Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
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Sex blogger Sacrifices
I like to imagine that I’ve got the best job in the world and I probably have. It has been 7 years since I established my website. Now I work full-time as a sex blogger. My job has several obvious advantages: free sex toys, complimentary lingerie and most importantly, no alarm-clock in the morning. When I am at a party with other professionals and it is my turn to explain what I do, I always end up impressing them by having the coolest job of anyone by far. It does not really matter that it is not the most well paid.
“You’re really loud today” someone once informed me in the middle of the sex act. Louder than normal? I pondered this when I recalled the shuddering orgasm that I experienced a few minutes earlier. Yes, it had been louder. This was partly because I was really into it at that moment. On further reflection I had to concede to myself that my increased volume was more to do with the fact that I was in a hotel room.
I was so thrilled to receive a Satisfyer Pro Penguin last month. I got my hands on it at Erofame in Hanover, Germany. I was very curious to see what the Pro Penguin compared after trying the Womanizer W100, the Womanizer Pro and the Satisfyer Pro Plus. These are all suction devices and they work on the principle that the clitoris can be stimulated without the need for actual contact. They have proven to be highly popular around the world and many women report experiencing intense and rapid orgasms with them.
I had always wanted to try strap-on sex. This was due to the simple fact that I could determine the size, the texture and the design of the fake phallus that would be attached to it. For me, the most important thing about a real penis is not it’s size per se. It is my preference that it should be absolutely rigid when it matters most. I always imagined that a strap-on must be fantastic for this very reason because its perpetual stiffness was guaranteed. I was intrigued about using one with another woman, especially because I could both give and receive its pleasures. Fortunately, I have a female friend who shared my curiosity.
The main reason I do not watch porn comes down to personal taste. I would always choose erotica over porn. My preference is for a well-written script interpreted by talented actors as opposed to real sexual positions adopted by porn performers. I suppose that I want to put my own imagination to work. In mainstream porn, imagination is seldom required. The monotonous gynaecological close-ups do nothing for me, I have to say. I do not find them overly explicit as much as I consider them standardised and boring.
The MAZE Collection – Vegan Leather
As soon as I saw the appropriately titled, MAZE collection from Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that I needed to find my own path into it. I did not care about forgetting the way I went in, taking a wrong turn or, indeed, solving the puzzle. I just felt the need to get lost in a confounding, and thrilling, realm of fetish fantasy.
“Goodbye” I whispered to my beloved sofa as I saw it being pushed out of my front door by three Italian students. For many, a sofa is just a piece of furniture that you relax on to watch television or have a nap on. But I have never had a single siesta on my sofa, even though I live in Spain. To be honest, I have not mastered the art of it. Nor have I watched television on my sofa because I don’t have one. For me, my sofa was a place to recline after a long day or, most importantly, it was my favorite place to have sex.
When I read Bridget Jones’ Diary during my teenage years, I hoped that I wouldn’t end up like her. That is to say, a thirty-something, childless, single woman spending my Saturday nights wallowing in self pity and drinking wine at home on my own. It’s obvious, looking back, that Bridget didn’t own a decent vibrator.
Lesbian porn isn’t the same as ‘porn for lesbians’ or ‘porn for bi women’. Lesbian porn is, without doubt, focused on the needs of the male spectator with its obsessive focus on close-up, gynaecological shots and surgically enhanced actresses with long, fake nails that look like claws. That detail in particular is a big no-no when it comes to sex between women. Another, typical feature is an overemphasis on the use of sex toys like dildos and harnesses. During my sapphic era, it would never have occurred to me to sit on a sofa and lick a dildo with another girl but that scenario is sadly typical in lesbian porn.
Stimulating the A spot is a highly efficient way to achieve orgasm because it doesn’t use much energy, doesn’t take very long and always results in an intense climax. It sounds wonderful, I know, but it’s not all good news. In my case, because of the effectiveness of my A spot, I failed to give my clitoris the time and attention it deserved for years. I believed that women were either clitoral or vaginal when it came to orgasms. I have now discovered, however, that I can reach climax either way, even though achieving a clitoral orgasm, in my case, requires me to put in much more time and effort.
Even though I consider myself to have a liberal mentality, the thought of having a professional tantric massage never arose. Now that I’ve had one, however, I’m so glad I did. I was dying to feel someone’s hands on me. But, I wanted to feel them in a way that you just don’t experience during a conventional massage. You can’t get that sensation during sex either, not unless you have a partner who is really into long foreplay sessions. Even during post-coital embraces I wish the hair stroking and nape caresses would last much, much longer.
Have you ever wondered what the sex toys of the future will be like? I have. I looked into my crystal ball and this is what I saw. I’m not sure what year it is, but I see that I have a few grey hairs and wrinkles. It’s a sunny morning and I wake up in my future house in the country.
Bespoke Foot Fetish Videos. I have recently decided to create exclusive video content for my Members Area. Due to popular demand, I will be focusing on foot fetish and will be producing short videos featuring: Shoe Dangling. Pedicures. Soles. Wrinkled Soles. Tip-Toes. Arches. Bondage. Foot Massage. Hosiery. Tickling and much more!
Some people believe that a selfie is only an expression of narcissism, but for me it can be much more than that. We live in a society obsessed with physical perfection and a culture that seems to be addicted to cosmetic surgery and PhotoShop. On the one hand, we are bombarded by advertising imagery on TV and in magazines that lie to us constantly and promote beauty ideals that are unachievable. On the other hand, when a media celebrity is ‘caught’ on the beach displaying a little cellulite, or carrying few extra kilos, they are ridiculed.
The more money you spend on something, the higher your expectations become. This philosophy can also be applied to the world of luxury sex toys. Usually ‘luxury’, in this context, means that it is rechargeable by USB, is made of a non-porous material such as soft medical-grade silicone, has powerful, yet silent, motors and features organic shapes. That is to say, that the less it looks like a real penis, the better.
The Sticky World of Lubricants: “Made with natural ingredients.” I read once in large letters on the packaging of lubricant from a brand that I won’t mention. After reading the list of ingredients, however, I discovered that apart from Aloe Vera extract, the remainder of the ingredients list consisted of substances with long and unpronounceable names. I doubted that they were natural.
Satisfyer Pro 2 Sex Toy Review
When I saw this sex toy, I knew I had to try it. Satisfyer Pro 2 looks a lot like Womanizer. Womanizer is a suction device that stimulates the clitoris. It has been very successful worldwide.
I know many women who say Womanizer is their favorite sex toy. Despite having tried the original, and the pro 500, I can’t say that it’s my favorite. Similarly, I can’t deny that it provides unique sensations.
Eros and Thanatos. I don’t want his pity. I want wild sex. All that matters is that I feel the blood running through my veins. I need to know that I am still very much alive despite the drab and depressing mood that I find myself in. I need to feel my heart beating, my breath accelerating and, above all, I have to feel the spasms of orgasm.
We work all year round dreaming about our holidays. For most of us it means a chance to escape the routine, stress and traffic jams. It’s a time to relax and enjoy spending quality time with our partners and the family. However, a new study by Victoria Milan, a contacts page for married people or couples, has found that summer holidays make us more open to the idea of having an affair.
“It’s not a glamorous look”, “you’ve totally lost your sex appeal” or “how disgusting!” These are just some of the comments I received after publishing photos of my hairy armpits on social media. Of course, there were others that were more positive.
I have to say that the negative comments didn’t surprise me in the slightest. The merest glimpse of a hairy armpit on a woman usually causes this reaction. It was something that I used to find unpleasant too.
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