Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
I want to change the world
One orgasm at a time.
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My mission is to liberate and educate people about sexuality through art, humour and my own experiences.
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She was the first woman that I had ever been intimate with and she made me question my sexuality. I felt a desire for her that I hadn’t felt for a man since my first love. I couldn’t get enough of her and when we walked along the street, hand in hand, I felt like the luckiest woman in the world. Even a simple thing like watching tv, snuggled-up on the sofa, was highly erotic, especially when our hands inevitably started to wander across each other’s bodies again.
As soon as I saw Cookie and Candy on Svakom’s Instagram feed a few weeks ago, I knew that they had to be mine. I’ve been living in an apartment by the beach for just over a month now. I’ve been mesmerised by every beautiful sunrise. It’s such an awe-inspiring way to begin the day. Cookie and Candy look like beautiful marine objects that could have been washed up on the shore. As such, they couldn’t be more appropriate with the ocean theme and my current living situation. They are vibrators but they can also move independently. Cookie has a trio of pleasing, teasing tentacles and Candy has a pouting mouth that summons up the image of a kissing fish.
Live, Learn, Share, Inspire. This is the philosophy that underpins my work. Unfortunately, the things that I have to share are not always orgasmic. Some of them can be very much the opposite, in fact. Having to live with machismo is one of them. If I had to be more specific, I would term it the wilful abuse of masculine power. It is something I have experienced and I feel that I have to share my observations of it.
Can you be spiritual and kinky?
The MAZE collection from Bijoux indiscrets allows me to be just that.
“Exciting paths that unveil secret directions with one true end: finding your true self” the packaging reads.
This philosophy certainly conforms with my current spiritual journey. I’m surrendering to the universe and seeing where it chooses to take me. It will lead me, hopefully, into the arms of someone who is as blissed-out and kinky as I am.
Good things come to those who wait. Literally.
It seems that LELO has been busy researching their own clitoral concerns and the result is SONA.
I have to say that I am thrilled that LELO has brought out a new toy. It has been a long time since NEA 2 and LILY 2. I have often wondered what would come next. Naturally, I had very high expectations, as my most repeated toys of my extensive collection are SIRI 2, NEA 2 and LILY 2. Despite this, I must admit that when I first saw pictures of SONA, I was initially underwhelmed. A suction device? These toys have taken the world by storm. I know so many women who love them, but they are not my thing if I’m entirely honest.
If you rearrange the word dildo, you end up with dodil. The dodil is a dildo that you can reshape according to your own preferences.
I have been exploring what it really means to be a minimalist in my day-to-day life. This has resulted in my decision to throw out anything that does not earn its place by bringing me continual joy. My main inspiration in this has been Marie Kondo’s book. Since reading it, I have been careful not to acquire anything new that I do not really need. I have donated books to a library, taken old clothes to a charity shop and made gifts of my furniture to neighbours. The process has been wonderfully liberating.
Finally! I am able to provide a review of a lubricant that I can actually get wet about.
There is a wide variety of lubricants on the market. And it is never an easy thing to choose the ‘right’ one. Sometimes your selection can be influenced by the packaging, the price, the promise of only natural ingredients, longer-lasting usability, the presence (or absence) of perfumes. Don’t forget any stimulating effects, whether it’s compatible with your sex toys. It’s really no surprise that making an informed judgement can be a little confusing.
I was itching with anticipation as I unboxed The Satisfyer Pro Penguin Next Generation. After working my way into the box, I was delighted to discover that it’s black & white silicone body is seemingly modelled on that of a penguin wearing a tuxedo. It had even seen fit to dress up further for the occasion; a red sculpted bow tie was worn proudly around its neck. The Satisfyer Pro Penguin was clearly serious about its intention to provide me with high-end orgasmic delight.
When the package containing the new Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation device arrived, I knew I was in for a treat. This was in spite of an ongoing dispute between myself and my unpredictable full-time landlord/occasional flatmate/onetime friend. There was a time when having his property littered with my exhausted sex toys amused him. He was just as fascinated by my array of charging docks, with their blinking lights, filled with yet more devices awaiting testing.
I was in a terrible mood when I tried Lea by Feelz Toys for the first time. I had just been woken up in the early hours of the morning by my flatmate / frenemy who was making a great deal of unnecessary noise. It was clear that he didn’t give two hoots about whether I got enough sleep or not. His coughing, door slamming and stomping around made it clear that we are going through the equivalent of a platonic separation. Our situation is reminiscent of a film that I remember seeing. ‘The Breakup (2006)’ starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn tells the story of a couple trying to go their separate ways.
When I went to bed – I decided to test Zumio, a powerful clitoral stimulator that’s ideal for enjoying pinpoint pleasure. Naturally, I wondered what it would be like to share Zumio with another woman as I revisited my sapphic fantasies. I put Zumio to work on my hungry clitoris and closed my eyes. I imagined soft skin, expert caresses and – of course – the singular sensation of four breasts rubbing together.
I’m certainly not a natural born beachbum. But, when I received seven new Magnifique designs from Bijoux Indiscrets, I was instantly inspired to go to the beach and try them out. Even if you don’t live by the sea, a piece of the Magnifique collection won’t take up too much room in your suitcase if you go on holiday this summer. The response you get from putting it on display could be amazing.
Teatime with porcelain dildos instead of scones
In the UK if you have a problem, a cup of tea will almost certainly be part of the solution. In fact, when presented with a problem, the first response is most likely to be: ‘let me put the kettle on’. Tea and sympathy makes everything seem better again. And now – with these special teatime porcelain dildos – I think I’m going to enjoy this ritual more than ever.
OMG! I’ve just tried the new Womanizer 2GO for the first time and I’m still in a state of shock. I was literally screaming as I came. The orgasm arrived with no warning, and was so intense, that biting the pillow just wasn’t an option. I must admit that, in the past, clitoral suction devices such as womanizer – and rival devices such as the Satisfyer – have tended to be a little too powerful for my liking. I usually prefer to use a vibrator for indirect clitoral stimulation. That doesn’t mean, however, that I didn’t have a lot of fun. It was, simply put, incredible.
If you crave penetration with more cms than what your partner has to offer in the trouser department, then Play Ball from Adrien Lastic could be the perfect solution for you. For many, suggesting a penis sleeve might be insulting, but Play Ball, stimulates the end of your vagina, and the A spot, a pleasure point located at the deepest point on the anterior wall of the vagina, above the cervix, a place not all guys can reach.
Lubricants can be used in a variety of ways. The first thing that I look at when assessing the practical value of a given lubricant is its list of ingredients. If it contains glycerin, then you can be quite sure that the product will not be going anywhere near my vulva or my sex toys. That doesn’t mean that I dismiss it completely, however. It will still be useful for hand jobs, foot jobs, or even armpit or tit wanks if I’m in an exotic mood.
I usually wake up early, to be met by the sound of birds singing and the light of the recently risen Mediterranean sun in my face. I don’t put my blinds down as a rule because I love being stirred by that bright light. It gives me energy for the day ahead. After opening my eyes slowly, I usually reach out for one of my vibrators. I have a small collection of my favourites under my pillow, ready to use for moments just like these.
Coworking has changed my life. As a professional sex toy tester, it is safe to say that I probably have the best job in the world. But, even so, it is not absolutely perfect. The testing part of the job, although fun, must be undertaken at home and for obvious reasons. And when I am writing about the experience after the fact, it can be a very lonely affair indeed.
Sex dating is getting increasingly popular, thanks not only to the internet but also to people’s mentalities getting more progressive over time. You might be at a point in your life right now where you’re not with anyone but you still desire some sort of company, or simply put you’re just looking at getting laid without the hassles that relationships can bring onto the table. So maybe sex dating could be a good thing for you, but before you jump into it there are a few rules that you should know to make your quest for sex easier and more successful.
What I miss most about having regular intimate sessions are the caresses. Casual encounters prove to be far too frenzied and temporary for my liking. I usually prefer a full-body, tactile exploration of my most sensitive areas. But, I usually go straight for my clitoris, bypassing my erogenous zones, even when I am on my own. It goes without saying that those places still crave their share of my attention. After all, it is not just a question of tits and ass.
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