In BDSM, financial domination is a situation where a female dominant has complete control over the disposable income of Her submissive slave. For her instant gratification, she would also expect gifts whenever she felt like it.
A financial slave only works and earns so that he can please his adored dominant female. This means that he supplies constant financial support to Her and that he pays instant monetary penalties whenever She demands them. A key part of financial domination is the slave’s acceptance that he should only live on the cheapest groceries available so that his Goddess can enjoy more luxuries at his expense. To permit his domme to live like the Goddess that he knows She is, a good slave will make any sacrifice and – more importantly – take huge fetishistic pleasure in doing so. He expects nothing in return except the continued honour of serving Her.
When viewed in these terms it seems as though the domme has complete financial control but – in reality – the scenario is much more complicated. I am convinced that, in any situation, the customer is always right. The person with the money is the one with the real power in a BDSM relationship as in any other. This conclusion is at odds with the accepted definition of financial domination.
There is no such thing as a free lunch and a domme understands this all too well. The world of BDSM does not have a trade union or social security and a good domme – even a great one – has to maintain Her charm at all times to ensure Her continued value to Her slave and all of those subsequent treats and envelopes of cash.
Even the nature of Her domination can depend upon whether She wants easy funds to spend on indulgent treats for Herself or whether She needs a fast bank transfer to cover Her monthly rent. It is here that the subtle influence of the sub begins to be felt by the domme and Her behaviour might adapt to accommodate it.
It is my firm belief that any relationship based on the financial superiority of one party over the other pushes the real power towards the owner of the money. In the case of a BDSM relationship, where the line is firmly drawn between domme and sub, the presence of money in the hands of the sub can distort the connection between them. A delicate and mutually satisfying balance between a paying sub and a struggling domme seems unlikely.
It was a real surprise to me to realise that the financial support, gifts and resources that I began to receive through financial domination didn’t please me any less than if I had earned them myself.
I wonder, sometimes, if my slave is aware of the power he has just by typing his credit card number online on my behalf.
When I feel a vibration from my smartphone telling me his life-savings have just gone down again for my benefit – I don’t really care who is in charge.
Venus Nude Financial Domination Photos by Guy Moberly