Feminism Vs Femdom

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Posted on Jan 13, 2012 in Domination, Fetish Glossary, Submission | 32 comments
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Feminism has got a bad name over the years for a variety of reasons. Mostly, in our hypersexual culture of eroticised imagery, it commits the cardinal sin of being a little unsexy.

Feminism began as a movement based on the establishment of equality between the sexes. It has gone through many distinct phases since its beginnings and not all of them have been comfortable. At first, feminists wanted to be taken as seriously as men. To achieve their aim, they thought that they had to act just like men. Unfortunately, for some, that meant dressing like them as well.

Thank God for the Spice Girls. The five of them turned up in short skirts and taught us about “girl power”. They were proof that you can wear high heels and still be a feminist.

I defined myself as a feminist until I discovered  Femdom (Female Domination). Femdom usually describes the power structure of a BDSM relationship in which the dominant partner is exclusively female. As a result of her complete authority over her submissive partner, she determines the activities that define their relationship. This includes any and all of the rules and punishments that exist during those sessions.

Feminism, in its early stages, tried to do without femininity and looked down on it to some extent. Femdom doesn’t just accept femininity it takes it to another level. Female charms are emphasised and exploited like sexual weapons. Feminists believe that if you show too much cleavage you’ll never be taken seriously. Femdoms, on the other hand, know that when they flaunt their cleavage they’ll be taken very seriously indeed and so they should.

There are several Femdom utopias like Other World Kingdom (OWK) and Club Pedestal. OWK is set in a 16th century chateau in the Czech Republic. Inside it, a female is always superior to any male creatures who find themselves in her presence. Club Pedestal is a monthly event based in London. The male house slaves take care of everything if you’re a woman. That includes fetching drinks and polishing boots. They will also become furniture for the female customers exclusive use, hence the name Club Pedestal.

There are still nowhere near enough places like this and femdoms might have to fight hard to get more. That could be a problem. The spirit of struggle and protest doesn’t come as naturally to them as it did with feminists. Femdoms don’t understand why they should need to work hard for anything. In their minds they expect superior rights not equal rights. If they did have to lift a perfect painted fingernail to achieve anything they would probably turn to their slave and tell him to do it for them instead.

I know I would.

Photographs by Sebas Romero

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32 comments

  1. steffano_oh_oh says:

    is so erotic and powerful

  2. slitzerland says:

    Thighs that are such supple and the best.

  3. MrPendlebury says:

    A brilliant synthesis of witty text and remorselessly apt imagery.

  4. pastie_cupper says:

    So cool. needs dark-wave Euro anthem go ‘long with it.

  5. bananaboy69 says:

    “hot button” fodder for real. :-)

  6. spread_like_Drozd says:

    Much thanks for this from Polski

  7. Todspangles says:

    Poised perfectly between an innate philosophical contradiction and teasing, gorgeous imagery.

  8. spomhead says:

    lighting is very remarkable

  9. tai-atari says:

    you are so sexy fetish and Spice Girls also!

  10. WellSlavish says:

    This is how I want to be dommed! Yes, yes…just like this.

  11. li'l_bean_flicker says:

    the chiaroscuro/retro thing never fails. Gets me going every time.

  12. guavamaniac777 says:

    So great for me!

  13. cool_lulu says:

    Great!

  14. Jeevesie says:

    Looking stern is so sexy!

  15. baibiebare says:

    You’re amazing!

  16. catcher says:

    Very interesting points. I read this as part of my research into female attitudes to female dominance, particularly the attitude a feminist might take. I have to say the last paragraph is one of the funniest things I’ve read in a longtime.

    I would argue that feminism and female supremacy/ femdom are not synonymous and in some aspects are not even mutually compatible if only because culturally there are too many contradictions in femdom.

    For example, many would regard forced feminisation as misogynistic, particularly if used as a means of humiliating a man.

    Some would regard dildo/anal training as assuming that dominance is a quirk of biology by equating penetration with domination. That is, in order to dominate a lady has to adopt masculine physiological characteristics in order to dominate.

    The very role of the dominatrix itself may be considered highly sexualized; thus confirming the genders role as sexual beings.

    As you said yourself, feminists assumed that to be taken seriously they would have to act in a masculine fashion. I sometimes wonder whether submissive men fall into the same trap by assuming a dominant woman should dominate them in a masculine fashion.

    Which just goes to show that over intellectualizing issues pertaining to bedroom activities is nonsense and always leads to confused ideas. When someone is turned on they are hardly going to view their excitement so dispassionately as to consider whether or not its politically correct.

    Femdom is a celebration of the power of feminine sexuality and its ability to emasculate men. I’m sure many of the men here would agree that they never feel more alive or free than when submitting to a lady, if only because they are liberated from the pressure to be in charge. Though it may be a reaction to patriarchial societies fear of genuine equality (something I instinctively sense rather than logically know), for this would lead to men having to compete with women (and they would probably lose) it is still, more often than not, formed by patriarchial societies expectations and prejudices. To surrender of one’s own free will eliminates the need to compete.

    Feminism is an attempt to emancipate women legally, socially and intellectualy and there is still a way to go. The last one will be the hardest; changing societies expectations of what women can be as well as how they need to act in order to be taken seriously.

    I don’t expect you to publish this.

  17. Hank says:

    It’s all I want like I feel if I love a girl I may submit to them and I love it I’m very submissive but only to the women I love I feel the only way to show them that I love them is to devote my self to them.

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