Sex & Relationships

This blog was initially intended to be a fetish blog. Soon after its creation in 2009,  I began collaborating with a wide variety of Spanish media outlets including: GQ, El País, Playboy, Objetivo Bienestar, Primera Linea, Interviu and Antena 3 TV amongst others. As this was at a time that predated the 50 Shades of Grey era, I was asked to write about general sex and relationships topics .

In this category, you will find translations of my articles that were originally published in Spanish media. Including topics such as: masturbation, orgasms, infidelity, sexual confessions, sex tips, singles, dating, online dating, cybersex, sexting, advice, myths and much more.

Articles are published every Friday.

If you want to read my sex toy reviews click here.

How Many Independent Women Do You Know?

When I read Bridget Jones’ Diary during my teenage years, I hoped that I wouldn’t end up like her. That is to say, a thirty-something, childless, single woman spending my Saturday nights wallowing in self pity and drinking wine at home on my own. It’s obvious, looking back, that Bridget didn’t own a decent vibrator.

Lesbian Porn for Straight Men

Lesbian porn isn’t the same as ‘porn for lesbians’ or ‘porn for bi women’. Lesbian porn is, without doubt, focused on the needs of the male spectator with its obsessive focus on close-up, gynaecological shots and surgically enhanced actresses with long, fake nails that look like claws. That detail in particular is a big no-no when it comes to sex between women. Another, typical feature is an overemphasis on the use of sex toys like dildos and harnesses. During my sapphic era, it would never have occurred to me to sit on a sofa and lick a dildo with another girl but that scenario is sadly typical in lesbian porn.

What Will the Sex Toys of the Future Be Like?

Have you ever wondered what the sex toys of the future will be like? I have. I looked into my crystal ball and this is what I saw. I’m not sure what year it is, but I see that I have a few grey hairs and wrinkles. It’s a sunny morning and I wake up in my future house in the country.

Are Naked Selfies Liberating?

Some people believe that a selfie is only an expression of narcissism, but for me it can be much more than that. We live in a society obsessed with physical perfection and a culture that seems to be addicted to cosmetic surgery and PhotoShop. On the one hand, we are bombarded by advertising imagery on TV and in magazines that lie to us constantly and promote beauty ideals that are unachievable. On the other hand, when a media celebrity is ‘caught’ on the beach displaying a little cellulite, or carrying few extra kilos, they are ridiculed.

The Price of Luxury Orgasms

The more money you spend on something, the higher your expectations become. This philosophy can also be applied to the world of luxury sex toys. Usually ‘luxury’, in this context, means that it is rechargeable by USB, is made of a non-porous material such as soft medical-grade silicone, has powerful, yet silent, motors and features organic shapes. That is to say, that the less it looks like a real penis, the better.

The Sticky World of Lubricants

The Sticky World of Lubricants: “Made with natural ingredients.” I read once in large letters on the packaging of lubricant from a brand that I won’t mention. After reading the list of ingredients, however, I discovered that apart from Aloe Vera extract, the remainder of the ingredients list consisted of substances with long and unpronounceable names. I doubted that they were natural.

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