika Lust, (Lust Films 2010). It is an arousing exploration of the seductive thrills of domination and the fear and excitement of submission in which I play seven characters. Now, the film has been re-edited, re-scored and re-imagined to further emphasise its unusual ability to disturb and excite with its lurid and fetishistic imagery of domestic servitude, confinement and spanking, gloves fetish, glasses fetish, wet clothes fetish and much more. In its new form it has become an unusually kinetic and intense type of BDSM thriller which restores footage-previously regarded as too intense-of me bound hand and foot and constrained by a ball-gag, to its list of astounding highlights. I’m still shocked at how effective the following teaser is and I can hardly wait to see the more provocative cut of the film when it debuts soon. Photo above by Kristyan Geyr Images TEASER LOVE ME LIKE YOU HATE ME Cargado por lustfilms. – Mira más videos de TV y películas.
Poem: Farewell My Siren
FAREWELL MY SIREN (For Venus) The blood red roses have died in the vase, Their long stems wilted, And the thorns blunted That so exquisitely tore your soft, white skin. Vanished for now the delicious lacerations And stilled the erotic trickle Across the buttock’s swell, The sweet dark crimson sap redolent of those blooms. But gone, too, the auburn tresses that crowned Your crystaline curves And adorned your lissome limbs: Your flesh awaits fresh wounds; my scars are sealed ! Christopher Drake Photos by Daniel Bauer www.daniel-bauer.com
The Fetish Appeal of Masks
In ancient Rome, persona meant ‘a mask’ and the word mask came via French masque and either Italian maschera or Spanish máscara and its possible ancestor is the Latin (not classical) mascus, masca which means “ghost”. In modern terms a mask is an article worn on the face, typically for protection, concealment, performance or amusement. The fetish appeal of masks is founded on their enduring powers of pretence and play. For a submissive a mask hides his or her likeness beneath an undifferentiated screen that indicates their captive state. It is for the dominant that the real influence of a false face can be found. For them the correct mask can combine, simultaneously, the hiding of personal identity with the promotion of a powerful and intimidating image. Any obvious indications of enjoyment or vulnerability are obscured; it is the assumed persona that prevails. I felt anonymous behind the catwoman disguise but my most significant features loomed large in the lens of the camera. My huge and hungry eyes stared out of the slits cut in the mask and my rich, pouting mouth appeared beneath it like the homicidal promise of a sensual predator. The photographer shrunk back as I felt a different Venus flaunt her power. Buy the featured PVC gloves here. Photography by Sebas Romero.
Behind Bars – Cage Fetish
When an exotic creature is kept imprisoned behind bars it is the interested spectators inability to look away from it that determines the length of its confinement. There is dreadful pleasure in seeing a beautiful beast trapped in a cage; some imported animals are powerful and dangerous and we need to be protected from their unusual powers as we become voyeurs.When it’s a fetish model gripping those bars and looking back at us our pulses quicken with a presence that is awe-inspiring and sublime.The goddess in a cage reminds us of that part of ourselves that we are urged to keep under lock and key except when it’s safe not to. I had no real intention of shooting an impromptu set of images on that day until I saw the metal bars in the grounds of my friends home. I pictured myself as a prisoner of sensual conscience kept isolated from the vanilla public for their own protection but inspiring awe and devotion in growing rows of visitors to my fetish cell. If you look closely, between the bars, you’ll find me staring back. So, look away; I dare you. Photos taken by Lars Koudal. Lars has also been helping me with my web and he’s been fantastic. Enjoy the set! Venus O’Hara
No Pain, No Gain (BDSM)
Pain has always been a part of accepted behaviour in conventional sexual relationships. The loss of control that defines the act itself anticipates scratching and hair pulling; love bites are a more obvious reminder of recent pleasures.These “in the moment” expressions of passion are intuitive and spontaneous. The application of pain when associated with BDSM is different, it is methodical and organised for a specific purpose; it refines the production of pleasure by the exploitation of its polar opposite. There are many intelligent applications of pain in the world of BDSM, enough to sharpen appetites that are subtle or broad. Spanking is an arousing interplay of punishment and sensuality, randomness and design.Whipping is a more direct approach to the use of formal chastisement without sweetness to balance it. Temperature play tests our reactions to heat and cold to enhance sensation to a much greater degree. Even rope burns from shibari bondage can have an appeal all of their own.The list goes on and on. To read a lot more about the uses and value of pain in the search for greater pleasures and to enjoy more images from this set, please refer to LOVE ME LIKE YOU HATE ME, my forthcoming book about BDSM written with Erika Lust and due for publication in Autumn 2010. Photos by David Vega. Enjoy! Venus O’Hara
I knew that I needed something colourful to wear for the upcoming photo-shoot so I searched through my cupboards and draws and dug out the bathing suit that I had almost forgotten.It had a high-cut leg, which proved just how old it was since that style hadn’t been seen since I had left university. I knew that I would have to pair the suit up with a more contemporary item to hide its age so I found some almost-new bikini bottoms and found the look I wanted. I had been in the second year at uni and I knew that I would be spending the next academic year living and studying in France. The first thing on my wish list was a new bathing suit because I didn’t have one and I knew how much I needed it. I arranged an overdraft but to be able to use it I had to provide an itemised budget to justify the amount. I sat in front of the Bank manager as she read my list, saw the purchase from Top Shop and asked me whether a bathing suit could be called an essential. I said it was, made my case and got the money. Years later, in the kitchen of my apartment, I put the old bathing costume on and poured out-of-date tetrapak soups and bad tomato ketchup over myself to get into character. I went a bit mad then and turned the kitchen, and myself, into a total shambles. After a […]
Modelling the Orgasm Dress – Venus O’Hara
My good friend Carolina Medrano asked me to model her “orgasm dress” which was part of her Masters Degree in Fashion Design. I was more than happy to collaborate and I enjoyed the experience of having a dress made-to –measure immensely. I haven’t had much experience in fashion but at least I didn’t have to learn to walk in any killer heels as part of the presentation! The dress was made with fiber optic making it light up in the dark. I’m just hoping that I can find the opportunity to wear the dress again because it really was… orgasmic! Orgasm Dress designed by Carolina Medrano. Photography by Toshiko Sakurai Enjoy! Venus O’Hara
Apron Fetish – Venus O’Hara
In Japan, the word Hadaka means nude and when it is paired with apron, a particular fetish is described. The term Hadaka apron is used to describe a situation where a person, almost always a woman, wears an apron over over her nude, or partially underwear covered body.Many men love the fantasy image of a maid. The idea of seeing a woman performing menial tasks while they sit and watch, go about their business or lead a more relaxing life is timeless. When I wear a white linen apron and fix my hair in a vintage style I begin to feel like a fantasy maid; sweet and subservient to a masters desires. I imagine all of those Victorian maids embodying the wildest fantasies rehearsed by deeply repressed Victorian and Edwardian gentlemen. They may look pure but the flimsy, revealing fabric displays their young bodies perfectly. Today the Victorian maid has been tranformed into the saucy, provocative fetish temptress that is imagined and lusted after today. She is the stuff of erotic legend and has been at the heart of their fantasies for almost a century and a half. Many men love the fantasy image of a maid. The idea of seeing a woman performing menial tasks while they sit and watch, go about their business or lead a more relaxing life is timeless. When I wear a white linen apron and fix my hair in a vintage style I begin to feel like a fantasy maid; sweet and subservient to […]
When I’m feeling organised at the weekend, I like to iron all my clothes for the following week. Everyone hates ironing, but in fact the process is very relaxing and relieves stress. I had been wanting to do a session ironing for some time. Andrew O’Hara kindly offered to help me out and he nearly had a heart attack when I answered the door dressed in a PVC dress and heels. He told me that recently he had been suffering dizzy spells and low blood pressure. He has since told me that just after the shoot he had a normal blood pressure reading. Not sure if the ironing had anything to do with it. Here I am again trying to make domestic stuff look interesting. Enjoy my ironing fetish! Venus O’Hara Buy this figure-gripping and reflective PVC dress here
Sploshing Warm-up – Venus O’Hara
When I was standing in my kitchen and planning this set I hadn’t yet worked with the photographer, Sebas Romero and I had no idea what sploshing was. I’ve always had a thing for mess and the way neat rooms can change their character completely when I make my mischief. I thought this when I opened a cupboard and found the forgotten food. It had been in there a long time. There was old tomato sauce, tetra-packs of stinking soup, ancient tubs of hard nesquik, powdery breadsticks and more. I couldn’t resist. It was time to indulge in my love of untidiness again, so I lined up all of my out-of-date goodies and knew what to do with them to make a set of provocative pictures. Sploshing or “wet and messy” fetish is all about seeing rebellious young women being smeared and splattered with gooey foodstuffs to ruin their clothes and wreck their make-up. When I think back to being covered in that old food I understand what the fetishists see in this kink; I had so much fun doing it. I’ll be shooting similar sets in the near future but to a more extreme level. After the shoot I was ashamed of the mess I made and I wondered, if anyone entered the kitchen without knocking, how I could possibly explain it to them. It took hours to clean up. Nowadays I know better and I’d wrap the whole room up in cling-film first. Enjoy! Venus O’Hara Photos by […]
The World of Erotic Books – Venus O’Hara
I had the privilege of working with some erotic publishers when I was working in export sales in a printer a few years ago. It was great fun and it caused a great stir in my company when I showed my boss the content of my “orders”. It was a family company and in theory they would prefer not to print such things but at the end of the day, money is money. It was funny to see how my boss covered up the printed sheets of erotica with sheets from different orders, just so that his relatives wouldn’t see the scandal being produced in the factory. I joked with the machine operators about going easy on the “magenta” when printing a book about oral sex. Here I am with my collection of erotic books collected from my time as a sales representative in a printer. I’ve also thrown in a couple of non-erotic books in just to make a bit of a contrast. Enjoy! Venus O’Hara Photography by Andrew O’Hara