Although I don’t own a TV myself, I still watch a fair amount of trash on YouTube after a long day’s work. One programme that I enjoy in particular is ‘Britain and Ireland’s Next Top Model’. I love discovering their modelling tips and tricks, because posing in front of a camera has been a huge part of my life for the last ten years. Each week, the programme features different themed photoshoots; the least successful model gets sent home. At the beginning of the competition, there is an obligatory ‘no make-up photo shoot’. For the models, the reality of having to scrub their faces clean is always traumatic, to the point where many of them end up in tears. For them, make-up is their armour and they feel naked and vulnerable without it. Interestingly, taking their make-up off made them feel more exposed than actually taking their clothes off. I find the whole thing amusing. However, I must admit that there was a time when I would have empathised completely with their fear of going barefaced. I started wearing make-up at my Catholic high school. Although the nuns were strict, fortunately they never made me wash it off. Thanks be to God. Back then, I was obsessed with covering my face as much as possible. I absolutely hated my translucent white skin with its freckles, and especially when it became red during PE lessons. I used as much base as possible to hide my complexion: foundation, concealer and powder. I […]
The word fetish derives from 15th century Portuguese feitiço, which meant charm or spell. A fetish is an object believed to have supernatural powers, or in particular, a man-made object that has power over others. Essentially, fetishism is the attribution of inherent value or powers to an object. The terms “erotic fetish” and “sexual fetish” were first introduced by the French psychologist Alfred Binet in the 1940s.
Today a “fetish” is an object, non-reproductive body part or action whose presence or existence causes excitement and/or arousal in an individual. An object might be latex or heels, a non-sexual body part could be legs or feet and tickling or smoking are examples of actions.
“Fetish” is also used as an adjective that relates to anything connected to the world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadomasochism) such as fetish wear or fetish clubs.
Please find Venus O’Hara’s Fetish Glossary below with definitions and images.
An Afternoon of Foot Worship
‘Sit down and close your eyes’, he says, pointing to a black leather sofa. I obey, a little surprised that he wants to get down to business as soon as I arrive at his office. He covers my eyes with a blindfold and I sigh. Suddenly I feel a lot more relaxed, because from this point onwards, I know that I won’t have to do or think about anything; I can just lie down and enjoy some superior quality foot worship. He unties the laces of my red Converse and takes them off with great care. I notice the cold temperature of the tiled floor through the thin fabric of my white socks. Then, he grabs my ankle and raises it before resting it on his shoulder. I sigh again and throw my head back, relaxing even more. He grabs my other ankle, but instead of putting it on his other shoulder, he holds it firmly, making me feel like his prey and I start to notice my arousal. Photos by Lourdes Ribas Moments later, he releases me and begins to peel my sock off very slowly, as if he were undressing me. My socks suddenly seem to have the same significance as a pair of panties. I can feel the cold air against my skin and then a breath of hot air from his mouth that takes me by complete surprise. I feel his warm wet kisses on my skin as each new piece of it is exposed. As soon as […]
The Empress’ New Latex Catsuit – A Fetish Fairy Tale by Venus O’Hara
Photo by Lourdes Ribas Once upon a time in a far away fetish kingdom there lived an incredibly vain Empress who was obsessed with alternative fashion, particularly latex. She loved everything about it: the way it clung to her curves, its distinctive smell and even the diver-esque sounds it produced every time she moved. In fact, she adored it so much that she spent all the kingdom’s taxes on getting bespoke outfits made for herself. She had a different one for every hour of the day. Often when people asked for her, her slaves would say “The Empress is in her boudoir getting dressed”. She couldn’t give two hoots about keeping her people in line, the dwindling economy or international diplomacy. All she cared about was public appearances, lavish banquets and any other opportunity to flaunt her new clothes in public. The Empress lived in a palace with her many slaves and Trumpy, her beloved poodle who never left her side. However only her two most trusted slaves, Summers and Winters, had permanent access to her private chambers. They had both been serving her throughout her entire reign. In spite of the fact that they had very much in common, they actually couldn’t stand each other and they were in constant competition for the Empress’ attention. One was always trying to outdo the other with extravagant acts of worship. The Empress found their rivalry amusing and only used it to her advantage and as a result, she had become increasingly more […]
Venus O’Hara’s Official Calendar 2015
Most official calendars require a lot of preparation and although mine was no different (I stayed up until 6am to finish it), there was no stylist, make-up artist, hairdresser and most importantly, no post production. We live in an era of fake imagery from operated bodies that are later photoshopped to oblivion, but I think that perfection is anti-fetish, simply because it isn’t real. I’ve been producing my own official calendars since 2010 and I was looking for a theme for 2015 and after some hesitation it became obvious that it just had to be another calendar of selfies, seeing as I have taken almost ten thousand selfies this year so far. If you follow me on Twitter you will know that I publish an erotic selfie every morning, but to get that one single image, it often takes time and I inevitably end up with lots of outtakes. So I’ve decided to put some of those unpublished images to good use and include them in my calendar with my most popular hashtags on social media. Although I never photoshop my images, I often use some sort of filter, however, for this calendar I’ve decided to go completely natural. I hope you like it! [optin-monster-shortcode id=”upn4k7ncnf-post”] #NoMakeUpSelfie They say that the beginning of a new year gives us the opportunity to make a fresh start. #SexToyTester As part of the review process that I go through after I’ve received a new box of sex toys to test, I never forget […]
CFNM vs CMNF (Femdom)
When I came across the acronym CFNM on Twitter recently associated with Femdom (Female Domination), I was instantly curious to find out what it meant. I was surprised to learn that in actual fact, the philosophy behind CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) was not news to me at all. As it turns out, I have been practising my own variant of it for years but I have to acknowledge that when I am faced with a choice between CFNM, and its flip side CMNF (Clothed Male Naked Female) I will invariably choose the latter option. One of my favourite things about the nature of fetishism is that almost any kink has a name. To determine one fetish from another, however, the correct designation becomes necessary. My understanding of CFNM “Clothed Female/Naked Male” is based on my interest and practice of FemDom or Female Domination. The fetishistic value of a CFNM scenario lies in the asymmetrical power relationship of its participants to the way in which they are dressed. A fully dressed woman, or group of women, can be placed in direct fetishistic contrast to a naked man, or group of men. Nakedness often compels vulnerability, reticence and shame when the other member, or members of a scene are dressed and have the dominant role. A CFNM scenario can explore sexual or non-sexual practices, male submission fantasies and/or elements of male display, performance or exhibitionism. Female domination becomes a natural extension of these forms of gender identity roleplaying. In contrast, CMNF […]
The Benefits of Bondage Tape
I love playing bondage games and I take great pleasure from the care and attention that has to be put into perfecting some of its more elaborate forms. Something like shibari, with all of its meticulous attention to detail, can be spectacular in its aesthetics and deliciously restrictive in its function. It takes a lot of preparation and demands a lot of skill and plenty of time to execute it properly and make it authentic. Bondage tape is an easy alternative if I am feeling a little lazy or if I want a sense of surprise and spontaneity. It’s cheap to buy, quick to apply and avoids the feeling of claustrophobia that heavy, unyielding rope can cause. Bondage tape is also incredibly versatile and it can adapt to almost any variation of tying, strapping or wrapping that you can think of. Bondage tape, because of a deceptively weak appearance when it is tugged free of its cardboard reel, can fool you into imagining that it is a slightly vanilla option. It’s comical variety of bright colours and a resemblance to thin latex certainly gives that impression. The real value of bondage tape can be felt, quite literally, when layers of it begin to criss-cross your breasts and are used to secure your wrists and ankles together like metal cuffs. Finally, when the bondage tape is peeled away, the feeling it leaves on the skin is very similar to latex and so is the clammy sensation. If you want to exploit […]