As you know, there’s no shame in any sexual act you enjoy taking part in. But when it comes to telling your partner about your bedroom desires, it’s not always an easy thing to do. Not all of us are fetish singles; some of us are in long-term relationships with partners who don’t know about our deepest sexual desires. Why hide this part of yourself? Sex is an integral part of our lives, your partner needs to know what satisfies you.
By not expressing our desires, we miss out on potential fun and exploration with our partners. We all deserve to be sexually satisfied without feeling shame. If you want to reach sexual pleasure, it means you’re going to have to talk to your partner and share your kinks with them. Who knows, maybe they have the same kinks as you!
Talk about it outside of the bedroom
The best way to introduce your fetish to your partner is to sit down and talk with them – outside of the bedroom. Bringing up your kinks right before or during sex may come as a surprise to your partner. Discussing it outside of the bedroom will give your partner space and time to think about your desires and whether they want to explore it. You don’t need to have a serious meeting, keep it casual either over dinner or a couple of drinks. It’s important that when you bring up the subject, both you and your partner are feeling relaxed.
Ask your partner about their kinks
Not everyone feels comfortable subtly making hints to their partner about what they enjoy sexually. If you’re looking for a more direct approach, then why not ask your partner about their kinks? Even if they’ve never discussed it before, most of us have a couple of sexual acts we fantasize about. By asking your partner if there’s something they’d like to try, you’ll be able to see what type of fetishes they’re interested in and if you two can compromise.
Use mainstream media
Though we all giggle and make fun of Fifty Shades of Grey, the truth is, it’s opened up the conversation and normalization of fetishes. Using mainstream media is a great way to bring up the subject with your partner. Suggest to watch a movie like Fifty Shades Darker and discuss what you saw afterward. Is your partner curious about a bondage scene they saw? Is there a sexual act that turned them on? This will help bring up the discussion naturally and help you two decide on what you’d like to try together.
When it comes to sex, it’s never an easy conversation. But, if you want a healthy and satisfying sex life, you’re going to need to talk about it with your partner. By communicating with your partner, you’ll be able to share your kinks and see whether or not this something your partner would like to try out. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know!