I received an advance set of Love Me Like You Hate Me handcuffs from Bijoux Indiscrets even before the book was slated for printing and I knew that it was essential to produce some pictures of me using them to feature in its pages when it did appear.

It isn’t a secret that I’m no fan of handcuffs so I was surprised at my intuitive response to these. The material that they’re made of was firm against my fingers yet supple against the softness of my lower arms.They were perfect for wrist and ankle restraint and I enjoyed them from the start. I found out quite quickly that they can be tied together, attached to clothing and secured to furniture but the best part for beginners is knowing that they can escape from them when they want to…if they want to.
Bondage for Beginners Venus o'Hara
For beginners, Bondage is the art of restraining someone or tying them up in some way that induces intense feelings of sexual gratification. The person being tied up can relax and allow the person doing the tying to provide pleasure for them while deriving an equal and opposite enjoyment from their own feelings of empowerment. Power, in this context of discipline for the sake of arousal, must not be abused. It will never become an issue as long as both partners approach bondage games in an atmosphere of mutual trust.
Bondage for Beginners Venus o'Hara
Tying up a partner is only just the preamble; taking advantage of their restraint is where the fun really begins. This can take many forms and can include blindfolding them to enhance any subsequent actions like playing disorientating music, teasing with food and using sex toys on them at will. Having 360-degree access enables even more flexibility for pleasure and suggests other soft tortures like caressing and touching any part of your lover’s body with any piece of yours, teasing them verbally and even demanding oral sex.

Arousing your partner to the point of climax and then denying them relief is perhaps the most refined and exquisite of punishments. It is the finest display of erotic authority that bondage allows and It all begins with a simple pair of appropriate cuffs.

Bondage for Beginners Venus O'Hara
Photography by Sebas Romero

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