Feminism has got a bad name over the years for a variety of reasons. Mostly, in our hypersexual culture of eroticised imagery, it commits the cardinal sin of being a little unsexy.

Feminism began as a movement based on the establishment of equality between the sexes. It has gone through many distinct phases since its beginnings and not all of them have been comfortable. At first, feminists wanted to be taken as seriously as men. To achieve their aim, they thought that they had to act just like men. Unfortunately, for some, that meant dressing like them as well.

Thank God for the Spice Girls. The five of them turned up in short skirts and taught us about “girl power”. They were proof that you can wear high heels and still be a feminist.

I defined myself as a feminist until I discovered  Femdom (Female Domination). Femdom usually describes the power structure of a BDSM relationship in which the dominant partner is exclusively female. As a result of her complete authority over her submissive partner, she determines the activities that define their relationship. This includes any and all of the rules and punishments that exist during those sessions.

Feminism, in its early stages, tried to do without femininity and looked down on it to some extent. Femdom doesn’t just accept femininity it takes it to another level. Female charms are emphasised and exploited like sexual weapons. Feminists believe that if you show too much cleavage you’ll never be taken seriously. Femdoms, on the other hand, know that when they flaunt their cleavage they’ll be taken very seriously indeed and so they should.

There are several Femdom utopias like Other World Kingdom (OWK) and Club Pedestal. OWK is set in a 16th century chateau in the Czech Republic. Inside it, a female is always superior to any male creatures who find themselves in her presence. Club Pedestal is a monthly event based in London. The male house slaves take care of everything if you’re a woman. That includes fetching drinks and polishing boots. They will also become furniture for the female customers exclusive use, hence the name Club Pedestal.

There are still nowhere near enough places like this and femdoms might have to fight hard to get more. That could be a problem. The spirit of struggle and protest doesn’t come as naturally to them as it did with feminists. Femdoms don’t understand why they should need to work hard for anything. In their minds they expect superior rights not equal rights. If they did have to lift a perfect painted fingernail to achieve anything they would probably turn to their slave and tell him to do it for them instead.

I know I would.

Photographs by Sebas Romero

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