As you know, there’s no shame in any sexual act you enjoy taking part in. But when it comes to telling your partner about your bedroom desires, it’s not always an easy thing to do. Not all of us are fetish singles; some of us are in long-term relationships with partners who don’t know about our deepest sexual desires. Why hide this part of yourself? Sex is an integral part of our lives, your partner needs to know what satisfies you. By not expressing our desires, we miss out on potential fun and exploration with our partners. We all deserve to be sexually satisfied without feeling shame. If you want to reach sexual pleasure, it means you’re going to have to talk to your partner and share your kinks with them. Who knows, maybe they have the same kinks as you! Talk about it outside of the bedroom The best way to introduce your fetish to your partner is to sit down and talk with them – outside of the bedroom. Bringing up your kinks right before or during sex may come as a surprise to your partner. Discussing it outside of the bedroom will give your partner space and time to think about your desires and whether they want to explore it. You don’t need to have a serious meeting, keep it casual either over dinner or a couple of drinks. It’s important that when you bring up the subject, both you and your partner are feeling relaxed. Ask […]
The word fetish derives from 15th century Portuguese feitiço, which meant charm or spell. A fetish is an object believed to have supernatural powers, or in particular, a man-made object that has power over others. Essentially, fetishism is the attribution of inherent value or powers to an object. The terms “erotic fetish” and “sexual fetish” were first introduced by the French psychologist Alfred Binet in the 1940s.
Today a “fetish” is an object, non-reproductive body part or action whose presence or existence causes excitement and/or arousal in an individual. An object might be latex or heels, a non-sexual body part could be legs or feet and tickling or smoking are examples of actions.
“Fetish” is also used as an adjective that relates to anything connected to the world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadomasochism) such as fetish wear or fetish clubs.
Please find Venus O’Hara’s Fetish Glossary below with definitions and images.
Apron fetishists understand that this particular garment doesn't just protect clothes when someone is cooking. Most people, if they see an apron being worn by an attractive woman, ...Read more
The armpit fetish – or maschalagnia - has only recently crossed over into mainstream consciousness via popular media. Armpit fetishists experience a powerful sexual attraction to...Read more
Globophilia is the sexual arousal provoked by the presence of balloons. This response can be a result of blowing them up or letting them down. The fetish can also involve the aroma...Read more
Blindfolds possess unique fetishistic potential. They are particularly potent when used to experiment with the sensory deprivation of a p...Read more
Bondage is the art of restraining someone or tying them up in some way that induces intense feelings of sexual gratification for both parties in opposite ways. It can be as simple ...Read more
For bra fetishists, the reality of naked female breasts can never be as stimulating or significant to them as the way that those breasts can be presented by a brassiere that perfec...Read more
Plenty of men are into the bridal fetish. Traditionally, a bride, dressed in white silks and satins, is a visual metaphor for virginity and exclusivity. Her imminent sexual unavail...Read more
In cleaning fetish, a subordinate performs menial duties around a house, or apartment, for the viewing pleasure of a fetishist. This usually takes place in an exaggerated recreatio...Read more
In collar fetishism, a submissive wears a collar to represent his or her status as an owned creature or as property possessed by a dominant or goddess. To be “collared” is a te...Read more
Corsets are a key component in sexual fetishism, most obviously in BDSM activities. In a BDSM scene or relationship, a submissive can wear a corset which could be laced very tigh...Read more
In BDSM, a top or dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or scene who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner. Domination mean...Read more
Flagellation or flogging is the act of methodically beating or whipping (Latin flagellum, “whip”) the human body. Specialised implements for it include rods, switches, the cat ...Read more
Voyeuristic food fetishists are usually male and, in most cases, they take the food imagery so popular in women's magazines one step further and seek to realise their erotic fantas...Read more
Podophilia or foot fetishism describes a popular and complex fetish. For foot fetishists in general, the foot duplicates the attractions of an enti...Read more
The freckle fetish is an essential kink for individuals who appreciate the effect that decorative imperfections have when seen on very pale skin. The patterns that freckles make on...Read more
The potency of the fur fetish can be partially explained by the sense of its forbidden qualities. The main reason, however, is that it gives a woman presence, power and authority: ...Read more
Gags have connotations of punishment and control and can be used as an aid to physical humiliation in a BDSM scenario....Read more
It only took me a short time to understand why gingham is such a major turn-on for some people, me included. A gorgeous young woman looks even younger when she puts on a gingham bl...Read more
Glasses fetishism is characterised by the effect that a pair of glasses can have on the erotic imagination of a spectator. Glasses are often a key component in many role-playing sc...Read more
Glove fetishism is a specific clothing fetish where an individual is attracted to, and stimulated by the sight of another person, or themselves, wearing gloves on their hands. The ...Read more
The effect and attraction of handcuffs, to a fetishist, are as significant in the concept of them as they are in the use of them. They have become a vital component...Read more
Heels Fetish is based on the transforming quality of premium footwear on the shape of the female foot and lower leg. To wear high-heels well an...Read more
Hoodie Fetish relates to a single piece of modern clothing that contains, within it, conflicting messages and meanings. It is this quality which permits fetishists, to impose their...Read more
Hoods and masks appeal to fetishists in a specific and powerful way. Whether made from rubber, latex, PVC or leather, their unique value lies in the effect they have on the individ...Read more
Hosiery fetishists have an attraction towards individuals wearing either tights or stockings and they are also drawn to the individual items in their own right. The common denomina...Read more
Latex has become such an important fetishistic material that it has become almost interchangeable with real flesh for many latex fetishists. Latex can re-shape, sculpt and transfor...Read more
Modern leg fetishism has been with us ever since the end of the Great War. After that, skirts began to rise, revealing the calf and then the knee. Thick unflattering stockings were...Read more
Lips are a particularly effective starting point because just seeing a beautiful pout allows men to use it as an imaginative vulva....Read more
The popularity of the lipstick fetish can be explained quite simply; some colours, particularly red, when applied to a woman’s facial lips make a direct imaginative connection be...Read more
Trichophilia or hair fetishism is a paraphilia in which the subject of the fetish becomes sexually stimulated in the presence of-or is compelled by-human hair. It is most commonly ...Read more
Mismatched underwear fetishists understand that, instead of themed sets, a random collection of clashing styles when it comes to bras, panties and leg wear has been proved to be fa...Read more
Neck fetishists find the female neck to be the centre of their obsessions and its veneration to be the best way to realise their own arousal. Necks are particularly vulnerable and ...Read more
Some fetishists prefer women's panties to any other fetish object. Their eroticisation of this underwear can encourage behaviours which can include the collection and sharing of pr...Read more
The Redhead Fetish has been around for centuries. Russet, ginger or honey-blond, it doesn't matter how it's described-this shade maintains its popularity despite the increasing rar...Read more
The act of ripping clothes apart as they are being worn by a beautiful woman is a highly popular fetish because the identification of the garment with the body that wears it allows...Read more
There is nothing more essential to some fetishists than the sight of a young woman wearing ripped tights. This type of hosiery was intended as a functional replacement for traditio...Read more
The fetish for women dressed as schoolgirls is significant in Japan where a highly formal subculture has grown to cater to consumers of this imagery. Every country has its own vari...Read more
The secretary fetish is based on the imagined persona of of an individual, traditionally a woman, who represents the kind of professional submissive that we are all familiar with. ...Read more
There can be a surprising disconnect between raw, physical attraction and the deeper animal knowledge that can be found in the mix of pheromones that a new partner offers. It is qu...Read more
Smoking fetishists are aroused by the sight of someone enjoying a cigarette. Seen as a socially unacceptable habit, the eroticisation of the cigarette is a provocative act in whic...Read more
The fetish for seeing women with smudged make-up is a kink that relies upon the disruption of a widely accepted enhancement to female beauty. Cosmetics need to be thoughtfully con...Read more
Sock fetishism refers to those enthusiasts who are attracted to-and aroused by-the wearing of socks and their removal within sexualised scenarios.The kinky value of socks can incre...Read more
The act of consensual spanking consists of one partner striking the buttocks of another with a bare hand to cause temporary pain and erotic sensation. When an object is used instea...Read more
The fetish known as “Wet and messy” is also called “Sploshing”. This kink relates to the use of sticky drinks and gooey foodstuffs to cover and smear young women in a scena...Read more
In BDSM a bottom or submissive is the partner in a BDSM relationship or a BDSM scene who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role, to that of the top or the dominant.They ass...Read more
In Japan, Thigh Fetishism has inherited a specific term to describe it. A recent poll about the favourite “secret fetishes” of Japanese businessmen found that the most popular ...Read more
Although many people find being tickled themselves or tickling someone else to be a pleasurable experience-even a social one-tickling fetishists take it much further than that. The...Read more
Veil fetishists understand and enjoy the significance of veils and the women who wear them, the effect that this piece of material can have on them is phenomenal. By covering, disg...Read more
Vintage fetish is the erotic attraction to imagery, objects and lingerie / clothing from a different era. For the fetishist, the Victorian period is particularly rich in its collec...Read more
To be a voyeur is to have a sexual interest in observing others or to be actively involved in the erotic surveillance of them. The desire at work in voyeurism ( from the French voy...Read more
“wet and messy” fetish is all about seeing rebellious young women being smeared and splattered with gooey foodstuffs...Read more
The attraction to wet clothes as a fetish is based on the contradiction inherent in having a fully dressed woman either being drenched in water by someone else or, indeed, getting ...Read more
Discovery Kit from We-Vibe Review for Babeland
I must admit, I’m getting really into couple’s sex toys. This may seem like a strange statement from a professional sex toy tester. But the truth is, it has taken me lots of testing to get to this point. Whenever I got some human action, I used to prefer to keep my adult novelties in their respective boxes and enjoy some rare skin to skin action whenever I the opportunity arose. Then, I would use my silicone friends to remember my sexual encounters. And sometimes, to imagine the next ones. But now that I’m getting a lot more sex, I have discovered that sex toys are the perfect compliment for keeping the passion alive in a relationship. The Discovery Kit from We-Vibe contains ten erotic novelties for solo or couple use to mark ten years of We-Vibe. The kit also contains a Womanizer Starlet as a result of their recent fusion with Womanizer. Valentine’s Day is around the corner and if you want to indulge in some sexual and sensual discovery with your partner, this kit is ideal. The advantage of a gift like this is that it is something you can enjoy together. Moreover, it will inevitably bring you closer and it will certainly provide orgasmic experiences. The We-vibe Discovery Kit is ideal for those who have limited or no experience with sex toys. You can discover clitoral stimulation, G spot stimulation, dual stimulation, anal play, as well as sensual BDSM play. It is also ideal for those who […]
Online BDSM Dating
It seemed clear that only way to overcome this rejection was to try BDSM dating only and connect with someone based on sexual tastes instead. A place where there would be no moral judgement or unrealistic expectations. He did just that and he had to think of a kinky nickname that reflected his dominant desires. The irony was, that he actually had no experience apart from watching kinky videos and listening to my stories.
Sheets of San Francisco – Fluidproof Bed Sheets – Review
When I received these fluidproof sheets, I immediately thought about how it might enhance my massage/foreplay sessions. I’ve never once had to lie in a wet patch as I’m religious about the use of condoms. Religion and condoms don’t usually belong in the same sentence, of course, but I do like to get messy.
I even used to get a thrill from a bit of light ‘sploshing’. But, ever since I’ve turned vegan, the thought of animal products coming into contact with my naked skin is the very opposite of orgasmic. Vegan ‘sploshing’ could be a viable prospect one day, I hope. I must confess that it doesn’t feature prominently on my ‘bucket list’ of fantasies that I want to translate into reality, though.
Enter the MAZE – Vegan Leather by Bijoux Indiscrets
Can you be spiritual and kinky?
The MAZE collection from Bijoux indiscrets allows me to be just that.
“Exciting paths that unveil secret directions with one true end: finding your true self” the packaging reads.
This philosophy certainly conforms with my current spiritual journey. I’m surrendering to the universe and seeing where it chooses to take me. It will lead me, hopefully, into the arms of someone who is as blissed-out and kinky as I am.
Lea by Feelz Toys – A very Happy Bunny
I was in a terrible mood when I tried Lea by Feelz Toys for the first time. I had just been woken up in the early hours of the morning by my flatmate / frenemy who was making a great deal of unnecessary noise. It was clear that he didn’t give two hoots about whether I got enough sleep or not. His coughing, door slamming and stomping around made it clear that we are going through the equivalent of a platonic separation. Our situation is reminiscent of a film that I remember seeing. ‘The Breakup (2006)’ starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn tells the story of a couple trying to go their separate ways.
Review Zumio, a powerful clitoral stimulator – Venus O’Hara Sex Blogger
When I went to bed – I decided to test Zumio, a powerful clitoral stimulator that’s ideal for enjoying pinpoint pleasure. Naturally, I wondered what it would be like to share Zumio with another woman as I revisited my sapphic fantasies. I put Zumio to work on my hungry clitoris and closed my eyes. I imagined soft skin, expert caresses and – of course – the singular sensation of four breasts rubbing together.
Review Bijoux Indiscrets Magnifique Collection
I’m certainly not a natural born beachbum. But, when I received seven new Magnifique designs from Bijoux Indiscrets, I was instantly inspired to go to the beach and try them out. Even if you don’t live by the sea, a piece of the Magnifique collection won’t take up too much room in your suitcase if you go on holiday this summer. The response you get from putting it on display could be amazing.
The No Makeup Challenge – My Experience Going Naked
Beauty products do not make you beautiful. In actual fact, they do the opposite. In my opinion, they make you become reliant upon them. It is only when you wear them that you feel beautiful. This state of affairs can hardly be called empowering. I have worn makeup since I was thirteen years old. I suffered from the combination of pale skin and acne. I became obsessive about covering my face up. I used: foundation, concealer, powder, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, and lipgloss. I recall that I hated seeing my face without makeup on. I could barely look at myself in the mirror. I felt ugly.
Why Don’t You Just Get Married?
Why don’t you just get married? That is a question I have been asked on numerous occasions, even when I did not have a boyfriend. The traditional thing, of course, would be to find the boyfriend first and then think about getting married. But, those people who have asked me this question knew that I was single. What they really wanted to ask me is why I do not try myself a man with money, get married and be financially ‘sorted’ for the rest of my life.
My Vegan Fetish
For me, veganism is not just about healthy eating. It is a lifestyle. There is nothing I would love more than to meet a hot vegan guy. They are, however, few and far between and seemingly hard to track down. As a task, it resembles trying to source a good avocado in winter. I think culinary compatibility is incredibly important when choosing a viable partner. At this point, I don’t think I could imagine living with someone who wanted to have meat in the refrigerator, for example.
High Heel Fetish
I have always envied women who are able to walk easily and elegantly in high heels without falling over. Sadly, I do not have as much luck as they do. It is very difficult for me to find shoes that combine sex appeal with comfort. The few times that I have gone out wearing high heels have ended up the same way and bruises are something that are never thought of as sexy. Because of my clumsiness, I only wear heels for photo sessions and sex sessions.
Vegan Leather Fetish – Enter the MAZE by Bijoux indiscrets
The MAZE Collection – Vegan Leather
As soon as I saw the appropriately titled, MAZE collection from Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that I needed to find my own path into it. I did not care about forgetting the way I went in, taking a wrong turn or, indeed, solving the puzzle. I just felt the need to get lost in a confounding, and thrilling, realm of fetish fantasy.
Tantric Massage – My Experience
Even though I consider myself to have a liberal mentality, the thought of having a professional tantric massage never arose. Now that I’ve had one, however, I’m so glad I did. I was dying to feel someone’s hands on me. But, I wanted to feel them in a way that you just don’t experience during a conventional massage. You can’t get that sensation during sex either, not unless you have a partner who is really into long foreplay sessions. Even during post-coital embraces I wish the hair stroking and nape caresses would last much, much longer.
Bespoke Foot Fetish Videos
Bespoke Foot Fetish Videos. I have recently decided to create exclusive video content for my Members Area. Due to popular demand, I will be focusing on foot fetish and will be producing short videos featuring: Shoe Dangling. Pedicures. Soles. Wrinkled Soles. Tip-Toes. Arches. Bondage. Foot Massage. Hosiery. Tickling and much more!
Are Naked Selfies Liberating?
Some people believe that a selfie is only an expression of narcissism, but for me it can be much more than that. We live in a society obsessed with physical perfection and a culture that seems to be addicted to cosmetic surgery and PhotoShop. On the one hand, we are bombarded by advertising imagery on TV and in magazines that lie to us constantly and promote beauty ideals that are unachievable. On the other hand, when a media celebrity is ‘caught’ on the beach displaying a little cellulite, or carrying few extra kilos, they are ridiculed.
What’s Wrong with Hairy Armpits?
“It’s not a glamorous look”, “you’ve totally lost your sex appeal” or “how disgusting!” These are just some of the comments I received after publishing photos of my hairy armpits on social media. Of course, there were others that were more positive.
I have to say that the negative comments didn’t surprise me in the slightest. The merest glimpse of a hairy armpit on a woman usually causes this reaction. It was something that I used to find unpleasant too.
Fetishism without Photoshop
It can take a lot of hard work to create a photo. A professional photo-shoot requires the skills of the model, the photographer, stylists, hairdressers and make-up artists. Then, afterwards, it’s taken for granted that the expertise of the retouchers will be needed to add more layers. I direct myself during my own sessions and I’d prefer to avoid adding those extra layers if I can help it. My intention is to reflect reality instead.
Discovering Downblouse Fetish
Downblouse is a variety of sexual fetishism or voyeurism. It’s based on the opportunity, provided by some types of women’s clothing, for men to peer down and enjoy watching their breasts unobtrusively. It might take the form of making unauthorised digital photographs down the open top of a female’s dress, blouse or other garment. The value of ‘downblousing’ imagery is increased, from the collector’s perspective, when those pictures of breasts or cleavages are obtained thanks to random chance.
Shoe Dangling Fetish
Shoe dangling can appeal to shoe fetishists, foot fetishists or both at the same time. I do wonder if the thrill that shoe dangling fetishists experience when a woman dangles her high heel shoes is the same If her balancing ability isn’t up to scratch, and the shoe falls to the ground suddenly and unintentionally, is it a turn on? Perhaps it’s the anticipation of the shoe dropping, and not the event itself, that causes so much arousal?
Mad for MadRubb (Latex Fetish)
I love latex and not just as something to wear. I don’t just like it for its appearance but also for its aroma, the sounds it makes when you move in it and the subculture that surrounds it. When I’m at a fetish party and I have the opportunity to wear it in public, with other fetishists, I feel a unique excitement. It’s a sensation unmatched by any other, almost a latexstasy.
Exploring New Fetishes
Even though it was the same model, shot in the same setting by the same photographer, the end result was so different to anything we’d done before. Together we created a ‘voyeur’ set. Our intention was to capture the essence of many fetishes. They include:
Unaji (nape fetish), upskirt fetish, hosiery fetish, downblouse fetish, foot fetish, bra fetish and dangling heel fetish and more.
A Ticklee’s Perspective
What I needed to explore, and capture, was my own foot voyeurism potential; the ticklee’s fetish perspective. I wanted my foot fans to see what I see: when I’m lying on my back, when my ankles are tied, when I’m looking down at my toes and when a big pair of male hands have got to work on them. The photographer had no problem with handing his camera over for me to use. As he explained “Now, I’ve got both hands free, to tickle you
Even Hairier Armpits
It’s been almost three months since the last time I shaved my armpits or my legs. Three months. It’s come as a real surprise to me to discover that having a little more leg hair, and a lot more armpit hair, can be an enjoyable experience in some ways. I enjoy having hairy armpits from an aesthetic viewpoint. Trying to use my roll-on deodorant represents one of the downsides; it’s messy and the sensation isn’t pleasant.
Unboxing The New Erotic Accessories from Bijoux Indiscrets
When I saw the hip chains from the new collection by Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that they would be ideal for this type of erotic game. There is also something very alluring about being naked except for a chain (or two). Feeling something cold and metallic draped against your skin that moves against you with each step you take is incredibly arousing. It’s like ‘I’m dressed but naked’. The hip chains highlight the curve and form of your figure even more than being naked does.
Hairy Armpits Fetish
I haven’t welcomed the fact of my fine armpit hairs ever since the first time they appeared. It’s no surprise then that I began to shave them off immediately and didn’t stop. I’m lucky in some ways because I’ve never produced that much body hair in general. That means, if I don’t get around to shaving my armpits for a couple of days, I’m not going to turn into a gorilla. Another benefit of not having to shave all that often is the avoidance of unnecessary, and distracting, skin irritation after the fact.
Foot Fetish Calendar 2016
Venus O’Hara’s official foot fetish calendar 2016. It’s that time of year again. When it was ready to put my 2016 calendar together, I knew that I wanted to produce something different from last years gallery of themed selfies. But this year, I’ve decided to produce foot fetish calendar. The more I thought about my feet on other peoples’ walls, the more innovative it seemed.
The Dangers of Cybersex
When it comes to sex in the real world, there are always condoms. But, how can we protect ourselves during a cybersex session? It’s quite true that cybersex doesn’t expose you to the risk of sexually transmitted infections, but there are specific dangers inherent. The most obvious one is that our ‘private’ chat is nothing of the kind.
Are you a tickler or a ticklee? (Tickle Fetish)
In tickle fetish scenarios, a tickler is a person who performs the tickling whereas a ticklee is the person who is being tickled. Despite my usual dominant nature, I beg to differ when it comes to being part of a tickling tryst. Under those circumstances I much prefer to be the ticklee instead of the tickler.
The Best Tickle Fetish Toys
In some BDSM kits, the feather ticklers that are included aren’t fit for purpose; they supply a bit of relaxing fun for someone who’s on the receiving end but that’s all. If you want to tickle someone properly then a different kind of equipment is worth considering. Real enthusiasts of tickling do without mundane feathers or little pieces of coloured fluff. They know precisely which tickle fetish toys will yield the desired results. In fact, Mother Nature has amply provided us with a wonderful variety of organic options.
The Appeal of Wrinkled Soles (Foot Fetish)
For most people wrinkles are an inevitable, if highly unwelcome, fact of getting older. Our increasingly image-conscious society is governed by the impossibly youthful standards set by popular culture. When it comes to foot fetish, it’s a different story. Some enthusiasts get off on wrinkled soles. As a result of the correct application of expert tickling, the foot can tense up.Toe-curling can follow and the soft sole can ripple prettily as a consequence.
Confessions from My First Professional Pedicure
It was a warm and sticky Saturday afternoon and I began realise that I might’ve made a mistake by not booking a professional pedicure sooner. The reason that my anxiety began to grow was that I had a foot fetish photoshoot arranged for the following day and it was going to focus on my feet. I knew that they’d need to be in peak condition.
Putting hosiery on properly requires delicacy and patience. Special care must always be taken with the thin material to avoid it ripping open accidently. There are things you can do to limit the possibility of damage, of course. Sometimes, no matter how careful you are, those precautions let you down. Getting a ladder in your tights is never less than frustrating
The Day I Masturbated for Science
“If you ever get a chance to test my orgasm under laboratory conditions, let me know” I told the scientist Pere Estupinyà when I first met him. I had just watched a TV documentary about sex in which a research team had observed and documented the physiological changes that occured to a couple when they had sexual intercourse. It fed my curiosity about my own responses during climax.
Fulfilling My Foot Fetish Model Responsibilities
Being a foot fetish model is not just about pointing my toes, curving my arches and flaunting my soles. I’ve discovered that it means much more than that. As time goes on, my responsibilities towards my foot fetish fans only seem to increase. Foot fetishists have needs and they are very articulate when they want to express them. Some of them even make specific requests when it comes to provocative foot imagery that I could explore.
The Art of Playing Footsie (Foot Fetish)
Playing footsie is an ideal way to spice up a romantic dinner for two. It is even better when it is used as a distraction from yet another boring lunch with the in-laws. Footsie is defined as the action of touching another person’s feet, lightly, with your own.
Searching for a Sole-Mate
My soles hare the most sensitive part of my feet by far. They also represent the area that receives the most attention from my foot fans. If I were to accept each and every one of their offers to lick and suck my soles I know for certain that when I tried to stand up, the volume of saliva would send me sliding across the floor.
The Thrill of Going Barefoot (Foot Fetish)
I remember loving that barefoot feeling when I was young, especially when I went out into the garden in the early morning. As I placed my naked feet on the cold grass, when it was still wet with dew, the delicate skin on my soles and inbetween my toes never failed to respond.
My Foreign Fetish (Xenophilia)
I would definitely consider myself to be a xenophile. My love for foreign things began at a young age when I became obsessed with everything that was French. Later, I lived and studied in Paris as an important part of my universtity degree. My xenophilia became even greater.
Discovering The Fourth Hole (Foot Fetish)
Discovering The Fourth Hole (Foot Fetish) Recently, after enjoying a pedicure and the pampering that goes with it, I wanted to celebrate. I realised that there was really only one way to do it properly. If I really wanted to showcase my freshly-painted toenails and my new softer soles then discovering the power of my fourth hole was the best way. I cannot deny that I had an ulterior motive; those lubricants I needed to test, and review, had been waiting long enough. When you are a sex toy tester, it becomes inevitable that you will end up mixing business with pleasure or vice versa. Fortunately, I had a more than willing accomplice. Later, I laid down on my bed face up and I ordered him to remain standing at the foot so I could see him. “Strip” I ordered and he complied. I extended my long legs and pointed my toes at his vulnerable thighs. I ignored his genitalia completely and he became a little frustrated, trying to grab my teasing ankles. “Wait” I warned him and I resumed my intention of working him up in my own good time. I pressed my big toes into the tops of his legs and drew invisible designs on his thighs and then, going upwards, up and down his abdomen. My talented toes begin to close in on his ever more impressive stiffness. Then, I broke contact and edged backwards a little, bringing my feet together as he stared at them. I […]
The Female Sexual Consumer
There’s no doubt that women are spending a great deal more of their disposable income on sexual products of different kinds. The last decade has seen a rapid rise in the number of high-end erotic boutiques aimed at the female sexual consumer and couples. In their smooth design, attractive displays and simple cleanliness they put the old seedy male-orientated sex shops to shame. Women are spoilt for choice when it comes to sex toys. In fact, there’s so much variety on offer that erotic shopping can even be confusing for sex toy virgins. More recently, the Fifty Shades of Grey literary phenomenon has contributed to the increase of female sexual consumerism. Despite these advances, when it comes to actual ‘hands on’ sexual consumerism among women, then there’s no denying that men have a lot more variety and possibilities than we do. After all, the oldest profession was a service for men. Female sexual freedom is still a quite recent concept, but with increased demand, surely a better variety and range of offerings is just around the corner. There is still the widely held belief that women don’t need to pay for sex and that even if they did, it doesn’t seem to be as socially acceptable. However, in Australia where prostitution is legal, websites like Escorts & Babes, make the whole process a lot easier for women and men. There are many reasons why someone would pay for sex. One of them could be the need to live out a […]
Summertime Sadness for Hosiery Fetishists
The warm weather has arrived, finally. I can appreciate the increased exposure of firm cleavages and long bare legs to greedy eyes on the street. While many pedestrians are thrilled about seeing more naked skin as they walk around, I cannot help but feel a little sad at the spectacle. As a devoted hosiery fetishist, the rising temperatures can only mean that my passion for wearing sheer seamed stockings, fishnet stockings and suspender belts will have to be put on hold again until autumn returns. I just adore going out dressed in extravagant lingerie. I enjoy wearing a short skirt over the top of stockings and suspenders especially. The feeling of my naked thighs stroking against each other with every single step of my high heels arouses me more than I can explain. It can be a real challenge to wear stockings and suspenders properly. It requires time, precision and no small amount of effort to get them looking just right. If they’re seamed stockings it’s even more complicated but its always worth it. That means ensuring that the seams are perfectly straight and that the stocking tops are at the identical height at the top of both thighs. Then it is essential to attach the clasps of the suspender straps with perfect symmetry. You can’t achieve this yourself without a full-length mirror. Alternatively, having the painstaking hands of an attentive sub simplifies the process completely. Recently, I discovered the solution to the problem of stockings and suspenders for lazy […]
Ode to the Original Mr Grey
Ode to the Original Mr Grey I’ve always believed that the success of the Fifty Shades of Grey books can be attributed to the character of Christian Grey. For me the the appeal of the trilogy is less about the BDSM and more about the rehearsal of an established female fantasy: a fabulously wealthy, enigmatic older man finding redemption from his past misdemeanours by falling in love with a much younger, poorer and virginal girl. In other words, Fifty Shades of Grey is like a Mills & Boon romance novel with butt-plugs and bondage tape. Anastasia Steel is the lucky girl that women across the world love to identify with. We all desire attention and the arousing prospect of a ripped billionaire choosing us above all others to lavish his attentions and perversions upon was guaranteed to get us wet. Even though he seemed like a stalker sometimes. My personal investment in the allure of Mr Grey fell sharply when Jamie Dornan was cast to play him in the film adaptation of the first book in the trilogy. Although Mr Dornan is a talented actor, serious eye-candy and seems shy in interviews there is a problem. The lack of sexual chemistry between himself and Dakota Johnson, playing Anastasia, killed the fantasy on film for me. Christian will never be my idolised Mr Grey. There is another Mr Grey who makes my pulse race. I’m referring to E. Edward Grey, the protagonist, from the film Secretary as played by the wonderful […]
My Feet Demand Attention
My last foot fetish photo session with MrTickleBCN happened over four years ago now. Back then, my understanding of foot worship, tickle fetish and the specific needs of foot fetishists was not as advanced as it is now. Many things have changed for me since then, especially where my feet are concerned. Indeed, it would be fair to say that my awareness of the real erotic value that was inherent in my heels, ankles, arches, soles and toes has come on in leaps and bounds. It’s strange to think about that session now. Back then, I wore stockings because I was ashamed of my feet; I didn’t think of them as being attractive at all. Something wonderful and strange has occurred in the last twelve months. Every so often I posted selfies of my feet on social media to see just what effect they might have. It didn’t take long for my feet to develop a fanbase of appreciative foot fetishists who thought nothing of extolling the virtues of them at length. It is thanks to these aficionados that I have finally begun to love my feet and get turned on by the idea of a foot worship session. My feet demanded the attention of true foot fetishist. So, it seemed necessary and appropriate to get back in touch with MrTickleBCN on the pretext of a photoshoot. Professional pictures of him getting to work on my feet would be really valuable for online consumption by my foot fetishists as well. It wasn’t absolutely […]
Stripping Down to my Naked Face – No Make-Up Selfies
Although I don’t own a TV myself, I still watch a fair amount of trash on YouTube after a long day’s work. One programme that I enjoy in particular is ‘Britain and Ireland’s Next Top Model’. I love discovering their modelling tips and tricks, because posing in front of a camera has been a huge part of my life for the last ten years. Each week, the programme features different themed photoshoots; the least successful model gets sent home. At the beginning of the competition, there is an obligatory ‘no make-up photo shoot’. For the models, the reality of having to scrub their faces clean is always traumatic, to the point where many of them end up in tears. For them, make-up is their armour and they feel naked and vulnerable without it. Interestingly, taking their make-up off made them feel more exposed than actually taking their clothes off. I find the whole thing amusing. However, I must admit that there was a time when I would have empathised completely with their fear of going barefaced. I started wearing make-up at my Catholic high school. Although the nuns were strict, fortunately they never made me wash it off. Thanks be to God. Back then, I was obsessed with covering my face as much as possible. I absolutely hated my translucent white skin with its freckles, and especially when it became red during PE lessons. I used as much base as possible to hide my complexion: foundation, concealer and powder. I […]
An Afternoon of Foot Worship
‘Sit down and close your eyes’, he says, pointing to a black leather sofa. I obey, a little surprised that he wants to get down to business as soon as I arrive at his office. He covers my eyes with a blindfold and I sigh. Suddenly I feel a lot more relaxed, because from this point onwards, I know that I won’t have to do or think about anything; I can just lie down and enjoy some superior quality foot worship. He unties the laces of my red Converse and takes them off with great care. I notice the cold temperature of the tiled floor through the thin fabric of my white socks. Then, he grabs my ankle and raises it before resting it on his shoulder. I sigh again and throw my head back, relaxing even more. He grabs my other ankle, but instead of putting it on his other shoulder, he holds it firmly, making me feel like his prey and I start to notice my arousal. Photos by Lourdes Ribas Moments later, he releases me and begins to peel my sock off very slowly, as if he were undressing me. My socks suddenly seem to have the same significance as a pair of panties. I can feel the cold air against my skin and then a breath of hot air from his mouth that takes me by complete surprise. I feel his warm wet kisses on my skin as each new piece of it is exposed. As soon as […]
The Empress’ New Latex Catsuit – A Fetish Fairy Tale by Venus O’Hara
Photo by Lourdes Ribas Once upon a time in a far away fetish kingdom there lived an incredibly vain Empress who was obsessed with alternative fashion, particularly latex. She loved everything about it: the way it clung to her curves, its distinctive smell and even the diver-esque sounds it produced every time she moved. In fact, she adored it so much that she spent all the kingdom’s taxes on getting bespoke outfits made for herself. She had a different one for every hour of the day. Often when people asked for her, her slaves would say “The Empress is in her boudoir getting dressed”. She couldn’t give two hoots about keeping her people in line, the dwindling economy or international diplomacy. All she cared about was public appearances, lavish banquets and any other opportunity to flaunt her new clothes in public. The Empress lived in a palace with her many slaves and Trumpy, her beloved poodle who never left her side. However only her two most trusted slaves, Summers and Winters, had permanent access to her private chambers. They had both been serving her throughout her entire reign. In spite of the fact that they had very much in common, they actually couldn’t stand each other and they were in constant competition for the Empress’ attention. One was always trying to outdo the other with extravagant acts of worship. The Empress found their rivalry amusing and only used it to her advantage and as a result, she had become increasingly more […]
Venus O’Hara’s Official Calendar 2015
Most official calendars require a lot of preparation and although mine was no different (I stayed up until 6am to finish it), there was no stylist, make-up artist, hairdresser and most importantly, no post production. We live in an era of fake imagery from operated bodies that are later photoshopped to oblivion, but I think that perfection is anti-fetish, simply because it isn’t real. I’ve been producing my own official calendars since 2010 and I was looking for a theme for 2015 and after some hesitation it became obvious that it just had to be another calendar of selfies, seeing as I have taken almost ten thousand selfies this year so far. If you follow me on Twitter you will know that I publish an erotic selfie every morning, but to get that one single image, it often takes time and I inevitably end up with lots of outtakes. So I’ve decided to put some of those unpublished images to good use and include them in my calendar with my most popular hashtags on social media. Although I never photoshop my images, I often use some sort of filter, however, for this calendar I’ve decided to go completely natural. I hope you like it! [optin-monster-shortcode id=”upn4k7ncnf-post”] #NoMakeUpSelfie They say that the beginning of a new year gives us the opportunity to make a fresh start. #SexToyTester As part of the review process that I go through after I’ve received a new box of sex toys to test, I never forget […]
CFNM vs CMNF (Femdom)
When I came across the acronym CFNM on Twitter recently associated with Femdom (Female Domination), I was instantly curious to find out what it meant. I was surprised to learn that in actual fact, the philosophy behind CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) was not news to me at all. As it turns out, I have been practising my own variant of it for years but I have to acknowledge that when I am faced with a choice between CFNM, and its flip side CMNF (Clothed Male Naked Female) I will invariably choose the latter option. One of my favourite things about the nature of fetishism is that almost any kink has a name. To determine one fetish from another, however, the correct designation becomes necessary. My understanding of CFNM “Clothed Female/Naked Male” is based on my interest and practice of FemDom or Female Domination. The fetishistic value of a CFNM scenario lies in the asymmetrical power relationship of its participants to the way in which they are dressed. A fully dressed woman, or group of women, can be placed in direct fetishistic contrast to a naked man, or group of men. Nakedness often compels vulnerability, reticence and shame when the other member, or members of a scene are dressed and have the dominant role. A CFNM scenario can explore sexual or non-sexual practices, male submission fantasies and/or elements of male display, performance or exhibitionism. Female domination becomes a natural extension of these forms of gender identity roleplaying. In contrast, CMNF […]
The Benefits of Bondage Tape
I love playing bondage games and I take great pleasure from the care and attention that has to be put into perfecting some of its more elaborate forms. Something like shibari, with all of its meticulous attention to detail, can be spectacular in its aesthetics and deliciously restrictive in its function. It takes a lot of preparation and demands a lot of skill and plenty of time to execute it properly and make it authentic. Bondage tape is an easy alternative if I am feeling a little lazy or if I want a sense of surprise and spontaneity. It’s cheap to buy, quick to apply and avoids the feeling of claustrophobia that heavy, unyielding rope can cause. Bondage tape is also incredibly versatile and it can adapt to almost any variation of tying, strapping or wrapping that you can think of. Bondage tape, because of a deceptively weak appearance when it is tugged free of its cardboard reel, can fool you into imagining that it is a slightly vanilla option. It’s comical variety of bright colours and a resemblance to thin latex certainly gives that impression. The real value of bondage tape can be felt, quite literally, when layers of it begin to criss-cross your breasts and are used to secure your wrists and ankles together like metal cuffs. Finally, when the bondage tape is peeled away, the feeling it leaves on the skin is very similar to latex and so is the clammy sensation. If you want to exploit […]
Seductive Soles (Foot Fetish)
Photos: Lourdes Ribas I’m still discovering the world of foot fetishism and I’m doing my best to cater to my foot fetish fans by taking pictures that I hope they will like. It’s quite hard to please all of them though. The thing I’m finding is that there is no such thing as a typical foot fetishist. If I take pictures of my feet with painted nails then, sure enough, I receive requests for unpainted ones shortly after. It’s impossible to keep all the foot fetishists happy all of the time, it seems. I decided to shoot a foot fetish set that would appeal to fans of the soles of my feet in particular. It seemed such a straightforward task at first. The fact that I could recline on a comfortable sofa, with my legs raised, just to flaunt my soles was the main thing that appealed. It turned out to be far more challenging than it looks in the pictures. Sometimes, it takes a lot of hard work to give the impression of being lazy. I hadn’t anticipated the preparation that the photo-shoot required and it came as a surprise. I had to take the time to use an expensive scrub and moisturiser to guarantee the condition and appearance of my feet. Foot fetishists will appreciate that I had to insist on a careful pedicure as well. I made the mistake of getting up from the sofa and walking a few steps on the parquet floor. Suddenly, the soles of […]
Naked with Heels
Photo: Lourdes Ribas I went on a date recently with a potential sub. I was really looking forward to it until he begged me on Whatsapp to wear a skirt with stockings, suspenders and high heels for our first meeting. He seemed far too demanding for my liking and naturally I began to wonder what kind of sub he actually was. Even so, I thought I’d give him a second chance to impress me and instead of cancelling our date, I thought it would be a good idea to wear the opposite. When I turned up in jeans and flat sandals, I could tell he was disappointed. “I only wear heels for photos and sex,” I informed him later on that evening as I sipped a cold caipirinha. By then I had already decided that I wouldn’t be doing either with him, so why bother wearing heels? There’s nothing like slipping on a pair of high heels to feel sexy, it’s true. Nevertheless, heels can be a problem during sex, so I have discovered. As my height is 1.70m, (or 1.69m to be absolutely precise) I often tower over my Spanish lovers and that just isn’t sexy at all. Although I like to be in charge, I still like to feel dainty against a strong masculine body. Wearing heels for photos, however, is a must. Even if you can’t see them in the photo, they instantly enhance the figure and not just the legs: heels are essential for getting that […]
The Occupational Hazards of Being a Sex Toy Tester
Whenever my sex toy testing job arises in conversation, I have to underline the simple fact that it’s not just about orgasms. There are occupational hazards associated with any job and those have to be anticipated, and managed, if and when they might occur. Following a profession based on the pursuit of high-quality climaxes is no different. I have discovered, quite recently in fact, that there can be a certain degree of collateral damage associated with being a sex toy tester. What makes an effective sex toy is the quality, and focus, of the vibrations supplied by its motor. That, unsurprisingly in retrospect, is also the problem. I have always been concerned about Repetitive Strain Injury. These long-term afflictions are usually associated with office work and manual labour. Unfortunately, as a writer and reviewer of sex toys, I am doubly at risk. I have a variety of buzzing, vibrating, devices, held tightly in my right hand, on a daily basis. It comes as no surprise then, if there are repercussions to all my hard work, both good (sometimes very good) and bad. Now, I have a small ganglion cyst on my right wrist. Although there are several things that can contribute to their development there is one, in particular, that stood out when I did my research: “Other possible mechanisms for the development of ganglion cysts include repeated mechanical stress”. The fact remains, however, that I love my job as sex toy tester and if I have to suffer a […]
I have been thinking about doing a Sploshing photo-shoot for a long time, at least a couple of years in fact. The “Wet and Messy” fetish has fascinated me for all of that time but I have never quite got around to exploring it properly. The thing is, Sploshing appeals to me more during the summer months. That is because having cold, sweet liquids and slimy edible goop dripped onto me, or thrown over me, seems like a more tolerable prospect when it is warmer. Nevertheless, two summers have gone by and nothing much happened. This summer is going to be very different. This week it was time to take decisive Sploshing action and, as luck would have it, the opportunity to have an obliging photographer on hand, to record the event, arose quite unexpectedly. What type of slime, gunk or slop would be available and appropriate for the session? I did not plan out the Sploshing session nor did I prepare a selection of sugary, gooey desserts in anticipation of it as I should have done. All I did was haul the refridgerator door open and hope that there might be something suitably cold, sticky and wet, waiting inside. Fortunately, I found a large tub of yoghurt (vegan of course) that I could mix with water and put to good Sploshing use. I imagined how it would feel as it trickled down my feet. No matter how prepared you think you are for being smeared, the sudden sensation of the […]
Bondage for Lazy Lovers
Sex isn’t always mind-blowing, and if you only like explosive sex with people that you’re really attracted to, then as a singleton, you can either wait until you find someone who really inspires you (although you might be waiting a long time) or you can masturbate excessively. It can be very frustrating. This is when resorting to a “second class shag” can become tempting. It’s never a good idea to go down to third or forth division…, one has to have some standards! By “second class” I mean someone you like, but perhaps that particular person doesn’t make you go weak at the knees, no matter how drunk you are. For me, the desire for real sex isn’t necessarily synonymous with the desire to explore another body, (I reserve that for my first class encounters). Perhaps I just want to be selfish and it’s in these second division shag situations that I’ve found that bondage is the perfect solution for lazy lovers, as my passive state is justified all of a sudden. Thanks to a couple of knots, it can suddenly seem like a first class shag. Photos by Lourdes Ribas For more Foot Fetish and Bondage photos form this session, see the full set (32 photos) in theMEMBER’S AREA Members | Billing Support
There is a primitive thrill associated with properly applied ankle restraint. The heady eroticism that is experienced through it can often be combined with an instinctive response that can only be described as animal in nature. Ankle restraint does not have to be part of a bondage game to reveal its sexual potential. Having doggy-style sex is extremely horny on its own terms but if my lover takes the opportunity to grab my ankle, when I am powerless to resist, our excitement can be multiplied. I am not only immobilised but I am suddenly turned into a submissive creature at the mercy of my lover’s whims and capriciousness. It doesn’t get much better. Even the sensation of wearing something around the ankles is arousing; I am thinking about a particular pair of sandals, that I bought recently, that have a slightly abrasive ankle-strap. I make sure that the strap is always a little too tight when I am out walking. That subtle pressure on my ankles makes me feel more secure, more aware of that special part of my foot. No one walking past me would ever know that my feet feel “strapped-in”. They would only see me smiling if they had the time to notice anything at all. On the other hand, a fetishist would spot a clever little ankle detail on a pair of high-heels, or boots, before anything else. When bondage is applied to my ankles, the result can leave me feeling like a mermaid. Although handcuffs can […]
Fifty Shades of Grey: You’ve read the book, seen the trailer, now what?
Fifty Shades of Grey is trending again and it feels as though it never went away. The truth is, it’s always there now, in the back of our aroused minds. It is, in no small part, the responsibility of its author, E.L. James that 2012 will be remembered as a watershed for erotic literature and the portrayal of BDSM as a viable and peculiarly effective ingredient of modern sexuality. Now, we have seen the first trailer to the forthcoming Fifty Shades of Grey film. Everyone seems to be watching it, talking about it or avoiding it in case it does not live up to their private visualisation of the two main characters involved. Nevertheless, everyone will have to wait until Valentine’s Day 2015 to see it… If the length of the wait seems like a special type of torture then do not get overly concerned. Fifty Shades of Grey is all about BDSM. The punishing delay until fans of the books can see the film seems quite appropriate when you look at it from that perspective. If you need to keep yourself and your own personal Mr Grey distracted and entertained while you are both waiting patiently, then I can think of no better way than to take full advantage of the official Fifty Shades of Grey sex toy collection. The amazing variety of products it comprises will guarantee that neither of you will ever get bored. The collection includes toys such as vibrators, ben wah balls, G spot vibrator, […]
Foot Fetish – Learning to love my feet
I’ve never really liked my feet very much. My opinion has had to change recently, however, and I have some pursuasive foot fetishists to thank for it. To my eyes, looking down at them, the appearance of my feet just reminds me of how uncomfortable they can be when the weather is hot. They always feel sweaty. The warmer it is, the more embarrassing it becomes when they turn a pink colour. This is especially true when the rest of my skin retains its unusual whiteness. My feet have always seemed too wide in comparison to my skinny ankles as well. To be honest, the idea that the appearance and shape pf my feet could ever be provocative, or even highly arousing, to dedicated foot fetishists has always seemed quite ridiculous. That’s the wonderful thing about fetishism of any sort. It thrives, in all its diverse forms, in a place that should be entirely separate from the mainstream for it to retain its authentic flavour. It seems that you don’t need the “perfect” foot to appeal to a fetishist. They can be turned on by the specific details or unique attributes of a certain foot and not just the foot itself. Some fetishists like the ritual of having toenails painted, others prefer those nails to be left natural. Some specialise in the anatomy of a foot. It could be the turn of an ankle, the asymmetry of the toes, the angle of the arch or the plumpness of the sole […]
I was pleased to discover recently that I was the proud owner of four hundred pairs of panties even though I prefer to “Go Commando” whenever the opportunity arises. The origin of the term “Going Commando” is disputed but what isn’t open to question is its meaning and that is getting dressed but leaving your panties behind. I must confess that, for me, there is nothing quite like the sensation of a cool breeze caressing my nakedness and reminding me of my pantiless condition. Each cool stroke is surprising, invigorating and arousing. Letting my lady parts breathe is not just a way to stay stimulated and sensitised either. There is a body of opinion that believes going commando to be a healthier and more natural state of affairs below the waistband. I am not convinced that this is always the case when wearing full-length jeans or trousers because the circulation of air is somewhat restricted and a humid, subtropical, environment might be encouraged. Even under the most ideal of conditions, going commando is not a habit that is entirely free of risk. This is especially true during warm weather when silly, flimsy, skirts are being worn.There is always the threat of a “Seven Year Itch” moment when an awkward up-draft or unexpectedly strong breeze could encourage your skirt to blow upwards before you have an opportunity to press it back down over your obvious nakedness. Someone who is easily shocked, or apt to be turned on, would be left in […]
My Best Belfies
The first time I heard the word “belfie” I wasn’t sure exactly what it meant. I’m only too aware of the phenomenal rise of the “selfie” or self-portrait taken with a smartphone or other mobile device. When I saw the first “belfie” posted on social media, however, its meaning became clear at once. A “belfie” is a selfie whose centre of attention is the subject’s butt, bottom, bum or behind. Some rump-related synonym that begins with the letter “B”. I love taking my very own belfies for my daily “good morning” photo on Twitter, for a couple of very good reasons. The obvious advantage of taking belfies is that I don’t have to worry about my hair or other features, it’s all about the butt and it doesn’t take long to get a presentable belfie. A little effort can go a long way. To see some of my best belfies, see the rest of this set in the MEMBER’S AREA Members | Billing Support
As a model, I’d become used to the process of posing for a photographer, having a great many shots taken of me and then waiting for those images to be taken away on a portable drive and sorted through by someone else. When I could see them finally, so a final selection could be made, a week or a fortnight had gone by. There’s something liberating about taking nude selfies of myself instead. I can have complete control over the creative process, setting and time. I can see the images at my leisure and, if I didn’t quite get what I wanted, I can take a few minutes out and repeat the process without taking too much time. Once, I had hundreds of pictures taken just to get a handful of ones that I approved of. Now, knowing exactly what I want, the same result can be arrived at with hardly any effort at all. With the sophistication of smartphone technology these days, and the increasingly high-quality of the cameras they contain, it is possible for anyone to be a glamour model. An arousing shot of a provocative pose can be captured in an instant and sent to lovers on whatsapp. A sexy selfie can be posted on Twitter just as quickly. When I strip and pose to shoot my “Good Morning” pictures I know that just after, I’ll be putting my hoodie back on again. After posting that days image I wait for the first comments to come in. […]
My Condom Fetish
Condoms turn me on, they really do. Can it be that I’m the only one who thinks this way? For some men, the moment when they have to pause their amorous enthusiasm can be awkward. It might not surprise you when I admit that I relish that very same moment. I like to take the initiative and establish my complete control over him. Suddenly, the man relaxes and watches me as I take every care to make sure the condom is fitted on him properly. I don’t tolerate the usual wealth of excuses that men deploy to avoid using condoms. Those tired justifications have been superceded by advances in latex technology which promote sensitivity, a greater appreciation of sexual health issues which place an equal amount of responsibility on both partners to protect against STIs and just plain commonsense when it comes to avoiding unplanned pregnancy. Condoms are sexy because I can put my rational concerns to one side and really let myself go. I have a brand preference, of course. Doesn’t everybody? In my case I will always favour Durex Avanti. I know that you have to pay a little more but, in my opinion, they are worth every penny. They are made out of polyurethane instead of the traditional latex. Not only are they more resilient and have the added advantage of being thinner than other brands but they also transmit a greater percentage of body heat. With all these added extras, is it any surprise that I […]
A Scandalous Life
Some people seem to think that my life must be scandalous. This might be because I write articles about sex. It could be something to do with my habit of being wired-up, from time to time, as a test-subject for scientific sex experiments. It might be because I appeared nude on the cover of Interviu magazine, or even as a result of my side-career testing sex toys for money. I do not believe that anything related to these exploits is truly scandalous however. In my opinion, aspects of my previous, conventional, jobs exposed me to far more scandal than anything I could ever be responsible for. The thing I found the most scandalous about my past jobs was being expected to lie while I was in contact with a customer or a client. I never did, of course. Even if my manager told me to. I was always on the side of the buyer. If I had made promises to a customer then I was going to make sure that we, as a company, fulfilled those promises. Sometimes this meant whipping my colleagues into shape so they did their job. When I worked in luxury real estate, the scandal was even worse. The whole business was based on lies. The property descriptions, the photographs, the prices, the offers… all of it was exaggerated or made up. The worst thing of all was when a client made an offer and there was no counter-bid. In that case, I was expected to […]
I could never truly appreciate how much physical effort a man puts in to having sex until I had experienced strap-on sex. I wonder if this is the reason why few women are really committed to having strap-on sex. There is another explanation for this. A woman who has to wear a harness, just so that she can use a dildo on another woman, might not enjoy playing such a traditionally masculine role in bed. I have to admit that I prefer to be on the receiving end in strap-on sex. This is especially true when I imagine a female lover who can offer me a penis that is permanently hard as well as a pair of breasts simultaneously. That is the fantasy scenario that attracts me. The reality of strap-on sex can be a little different. It is still a challenge to find a good quality harness matched up to a suitable dildo. Harnesses can be difficult to put on and to wear for any length of time without rubbing against the skin. I also find that unsecured dildos slide around too much and are far too large for any sustained use. From a practical point of view, the shaft is also positioned a lot higher than it would be with a real man. Anyway, if I have to walk around a room with a long length of stiff silicon bouncing up and down between my legs I can not be blamed if I start laughing about it. If […]
Cyberslave: My New Short Film
Cyberslave is a short film that tells the story of a struggling dominatrix and her relationship with Slave X. It explores the dynamics of a D/s relationship, Financial Domination, virtual relationships, during the current economic crisis.. …. But who is the slave? This is the first time I have taken to scriptwriting, I hope you enjoy it! I have always questioned the power dynamics in a D/s relationship when there is money involved. I’ve always believed that the person who pays is the one in charge. Especially if the money is used for everyday living costs, and therefore the dominatrix relies on her slaves’ contributions to live. This calls into question who really has the power. In Cyberslave I wanted to explore the how a financial domme tries to maintain control of her slave and herself, despite her total lack of control over her own situation. Written by and Starring Venus O’Hara Directed by Antón González and Vicente González Make-up and Art Direction: Mariam Elazzouzi Produced by La Isla
The Power of Orgasm Denial
Orgasm denial is the best way to deal with rebellious slaves. If a dominant is clever then there are wonderful ways to make someone suffer without physical pain ever being needed. O.D. is still the most satisfying option available to me. I went to Ikea one afternoon to have a look around and investigate the latest range of headboards. I never know when I’m going to need a really strong one so its best to do some research. I walked around the bedding area and felt a little bored to tell the truth. The typical crowds you find in that place were beginning to irritate me with their docile browsing. On a whim, I decided that it was time to end my slave’s period of Orgasm Denial in spectacular fashion right then and there. He had been placed on it for six days and was really starting to suffer. It was great. I sent him an SMS with the codeword “Now”. He understood the rules perfectly. No matter where he was, no matter what he was doing, he had to masturbate immediately. I stood aside from the crowd and, almost at once, he called me back. I heard his belt buckle hit the floor closely followed by his trousers and underwear. He carried lube around with him just in case. I heard the slaps and squelches as he got to work on himself. As I smiled to the husbands and wives as they shuffled past me I listened to the […]
A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM
Introducing a little BDSM into your relationship can be a really great way to intensify things, learn your limits and become closer to your partner, but it can also be really intimidating–especially if you’ve never dabbled in it before. Perhaps you’ve been kicking around this site for awhile or you just stumbled here after wondering what BDSM was really like, either way, you’re not alone if you’re worried. Beginning a BDSM adventure can be exciting, but it’s going to take communication, honesty, and an open mind. Use this as your beginners guide and then continue to physically and intellectually explore your options. Communication Communication is key to having a successful and pleasurable BDSM relationship. You can’t dive in without discussing the semantics, rules, limits, and safe words. Make sure your partner has a full understanding of what BDSM will entail, what the different roles (dom/sub) mean and who will be who. It won’t work if you both want to be the sub or vice versa. You will also need to discuss what your limits will be. Are you okay with anal play? Paddling? What level of pain or loss of control are you willing to go to? You want to make sure you are both on the same page. It’s fun to push limits, but you don’t want to push them so far that it becomes scary or someone gets hurt. The best way to ensure no one gets hurt is to set up a safe word that you can […]
My Mismatched Underwear Fetish
I love mismatched underwear. After adding 15 new pairs of panties, and 8 new bras, to my collection, I had to sort out everything I had. All of the recent additions were Christmas and New Year presents from my fans. It was while I was putting them into piles of similar designs and styles that I had an idea. That was a few weeks ago now and that’s also how long I’ve been posting a daily picture of myself, simultaneously, on Instagram, Tumblr, Twitter and Flickr. I’ve been blogging my mismatched underwear choice of the day, everyday. It is my promise to myself that I’ll never knowingly wear the same pair of panties in two pictures during 2013. Depending on the day, I can choose underwear that looks sultry or geeky, innocent or sensual. I have many pairs to choose from. A long time ago I came to the conclusion that I can never have enough panties. They are my obsession and my favourite kind of collection because they are pretty and practical. It takes me longer to get dressed now but it is so worth it and I wonder just what everyone thinks of my selection for the day. Even I haven’t got 365 different pairs so I’m offering my fans the chance to contribute to the cause. If you want to see me in a specific pair of panties then you only have to buy them for me and I’ll be more than happy to oblige. I would […]
It was just recently that a good friend made an observation about my fetish for blindfolds. “It seems as though the main reason you wear blindfolds is so that you don’t have to see the men that you sleep with” She said. I agreed that sometimes it was true, but that it wasn’t always that simple. Since that night, I’ve been thinking about blindfolds a lot. When my eyes disappear behind one, it isn’t just my ability to see that’s affected. With my eyes covered, I can immerse myself in a private fantasy world. A simple touch suddenly means so much more. What seems like just a relaxing caress from fingers I can see becomes thrilling and charged with excitement when it involves ones that I can’t. It’s impossible to anticipate their intention or predict their next movement when I’m behind the blindfold. I don’t need to think at all. I can be perfectly selfish and deliciously passive for a change. [nggallery id=62] Photos by Yuky Lutz
Although Fetish photography usually works best when it’s done in a controlled environment like a dungeon or a specially decorated studio, I like to push the boundaries. One way to do this is to perform discreetly in a public place like a pizza restaurant. Part of the fetish value can be found in the simple fact that it happens without the other customers realising that it is. Another advantage is that the event occurs halfway between a closed set and the outside world. There’s nothing quite like going outside for real though and shooting a fetish set where bystanders, voyeurs and joggers might catch a glimpse adds even more to the experience. When I’m posing outside, I have no idea what might happen. Having an unknown number of people in the background is always a risk. They may, or may not, even be aware that something provocative might be happening before their eyes or just at the periphery of their vision. What made this shoot even more thrilling and intimidating was that it took place in an area of dense woodland. That type of environment can attract and hide any number of onlookers. Some could be totally innocent. Others might have different reasons for being there. As I shed my clothes, my imagination began to suggest any number of perverse stories in my mind. I’d planned the shoot well in advance and I thought that I had everything under control and all eventualities accounted for. Then, in the distance, or […]
2012: A Year of British Fetish
Last year had some real highlights when it came to British fetish. For me, the one that stood out the most was the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton. If it was not William’s camp uniform that turned heads then it was Pippa Middleton’s derriere. It seemed like a hard act to follow. This year exceeded all my expectations when it came to the promotion of British fetish. We had the London Olympics for a start. The highlight of the opening ceremony for me, and for most of the millions watching, was the appearance of the fictional James Bond (as played by Daniel Craig) in a scene starring The Queen playing herself. After the filmed set up we were treated to a live stunt that featured a stunt man in royal drag dropping into the olympic stadium with a Bond lookalike. The Diamond Jubilee was a dream of British Fetish. When it comes to the allure of a fantasy world populated by aristocrats, princes and princesses nobody does it like Britain. For a while we could believe that we had gone back to a time when courtesy, deference and discipline was the norm and not the exception. Fetishism is about knowing your place in a hierarchy and enjoying the unequal distribution of power that follows from accepting that state of affairs. When the Queen’s reign was celebrated the world over, we all became subs. The Summer of Sport and the Diamond Jubilee put together represented an unprecedented celebration […]
More Tickle Torture
Even though the summer has faded, the effect of “50 Shades of Grey” still lingers. I’m sitting at my writing desk and I’m thinking about sex. Nothing unusual there you might think. It seems to me that everyone is caught up in the meaning and uses of BDSM in their own lives and relationships. Something has been forgotten in all of those TV discussions focused on strap-ons, handcuffs and spankings. I haven’t heard any debates recently about sex and humour. Have we forgotten how to be dirty in the bedroom and actually laugh while we are doing it? I haven’t. When I think back to those times when I was turned on and trying hard not to laugh I always end up remembering the same afternoon. It was the day I was being photographed by a tickle fetishist and my ankles were tied onto a horizontal metal bar while I was blindfolded and sitting on an office chair. The tight white panties I had chosen for the shoot would look scandalous I hoped. Now that a reasonable amount of time has passed since the shoot I can appreciate just how unusual it really was. It was like a job at the time and I took it seriously. The photographer was committed to getting the most out of the session. He had rehearsed his tickling plans in perfect detail. When my stockinged legs were opened and raised and the blindfold was fitted on my face I was defenceless. I only remember […]
I love having my portrait taken. I try to have new ones shot whenever I can. During this shoot I remembered an observation about my face that someone had made a few days before. They had pointed out that my features didn’t just change when I wore a mask as you might expect. When my face was covered I was transformed completely. I seemed to adopt an intense fetish look and flaunt an imaginary persona that was at odds with the real me. I wanted a mask to wear for the photographer. The Mexican wrestler one that I had was packed away and would take too long to find. In desperation I searched through my modelling bag. I found my favourite crotchless bodystocking and I came up with a way to use it. This would be a new way to wear one but it would never have worked if it had been manufactured with a gusset. As I tugged the mesh onto my face I experienced some strange sensations. It felt like I had a mask on but I knew that I was completely visible. I wasn’t perfectly recognisable though. My features were constrained and fixed. I imagined a type of facial BDSM where the act of bondage was applied to cheeks, noses and lips. I wanted to possess the features of an emotionless doll but with a fetish twist. I tried to pout but I felt the tautness of the black mesh against my sensitive lips. The abrasive drag […]
Official Calendar 2013
I looked at my calendar from this year, saw it was already October and realised that next year’s one was almost due for production. I had been looking to do a collaboration with a new photographer and Lourdes Ribas of www.pixelstudi.com had already agreed to do the shoot. I was delighted when a date was set to do just that. Then, I developed a cold and had to cancel. I was badly congested for days before developing an ear infection. Not only was I exhausted but one ear was completely blocked. I just didn’t feel kinky. Nevertheless, time was passing and the pressure on me began to build. Another date was fixed and I knew that I couldn’t cancel for a second time. Even though part of me was still trying to talk myself out of it, I made myself go to the venue the second time. It took ages to pack my bag with a variety of essential accessories. More time than usual was spent on folding the stockings, packing the high heels and selecting the dresses that I would need. My main idea was to wear sheer dresses the wrong way round so that their open backs would allow my charms to be displayed more easily to the photographer. Although I had only known Lourdes for a few months, the set dresser, Pepe von Strudel from www.vonstrudel.com, had been a friend of mine for years. I was so excited about being photographed in a set decorated for […]
Loving Latex and Leather
Latex and leather don’t usually go together. They are completely different fetishistic materials but are just as significant, in their own way, as each other. They have their own distinctive appeal and set of associations. Leather is a natural substance that usually has a matte appearance. Latex is always shiny and requires constant maintenance and touch-ups to keep it that way. It is a manufactured material, designed and produced for its fetishistic value. I began this photo-set wearing latex lingerie supplied to me by Madrubb just for that reason. The form-fitting latex panties were high legged and high-waisted. They did amazing things for my derriere. The cupless latex bra made my breasts look totally different and much fuller. Both items clung closely to my skin. So close, in fact, that if I closed my eyes I could be forgiven for thinking that I was naked in front of the photographer. We had to stop the shoot regularly so that shiner could be applied to the latex to guarantee its glossiness under the lights. This started as an annoying routine and became a satisfying ritual as the pictures went on. I could feel the shiner through the latex. It was cool and made my skin tingle every time it was used. If it had been hotter in the room it would have meant more shiner and more breaks. Inbetween set-ups I had to slip on a leather coat to cover my exposed shoulders and breasts. I stood there, flaunting latex lingerie […]
My Slave’s Make-up Fetish
My slave likes to watch me on Skype as I go through the ritual of applying my make-up. It is a strange and exciting sensation to have someone analysing every little thing I do to decorate my face. His attention does not just focus my technique, however. Having his adoring eyes on me is the kind of pressure that really turns me on. It turns him on as well. His frequent suggestions and compliments prove it to me over and over again. My slave goes quiet when I’m defining my eyes with black liner. It is the cool precision involved in getting it just right that obsesses him. He is waiting for a mistake to be made. That is what he wants from me. It is like watching an artist who has to pause in their work to fix a flaw. Perfection is fine but random chance is better. Watching me make a correction, and getting impatient while I am doing it, always makes him sigh. When I outline my lips he breathes more heavily. I can hear his arousal from the speaker in my laptop. Sometimes I tease him with the creation of my Cupid’s bow. I delay it as much as I can. He can hardly stand the tension. I notice the anxiety creeping into his whispered words of praise. Then, it is time to finish and I press my lips together before blowing him a little kiss. I ask him how I look. He sags into his chair […]
Venus O’Hara’s Cover Shots
I used to love going to the nearest kiosk to buy Spanish GQ so that I could see my monthly column in print. It was even more of a thrill when I had an article in the pages of Primera Linea. Nothing quite prepared me for seeing a rack of magazines with me on the cover though. There’s nothing like it. Sensualité September 2012 issue The creative team responsible for the magazine “Sexologies” has published the second digital edition of their new publication and I am its covergirl. Although I was posing for the photographer wearing a crotchless bodystocking, he chose to focus on my face instead. Then I remembered that the magazine was intended for a female readership. Sado and Bondage. A new and exclusive wraparound cover has been produced to update the Spanish version of Love Me Like You Hate Me, my book about BDSM written with Erika Lust. The book will now feature one of Sebas Romero’s most definitive portraits of me. This covergirl is wearing full make-up and a lace blindfold, of course. Primera Línea – June 2012 issue Although this cover image was taken in February, there was warm sunlight washing over me as I posed naked. I was concerned that my nipples wouldn’t appear hard enough so I asked the photographer if she had some ice. She nodded and smiled. I was careful to rub it on them so that they stood up just the way I wanted. Bedeseme – May 2012 issue This […]
When I heard about Instagram I had no idea how much I would love it or how fetishistic it could be. As a fetish model I always look forward to my next photo-shoot even when I’m in the middle of the current one. Conventional photo-sessions can be dependent for their success on circumstances beyond my control. I have to trust the judgement and talent of the photographer for instance. Then we have to agree on a shot selection afterwards. It can take days to achieve satisfactory results and even longer to find the really killer images. With Instagram it can take seconds. There is an affinity between the instant results obtained from an iPhone image filtered by the Instagram App and the situational thrill of a spontaneous moment of visual fetishism. For me, fetishism is all around us and is happening all the time whether we perceive it or not. Outside of the controlled and controlling environment of a fetish club or scene, the random opportunities for sexual spectatorship are almost too many to count. A bra-strap seen through a blouse. A hint of derriere cleavage briefly visible when a young woman bends down. A hole in a pair of tights that appears under the hem of a short skirt. None of them is predictable. For the casual spectator though all of them are the happiest of accidents. iPhone images are taken in the Here and Now. The filters are applied via Instagram. The end result is shared with social […]
50 shades of Venus
In case you hadn’t realised, Planet Venus is back. It may seem perverse for me to be away from my regular writing responsibilities at this time. BDSM has suddenly become the literary flavour of the year with the publishing phenomenon of “50 Shades of Grey” taking the mainstream reading habits of the world by storm. In this eroticized and aroused moment in time you might think that I’ve been neglecting my proper duties and the philosophy behind my all important web. Although my loyal slaves have been working around the clock, they can only achieve so much on their own before I have to take the initiative again and do the things for Planet Venus that only I am qualified to do. Nevertheless, I see the distinctive cover of “50 Shades of Grey” and its sequels appearing in increasing numbers on the metro, in cafes and being read on benches in municipal parks. Everyone has either read it, is reading it or feels that they need to have an opinion about it. In my mind this can only be a good thing. It is still only fiction however. What happens when all of those readers feel the need to experiment with BDSM in their real lives? If you really want to discover how fulfilling and exciting BDSM can be but you are reluctant to do so because of any pre-conceptions you might still have then let me reassure you. BDSM can be so much fun that it’s almost a scandal […]
Mundo X – Canal Plus
I’m writing this text in little pieces. It is easier to add to it in between doing bits of housework. The housework is a way to distract myself so I do not keep thinking about tonight. I am excited but it is still early and there are hours to go yet. It will not be long before Mundo X is on TV. It is not the subjects that they will be discussing that interest me the most. As I water the plants I see myself in a mirror and notice that I am just wearing a tight vest and purple panties in this heat.The tight red latex dress that I wore for the interview reflected every bright studio light. MadRubb supplied me with the outfit. As usual, I could not wear panties under the latex. I was careful how I crossed and uncrossed my legs while I explained the academic exercises in my new book “Ingles Para Pervertidos”. The idea of an accidental upskirt moment that could be broadcast across Spain added to my tension. It was fine. This was the second time I have appeared in Mundo X and I had an amazing time. If you are curious about the interview you can watch it tonight HERE.. If you are intrigued about the book Inglés para pervertidos, you can buy it here
Primera Linea Covergirl
I worked in print sales for a while. I was good at it too. It was then that I began fantasising about making a living in the world of erotica instead. Every time I visited the printing presses to check the quality of the work coming off them, I wanted it to be me on the full-colour covers. It was my job to pose topless and look scandalous in the near future I decided. That was then. Now, part of my ambition has already been achieved. I have written two erotic books and seen one of them, Ingles Para Pervertidos, roll off another local printing press with my face on the front. I have also been featured inside the pages of Interviu magazine with my discreet sideboob appearing on the cover. Now, I am on the cover of Primera Linea magazine and I am totally topless. When I saw a digital mock-up of the finished cover I was delighted. My body looked natural and you can even see my freckles. My long red hair, green eyes and pouty red mouth looked just right. The thought of seeing my topless covergirl debut on every news stand for a month turned me on then and it still does now. I was in a business meeting when I took a ‘phonecall. It was a former colleague from my old print company. He was excited. “You’ll never guess what?” he teased. After a few minutes of this I shouted “Just tell me!” into […]
English for Perverts Cover Shoot (Blindfold)
The publishers of English For Perverts were waiting for me. I was under pressure to deliver a really powerful image of myself wearing a blindfold. It was necessary to try a second photo-session to find the killer shot because the results of the first were just good when they had to be great. I must admit that I was a little nervous when we began again. I understood the objective. We needed a perfect portrait of my face, hidden beneath the beautiful blindfold supplied by Le Boudoir. The Union Flag design would be photo-shopped onto it, in colour, to complete the printed design. Against the rich black and white of my face the famous pattern would express the intention of my book. Learning English and, in my case, being English should be clear to anyone seeing the cover. We began by shooting in colour. My pouting mouth was emphasised by the precise application of bright red lipstick. A fan blew cold air into my face to lift my long red hair up and make it seem to float in the pictures. It was such a strange sensation to be unable to see under the blindfold while I could feel my hair being pushed around. Every strand felt alive with movement while the sound of the fan was louder than I could believe. We tried a variety of different blindfolds and those alternative shots are interesting in their own right. It was so cold in the photographer’s house but none of […]
A Different Kind of Blowjob (Balloon Fetish)
I was not thinking about Globophilia or Balloon fetishism when we shot this set. The images were intended to feature in my new book Ingles Para Pervertidos. To illustrate the chapter about sexual health I decided to pose with a condom and then blow it up like a balloon. The unintended consequences of playing with the condom is something that balloon fetishists or “Looners” know already. It was when I played with the inflated condom that I got a little carried away. My long red hair was tied back and I was wearing large glasses which got in the way a little. As the condom grew, the transparent latex began to exaggerate the image of my face and lips more and more. My glossy red mouth and pale fingers looked like a large fake vulva reflected in a distorting circus mirror. I began to appreciate how balloon fetishists felt. The condom grew longer and began to look like a huge rubber teat. My naked nipples looked small compared to this fake one. I was fascinated by the way the inflated latex looked and by how it sounded.The more I played with blowing into the condom and watching it expand, the more I understood why balloon fetishists get off on them so much. I could not decide whether I was a Popper or a Non Popper yet. As the shoot continued I became more passive and controlled by the condom. My poses became restricted. I had to bite into the end […]
Mad for MadRubb Latex
I go a bit mad when I dress up in latex. It is not real madness, more like a kind pure fetish pleasure. I remember when the package from MadRubb arrived at my door. I had stayed in especially, shooting fetish photos and wondering whether that would be the day. I was hoping for a siesta but when the box arrived, suddenly, the adrenalin and excitement was almost too much. It was intriguing and mysterious at the same time. That made my fetish pleasure even greater when I got my hands on the latex accessories packed inside. The idea was to have a set shot of me that would provide a future cover for BeDeSeMe magazine. The following week I had sheduled modelling time to produce images of me wearing the latex for MadRubb as well. The trouble was I knew I couldn’t wait. Not a whole week. Not now I’d held the latex and smelt it too. That distinctive fetish smell of brand new, high-quality, latex is like nothing else. When I finally got to wear the latex bra and latex high-waisted panties they fit perfectly. I had not intended to appear topless in the shoot but I had forgotten the nipple tassels that I had planned to wear. The sensation of having the shiner being applied to the latex panties while I was wearing them is still hard to explain. It felt cool through the latex but I felt the pressure of the hand-strokes and caresses of my […]
I’m feeling a bigger and bigger attraction towards the world of TV these days. If you asked me why this is I would have a hard time explaining it. The irony is that I don’t even own a TV. I don’t feel as if I’m missing out on anything and I function perfectly well without gameshows, celebrity gossip or the latest docusoap. Still, the potential for TV to promote and develop Planet Venus can not be ignored. I had anticipated being booked for a TV appearance or two after Interviu magazine featured me on its cover and inside its pages. Despite my efforts to get on TV at that time, I was constantly reminded, by someone who must remain nameless, that it would be much easier for me to be featured if I went out with a footballer or if I got off with Paquirrin. When I thought about it I decided that I was not that desperate. Fortunately, my ambition to have a higher profile on TV is being realised without me having to compromise or do what other people think is necessary to succeed. I was right not to follow their advice. TV is finding me and not the other way round. These pictures were shot a year ago and I have been waiting for an excuse to use them since then. Now I can because I was on TV just last Friday ( May 11th 2012). I appeared in a segment of the programme Callejeros made by […]
I bought this vintage dress because it seemed so innocent. It was almost the thing a puritan might wear to church. That thought passed through my mind when I chose it to wear to the Fashion and Fetish show at The Brandery in Barcelona. When I was waiting for my connection at the metro I was suddenly aware of the lingerie I was wearing beneath it. It would be so easy for a gust of wind to reveal to other commuters just what lay underneath the puritan outerwear. The underwear was a lot different. Some people asked me why I hadn’t gone wearing latex or some other kinky material. What they didn’t realise or could have known was that I had planned my underwear very carefully for its powerful fetish content. My black high heels were obvious, of course. So was a small amount of retro-seamed coffee coloured stocking clinging to each leg. I had chosen the stockings at the same time as the pointed bullet bra that gave my bust such a distinctive outline. They could only have come from What Katie Did. Further up my vintage stockinged legs, the six-strap suspender belt felt tight against my thighs and waist. I knew my derriere was clearly visible through the sheer, black panties. There was no way to hide it if there was an accidental upskirt moment or even a deliberate one. What I really wanted was to recreate the famous poster image from the film “Secretary”. The model is […]
Lipstick and Leather Gloves Fetish
It is quite common for me to be asked what my favourite fetish is. Believe it or not, that is not a question that I can answer very easily. My taste in fetishes can be dependent upon my mood or even the time of the year I find myself in. In Winter, I can indulge myself by wearing stockings and suspenders, latex dresses, designer corsets, tight woollen sweaters and, especially, leather gloves. Although I’m looking forward to warmer temperatures and the approach of Summer, it will be a shame to pack my burgundy-coloured Marks and Spencer gloves away. I’m holding on to them for as long as I can. I remember that I was in the U.K. and on a mission to do some shopping when I saw these gloves. I had intended to buy some things that I missed from home but I forgot all that when I saw the rack that the leather gloves were displayed on. I went over immediately and looked for a pretty black pair in my size. Black leather goes with absolutely everything where clothes are concerned. Then, I had an idea. My usual lipstick colour is either MAC Red or MAC Vino lipliner. What if I wore gloves that matched my lips? I saw this pair and they were exactly the same shade. Their fit was perfect and the leather, when I opened and shut my hand, was soft and smooth with a rich and arousing aroma. I didn’t want to take them […]
English for Perverts – New Book!
It has been said, quite often, that the most rewarding way to learn another language is to do it when you are in bed with a foreigner. You may find that they are only too pleased to lead you through the lessons and correct you ,with humour, when you make a little mistake. What would you do though if you were in bed with someone and you did not know what to say or how to even begin? Sex is a universal language, but to have great sex relies upon good communication and conversational skills to explain to them exactly your perversions are. Ingles Para Pervertidos “English For Perverts” (Bookad 2012) encourages you to learn and practise all of those words that your teacher would always disapprove of and punish you for repeating in class. They would never show you the words or even acknowledge them. My new book has eight chapters: “The Human Body”, “In Bed”, “LGBT”, “Sexy Shopping”, “The Dark Side”, “Porn”, “Chat” and “Sexual Health”. Each one is beautifully designed and contains all the sexy vocabulary you’ll need for almost any occasion. The grammar exercises are unique and unlike any teaching materials you have ever seen before. Ingles Para Pervertidos is intended for use by intermediate level English students but do not be discouraged by this because anyone, at any stage, can benefit greatly from its arousing approach to education. At any point in the text, if you need a break from the hard work of learning, […]
Spit or Swallow?
When I’m brushing my teeth I sometimes think of suckable sweets instead of toothpaste. The minty taste makes me think about sweet shops and summer holidays. Sometimes I forget to spit out the froth and I swallow it instead. Everyone knows that good girls shouldn’t swallow but sometimes they just can’t help themselves. I brush my teeth every night before I go to bed. I’m meticulous about oral hygiene and I always have been. I prefer to use an electric toothbrush because it gives me more control and my new one is rechargeable so I’ll never be dependent on batteries ever again. I’d never use a manual one because it takes too much effort and it makes me feel submissive. I deserve to have a slave to perform necessary tasks for me even to keep my teeth clean. I was modelling my industrial mesh bodystocking at a photographers house a few weeks ago. We’d already taken a lot of photos before I let him know that I needed a break. He made me a coffee and I drank it quickly. I hate having coffee-breath so I wanted to freshen my mouth immediately. He pointed me in the direction of the bathroom. I’m very fussy about other people’s toothbrushes though. I squeezed out some toothpaste on my finger and rubbed it back and forth across my teeth. It was hard work but my gums tingled after a minute or two. It was a messy process and splatters of minty froth ended […]
Lipstick porn doesn’t need to waste time teasing. There’s no need for foreplay, so no naked lips or pouting. Lipstick porn just gets straight down to it. It makes no excuses or compromises. Lipstick porn is only true to itself when it’s XXX rated. It’s either hardcore or it’s nothing. Before the shoot I prepared my lips for their lipstick porn debut. I dug out my secret stash of Mac Red lippy and I outlined my lips first. I made a smooth heart shape or Cupid’s bow around the edge. I opened my lips and blew a horny kiss to my reflection. With some soft strokes of the lipstick, I filled in the gaps then pushed my shiny lips back together into the tight line of a fantasy vulva. I had to wait for a few minutes before the cameraman was ready. I didn’t need a fluffer to keep my tingling lips primed for an award-winning hardcore performance. They were wet and ready. We began the session almost immediately. The camera crept in closely and observed every intimate action as I unwound the lipstick again. After a moment I pressed the hard tip into my plump lips and probed my pout, feeling my way around. The “slip-out” is a classic convention in Gonzo porn and I referred to it at once. The lipstick slipped, staining my teeth and smearing my cheek with redness. Was it accidental or deliberate? Who knows. I made sure that I took my time when I […]
Bridget Jones Panties
A few years ago I wouldn’t have been seen dead wearing a pair of high-waisted panties. They were seen as unfashionable even before the now iconic scene in the “Bridget Jone’s Diary” film. Bridget, played by Renée Zellweger, had been conflicted about her imminent date with the sleazy character played by Hugh Grant. Would she choose skimpy, sexy knickers or the enormous, off-white, pair that would hold in her ample curves? When she held the high-waisted ones aloft the whole female audience, myself included, laughed and cringed. Those panties represented everything that we didn’t aspire to be. I was as surprised as anyone with the unexpected decline of the thong and the rise of the “Brazilian” style instead. Nowadays, panties are big and they seem to be getting bigger. Sales of larger knickers are booming as women relegate skimpier styles to the back of their underwear drawer. Boy shorts and high-waist briefs reappeared on the high street and now sales are booming. One reason for this is the fashion for “underwear as outerwear” promoted by Lady Gaga and Lily Allen among others. The other trend that has revived interest in them is the popularity of all things retro. The eager acceptance of 1950’s waist-cinching styles has done more than anything to help big panties lose their “Bridget Jones” image. When I was shopping in Marks and Spencer recently I made sure I had a look at their high-waisted knickers. I found out that they’d changed a lot. Instead of the […]
Loving my Crotchless Bodystocking
There is nothing as revealing as a bodystocking. This is true even if it isn’t crotchless. Fortunately, for this set, that wasn’t going to be a problem. When I took it out of its packaging and unfolded it, it was obvious just how open it would be around the derriere area. I got excited just thinking about wriggling into the mesh and fitting it onto my naked, topless, body. It wasn’t long before I had the perfect opportunity. Sometimes I have to plan my look before I can be satisfied with the fetish image I want to project. There was no problem before this shoot. The wide mesh tickled my bare skin and dragged against my curves. My breasts were sculpted and pressed down. I made sure my hard nipples poked out through openings in the stylish netting of the bodystocking. Its black mesh clung tightly all over and made me feel as though I was wearing a little something even though I realised it was hardly anything. I wondered just how much of my pale skin showed through. Almost all of it, I hoped. To emphasise all of that whiteness peeking through the grid of clinging threads, I needed to do something slightly different with my long red hair. After having it fastened into a retro style with metal clips for a while, I undid it and wore it loose. The coppery curls were incredible and the fringe gave me exactly the effect I was looking for. All it […]
The catsuit, in the world of fetish-wear, is a garment that has always been around. I’ve always wanted one but I’m fussy and I waited until I found the perfect one for me. I chose this one because it had an amazing wet-look image. Latex would have been a lot trouble to put on and pose in. I was really excited about wearing the catsuit and when it arrived. I just couldn’t wait to put it on. I found out straight away that I couldn’t wear anything underneath it because it would show up in photos. I turned this disadvantage into an advantage and enjoyed my nakedness inside the tight, black catsuit even more. I knew that there would be no VPL and that my hard nipples would poke through the fabric. I got more excited when I realised that to everyone else I was fully covered in my reflective suit and shining high-heels. When I was dressed up, all I could really feel was my absence of underwear and the texture of the catsuit clinging to me like a perfect second skin. When I was posing on the balcony, I looked around. Then, I looked down into the streets filled with ordinary people and small cars. It seemed as though I was in a private fetish world all my own and not a part of the everyday scene below. The normal world carried on without me. Occasionally, someone would look up when they saw a flash, notice me and […]
Does my bum look big in this?
Does my bum look big in this? That’s what most women ask their partner or their friends when they’re out shopping and trying on a pair of jeans or a skirt. I’m the opposite, however. If my bum doesn’t look big in those clothes then they go right back on the shelf. There are breast men, leg men and men who like a fine bottom. They like it even more when it’s displayed to its full potential. That’s why Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez and Kylie Minogue have found a special place in the heart of bum fans. I don’t get the tabloid media’s obsession with Pippa Middleton’s bum at all. After the recent Royal wedding and the focus on Pippa’s rear end I was confused. I didn’t see a rear end on her at all. It was even more mysterious when women went on strange diets and started weird exercise progammes to be just like Pippa. It was a hard sell and it seemed to work. For me, the skinny bum syndrome is something that happens when you lose weight too quickly or do too much exercise. It’s always something to be avoided. Whenever it happens to me I know it’s time to stop and eat some cake. I’m very fussy when it comes to buying panties. They have to be a good fit and be flattering to my bum. The bigger they make it look, the better. When I found these crotchless lace panties, I knew that they could have […]
Lipstick and Furs
After doing so many photo-shoots and meeting so many different make-up artists I’ve picked up many great tips. For this retro glamour set I decided to put some of them to the best possible use. I went against my usual natural look and I felt like trying something different. When it comes to my long red hair I usually just wash and wear. I never blow-dry. This time, however, I found my curling tongs in my bathroom cupboard and felt it was time to use them. I usually don’t bother with them because it takes so long to get the effect I want. Although my long red hair has its own curl I wanted much more definition to it. It took even more time to achieve this than I’d imagined. As it turned out I enjoyed the process more than I can say. I’m a lipstick fetishist and I didn’t need much of an excuse to use my favourite colour, MAC Red. I love the glossy vintage look it gives my full lips even though traces of the lipstick seem to end up everywhere. It took a long time to get the perfect outline for my lips but when I did I just couldn’t stop pouting. To satisfy my fur fetish I wore my favourite fur coat. I drew the soft collar up against my neck so I could feel its fur caressing my skin and have my hair falling onto it and mixing with it. The next time I […]
Getting Ready for Barcelona Fetish Weekend
Barcelona Fetish weekend is back this year with the stern intention of being bigger, better and badder this time around. It’s now the biggest fetish event on the Mediterranean and shouldn’t be missed under any circumstances. You know the place but, between us, it’s going to run from 13th-15th April 2012. Come along with us and join all the kinky events with your head set up for constant fun and games. It really doesn’t matter what your fetish is, you’ll find more than enough to keep you interested and eager. You may well discover a taste for some specialities that you hadn’t even considered before. That’s what Barcelona Fetish Weekend is all about and this one will never let you down in any way that really counts. PROGRAM OF EVENTS (SUBJECT TO CHANGE) Friday 13th April – The Main Event, Bondage Bash Venue: EiTwo – C/ MIQUEL TORELLÓ PAGÈS, 5, 08750 Molins de Rei Time: 2300-0500hrs STRICT DRESS CODE Saturday 14th April – Fetish Cabaret Cocktails and Dinner Venue: Cabaret Berlin – Carrer Bailen 22, 08010 Barcelona Time: 2100 – 0500hrs STRICT DRESS CODE. Sunday 15th April – Kinky Bus Tour Venue: Pickup from Hotel Onix Fira, C/ Llançà, 30, 08015 Barcelona Time: 1400-1700hrs DRESS CODE ADVISED BUT NOT OBLIGATORY I’ve been waiting months for this and I can’t wait! [nggallery id=38] Photography by Sebas Romero
The Art of Exhibitionism
I felt the photographer’s flash as it lit my naked breasts and belly. It made me think about exhibitionism as I held the coat open. I understand exhibitionism in my own way. It isn’t just about flaunting or exposing parts of your body when you’re in public. I know it can be a result of spontaneous need, a psychological compulsion or just too much alcohol mixed with the sudden impulse to be outrageous. What really interests me about exhibitionism is its dual nature. If it’s threatening or anti-social we call it indecent exposure. In a social situation and amongst like-minded people it can be called “flashing” instead. I’m not really an exhibitionist but I love posing so much that there must be a part of me that wants to share my charms with others. At swinger’s parties or fetish events I’m more of a voyeur. I enjoy the results of other peoples exhibitionism more that indulging my own. At a recent fetish party I stood back and stared as two girls performed on stage. One of them was on a leash and the other was walking her around like a dog. I respected the effort it took to be displayed like that and I enjoyed the response of the audience to a real exhibitionist in action. I’d never want to be that girl on stage. I was doing a nude photo-shoot recently. It was late and it was cold. During a break between set-ups I started to shiver and looked […]
Tea and Sex
I’m a tea fetishist. That doesn’t really mean that I get turned on by drinking tea or that was what I used to think. I was born in the U.K. and tea was never seen as being sexy. My idea of tea fetishism is based on the rituals around drinking it in public and the tense formality of tea-time. All of the habits associated with this strange custom, like poking your little finger out when you raise the cup to your lips, turn me on in different ways. I prefer green tea and I’ve never got any other type in the house. I was surprised and amused recently when I read a report that green tea can do some wonderful things to your sex life. I’d already suspected it but it’s always reassuring to know that I’m right. According to the study the use of green tea over a 10 week period can improve your stamina by as much as 24%. The University of Washington collected data on 6 different couples. Fifty percent had been offered green tea. The others had not. After the ten weeks were up, the couples who only drank green tea reported back that it had dramatically affected their sex life. As well as being happier and more relaxed they confirmed that they had sex more often and for longer than they’d done for a long time. A direct link between the tea and fertility was outside the scope of the study but it seems that […]
Nape Fetish (Unaji)
The nape of the neck is one of the most effective erogenous zones that there is. I’m always surprised by just how intense the variety of sensual pleasures is when my neck gets the attention it deserves. I don’t just enjoy the caresses on my nape in isolation.When I feel attentive fingers massaging it I just want more and more. That special pleasure I feel is never predictable or ordinary. Sometimes it relaxes my whole body, other times it can wake it up and make me sensitive all over, everywhere. With a clever combination of soft kisses, warm breath and soft-biting, a lover can bring me even more arousing sensations. If they are experienced, they’ll stop occasionally and rub the nape and drag their fingertips around it. This reminds me that the nape holds a special attraction to Japanese men. They call it Unaji and, in their culture, it was one of the rare parts of a woman’s body that was often uncovered. A nape fetishist will get just as much pleasure as I do from seeing it worshipped properly. If I lean forward slowly, the stretching alters my enjoyment as well as theirs. If they are observant, they’ll notice the small changes in the surface of my nape. A small rubbing motion, repeated under my earlobe, earns instant goosebumps. I didn’t want my hair to fall down in thick curls while my neck was being photographed for this set. I found some metal clips to use and, as I […]