As a model, I’d become used to the process of posing for a photographer, having a great many shots taken of me and then waiting for those images to be taken away on a portable drive and sorted through by someone else. When I could see them finally, so a final selection could be made, a week or a fortnight had gone by. There’s something liberating about taking nude selfies of myself instead. I can have complete control over the creative process, setting and time. I can see the images at my leisure and, if I didn’t quite get what I wanted, I can take a few minutes out and repeat the process without taking too much time. Once, I had hundreds of pictures taken just to get a handful of ones that I approved of. Now, knowing exactly what I want, the same result can be arrived at with hardly any effort at all. With the sophistication of smartphone technology these days, and the increasingly high-quality of the cameras they contain, it is possible for anyone to be a glamour model. An arousing shot of a provocative pose can be captured in an instant and sent to lovers on whatsapp. A sexy selfie can be posted on Twitter just as quickly. When I strip and pose to shoot my “Good Morning” pictures I know that just after, I’ll be putting my hoodie back on again. After posting that days image I wait for the first comments to come in. […]
Glove fetishism is a specific clothing fetish where an individual is attracted to, and stimulated by the sight of another person, or themselves, wearing gloves on their hands. The potency of the fetish can be enhanced by the material that the glove is made from: leather, cotton, latex, PVC, satin or nylon.
In gloves fetish, the actions of a gloved hand can be just as arousing as the glove itself. This can be explained by the material of the glove becoming a fetishistic “stand-in” for the skin of the wearer. Even the smallest, subtlest movements by gloved fingers-or of the whole hand-can represent a source of tremendous visual and sound stimulus.
The act of putting gloves on, or slipping them off the hands, can also be the fulfilment of a profound glove fetish fantasy and some fetishists also specify certain lengths, for example the long opera-style or short cuff-length form. Sometimes fetishists integrate gloves into preferred fantasy outfits like those worn by nurses, policewomen or French maids.
Some individuals go as far as using gloves on themselves or others as a form of sexual stimulation. Thin latex medical gloves are most commonly used by gloves fetishists for this but thick, brightly coloured, household rubber gloves can also have an attraction.
I could never truly appreciate how much physical effort a man puts in to having sex until I had experienced strap-on sex. I wonder if this is the reason why few women are really committed to having strap-on sex. There is another explanation for this. A woman who has to wear a harness, just so that she can use a dildo on another woman, might not enjoy playing such a traditionally masculine role in bed. I have to admit that I prefer to be on the receiving end in strap-on sex. This is especially true when I imagine a female lover who can offer me a penis that is permanently hard as well as a pair of breasts simultaneously. That is the fantasy scenario that attracts me. The reality of strap-on sex can be a little different. It is still a challenge to find a good quality harness matched up to a suitable dildo. Harnesses can be difficult to put on and to wear for any length of time without rubbing against the skin. I also find that unsecured dildos slide around too much and are far too large for any sustained use. From a practical point of view, the shaft is also positioned a lot higher than it would be with a real man. Anyway, if I have to walk around a room with a long length of stiff silicon bouncing up and down between my legs I can not be blamed if I start laughing about it. If […]
Cyberslave: My New Short Film
Cyberslave is a short film that tells the story of a struggling dominatrix and her relationship with Slave X. It explores the dynamics of a D/s relationship, Financial Domination, virtual relationships, during the current economic crisis.. …. But who is the slave? This is the first time I have taken to scriptwriting, I hope you enjoy it! I have always questioned the power dynamics in a D/s relationship when there is money involved. I’ve always believed that the person who pays is the one in charge. Especially if the money is used for everyday living costs, and therefore the dominatrix relies on her slaves’ contributions to live. This calls into question who really has the power. In Cyberslave I wanted to explore the how a financial domme tries to maintain control of her slave and herself, despite her total lack of control over her own situation. Written by and Starring Venus O’Hara Directed by Antón González and Vicente González Make-up and Art Direction: Mariam Elazzouzi Produced by La Isla
50 shades of Venus
In case you hadn’t realised, Planet Venus is back. It may seem perverse for me to be away from my regular writing responsibilities at this time. BDSM has suddenly become the literary flavour of the year with the publishing phenomenon of “50 Shades of Grey” taking the mainstream reading habits of the world by storm. In this eroticized and aroused moment in time you might think that I’ve been neglecting my proper duties and the philosophy behind my all important web. Although my loyal slaves have been working around the clock, they can only achieve so much on their own before I have to take the initiative again and do the things for Planet Venus that only I am qualified to do. Nevertheless, I see the distinctive cover of “50 Shades of Grey” and its sequels appearing in increasing numbers on the metro, in cafes and being read on benches in municipal parks. Everyone has either read it, is reading it or feels that they need to have an opinion about it. In my mind this can only be a good thing. It is still only fiction however. What happens when all of those readers feel the need to experiment with BDSM in their real lives? If you really want to discover how fulfilling and exciting BDSM can be but you are reluctant to do so because of any pre-conceptions you might still have then let me reassure you. BDSM can be so much fun that it’s almost a scandal […]
I bought this vintage dress because it seemed so innocent. It was almost the thing a puritan might wear to church. That thought passed through my mind when I chose it to wear to the Fashion and Fetish show at The Brandery in Barcelona. When I was waiting for my connection at the metro I was suddenly aware of the lingerie I was wearing beneath it. It would be so easy for a gust of wind to reveal to other commuters just what lay underneath the puritan outerwear. The underwear was a lot different. Some people asked me why I hadn’t gone wearing latex or some other kinky material. What they didn’t realise or could have known was that I had planned my underwear very carefully for its powerful fetish content. My black high heels were obvious, of course. So was a small amount of retro-seamed coffee coloured stocking clinging to each leg. I had chosen the stockings at the same time as the pointed bullet bra that gave my bust such a distinctive outline. They could only have come from What Katie Did. Further up my vintage stockinged legs, the six-strap suspender belt felt tight against my thighs and waist. I knew my derriere was clearly visible through the sheer, black panties. There was no way to hide it if there was an accidental upskirt moment or even a deliberate one. What I really wanted was to recreate the famous poster image from the film “Secretary”. The model is […]
Lipstick and Leather Gloves Fetish
It is quite common for me to be asked what my favourite fetish is. Believe it or not, that is not a question that I can answer very easily. My taste in fetishes can be dependent upon my mood or even the time of the year I find myself in. In Winter, I can indulge myself by wearing stockings and suspenders, latex dresses, designer corsets, tight woollen sweaters and, especially, leather gloves. Although I’m looking forward to warmer temperatures and the approach of Summer, it will be a shame to pack my burgundy-coloured Marks and Spencer gloves away. I’m holding on to them for as long as I can. I remember that I was in the U.K. and on a mission to do some shopping when I saw these gloves. I had intended to buy some things that I missed from home but I forgot all that when I saw the rack that the leather gloves were displayed on. I went over immediately and looked for a pretty black pair in my size. Black leather goes with absolutely everything where clothes are concerned. Then, I had an idea. My usual lipstick colour is either MAC Red or MAC Vino lipliner. What if I wore gloves that matched my lips? I saw this pair and they were exactly the same shade. Their fit was perfect and the leather, when I opened and shut my hand, was soft and smooth with a rich and arousing aroma. I didn’t want to take them […]
Getting Ready for Barcelona Fetish Weekend
Barcelona Fetish weekend is back this year with the stern intention of being bigger, better and badder this time around. It’s now the biggest fetish event on the Mediterranean and shouldn’t be missed under any circumstances. You know the place but, between us, it’s going to run from 13th-15th April 2012. Come along with us and join all the kinky events with your head set up for constant fun and games. It really doesn’t matter what your fetish is, you’ll find more than enough to keep you interested and eager. You may well discover a taste for some specialities that you hadn’t even considered before. That’s what Barcelona Fetish Weekend is all about and this one will never let you down in any way that really counts. PROGRAM OF EVENTS (SUBJECT TO CHANGE) Friday 13th April – The Main Event, Bondage Bash Venue: EiTwo – C/ MIQUEL TORELLÓ PAGÈS, 5, 08750 Molins de Rei Time: 2300-0500hrs STRICT DRESS CODE Saturday 14th April – Fetish Cabaret Cocktails and Dinner Venue: Cabaret Berlin – Carrer Bailen 22, 08010 Barcelona Time: 2100 – 0500hrs STRICT DRESS CODE. Sunday 15th April – Kinky Bus Tour Venue: Pickup from Hotel Onix Fira, C/ Llançà, 30, 08015 Barcelona Time: 1400-1700hrs DRESS CODE ADVISED BUT NOT OBLIGATORY I’ve been waiting months for this and I can’t wait! [nggallery id=38] Photography by Sebas Romero
Tea and Sex
I’m a tea fetishist. That doesn’t really mean that I get turned on by drinking tea or that was what I used to think. I was born in the U.K. and tea was never seen as being sexy. My idea of tea fetishism is based on the rituals around drinking it in public and the tense formality of tea-time. All of the habits associated with this strange custom, like poking your little finger out when you raise the cup to your lips, turn me on in different ways. I prefer green tea and I’ve never got any other type in the house. I was surprised and amused recently when I read a report that green tea can do some wonderful things to your sex life. I’d already suspected it but it’s always reassuring to know that I’m right. According to the study the use of green tea over a 10 week period can improve your stamina by as much as 24%. The University of Washington collected data on 6 different couples. Fifty percent had been offered green tea. The others had not. After the ten weeks were up, the couples who only drank green tea reported back that it had dramatically affected their sex life. As well as being happier and more relaxed they confirmed that they had sex more often and for longer than they’d done for a long time. A direct link between the tea and fertility was outside the scope of the study but it seems that […]
When I think of the motorbike fetish I remember the film Grease 2. The character of Stephanie, played by Michelle Pfeiffer, has a very specific vision of her ideal man. She dreams of a mysterious lone biker who appears from nowhere, displays his power and disappears into the night. I love it when a clean-cut English student, played by Maxwell Caulfield, plays into her fantasy, buys a bike and picks her up outside her house at night. He becomes her ideal cool rider. I’m not a fan of motorbikes myself but I adore the biker look. For me, that has to include an all-in-one leather outfit, leather gloves and a black helmet with a dark visor that makes the wearer anonymous. This clothing projects an image of unknown intentions and fetish potential to me. For other motorbike fetishists, Barcelona is the perfect place to enjoy themselves and their kink. The city streets are full of bikes and their riders. They are constantly weaving in and around private cars, taxis and each other. According to La Vanguardia, Barcelona has the second highest motorbike ownership per inhabitant in Europe. I can believe that. Before we began this shoot, the photographer showed me his new motorbike helmet with pride. He let me pose in it so I could contrast my nakedness with being anonymous.I pulled on his gloves and I covered my bare breasts with my hands. I was topless but my nipples were protected by a layer of soft, black leather. I […]
5 Winter Fetishes
Winter fetishes need to be enjoyed by everyone when they have the chance. Sometimes, it’s the short period of time that you can appreciate them that makes them so important. Gloves fetish Wearing gloves in cold weather isn’t just necessary, it’s a real pleasure. In Winter, the sensual importance of a pair of gloves can be increased by the material that they are made from. They can be wool, cotton or leather. All of those materials become a fetishistic “stand-in” for the skin of the wearer. The movements of a gloved hand can be just as exciting as the feel of the glove itself. Photo by Victor Ag Leather Fetish Wearing leather in warm weather is always a tough call but in Winter it’s a perfect sensual pleasure. It’s as exciting for yourself as it is for others. When you’re walking around outside in frosty weather and you’re comfortable inside your protective jacket you feel like you’re wearing warm armour. The cold atmosphere focuses the animal smell of the leather and amplifies the wonderful creaking sounds it makes. Photo by Sebas Romero Fur Fetish The power of the fur fetish can be explained by its controversial qualities. The main reason to wear them in Winter, however, is for their amazing qualities of insulation against the cold. Almost as important is the way that furs give a woman presence, power and authority. A woman will never be ignored or walk by unnoticed if she is wearing soft and warm furs. Photo […]
The Rise of The Armpit Fetish
The armpit fetish has moved into the mainstream so far that you only have to look at the covers of recent – high-end – fashion magazines to see its effect. If you are an armpit fetishist and you visit a news stand you could be forgiven for thinking that your favourite erogenous zone had also become the most popular trend this season. There has never been a better time to be an armpit fetishist than now. This focus on underarms is only the latest in a series of body parts that have caught the imagination of editors and photographers. This list has already featured toe-cleavage and side-boobs. One modelling agency insider admitted recently that: “There’s a definite fad for armpit posing at the moment…but they’ve got to be pits to be proud of – smooth and hairless only please.” The most infamous past exception to this current rule was the actress Julia Roberts who – at the premiere of Notting Hill in 1999 – had no problem with baring her hairy armpits. The armpit fetish can appeal in two entirely different ways or both at the same time. Some armpit fetishists are particularly attracted to them visually and they indulge themselves by collecting photos or by appreciating the voyeuristic spectacle of arms being raised in public. By contrast, there are other fetishists who find the odour and pheromones associated with armpits to be completely irresistible. In both cases, this fetish can result in the act of armpit sex. Personally, I […]
Slave Duties for Rebellious Subs
Cleaning can be the most valuable of slave duties that can be given out as a punishment. It can be repetitive and demeaning but it always gets something done that a dominatrix would never choose to do herself. The pleasure in watching someone else scrub, polish and tidy is increased by making them wear suitable clothing. This set was intended to illustrate the “Masters and Slaves” section of my book Love Me Like You Hate Me, so I I made a special point of wearing a collar that reminded me of my slave status in the scenario. It also played against my wild, red hair and glossy, lipsticked pout. I was aware of how fetishistic the heavy, rubber gloves made even my most ordinary movements seem. It was easy to play against the slave image and the the photographer noticed too. I was reminded of his lowly position when he took the photos as I was standing in a bathtub, above him and I felt anything but submissive in his presence. It became total role-play and I indulged myself in the moment at his expense. I’m a cleaning fetishist through and through and I adored this session despite, or because of, my naturally messy nature. [nggallery id=6] Photos by Guy Moberly.
My Fishnet Fantasies – Venus O’Hara
Fishnet fetish has made its own niche in the world of sexual fetishism as a significant kink with unique associations. Fishnets is hosiery with an open, diamond-shaped, knit often used for stockings, tights and bodystockings. Fishnets cling close to the skin and emphasise every curve while, simultaneously, flattering and perfecting the shape of the wearers legs. It makes them appear sleeker and longer because of the repeated pattern. When stroking the surface of legs wearing fishnets, a fetishist’s hand feels resistance from the knit along with the smoothness of skin beneath it; the contradiction of textures is never less than arousing. The shoot was planned as a featured part of the Pecha Kucha Event where Yuky will be presenting a photographic project on the imagery made possible by transparent clothing. He chose me as the featured model and I had a great many ideas about how to flaunt myself through different sheer materials. I loved the combination of ripped black fishnet tights, shocking pink panties and my discount heels. I added in red nipple tassels, elbow length-black velvet-gloves and a glossy, patterned veil. Having my hair straightened made it look even longer than usual and, in combination with the fishnets and all the transparent surfaces, the effect was exactly what I had imagined. BUY THE FEATURE NIPPLE TASSLES HERE [nggallery id=5] Photogrphy by YUKY
Gloves Fetish – Venus O’Hara
Glove fetishism is a specific clothing fetish where an individual is compelled and stimulated by the sight of another person, or themselves, wearing gloves on their hands. The effectiveness of the fetish can be enhanced by the material that the glove is made of: leather, cotton, latex, PVC, satin or nylon. In gloves fetish, the actions of a gloved hand can be just as arousing as the glove itself. This can be explained by the material of the glove becoming a fetishistic “stand-in” for the skin of the wearer. Even the smallest, subtlest movements by gloved fingers, or of the whole hand, can assume tremendous visual and sound stimulus, igniting profound sensual and sexual arousal. The simple act of putting gloves on, or slipping them off the hands, can also be the fulfillment of a profound glove fetish fantasy and some glove fetishists also specify certain lengths, for example the long opera-style or short cuff length. Sometimes fetishists integrate gloves into preferred fantasy outfits like those worn by nurses, policewomen or French maids. In addition to their stylised appearance, some individuals go as far as using gloves on themselves or others as a form of sexual stimulation. Thin latex medical gloves are most commonly used by gloves fetishists but thick, brightly coloured, household rubber gloves can also have an attraction all of their own. In this set I can be seen wearing the PVC, elbow-length gloves that I wore in my short fetish film: Love Me Like You Hate Me. […]
Most people imagine that veils are a way of hiding erotic potentials and alluring features but I know, after making this set, that veils can be ultimate fetish. A veil is an article of clothing, worn almost exclusively by women. It is intended to cover some part of the head or face and it is intended to show honour to a specific object or space. The first recorded instance of veiling for women is recorded in an Assyrian legal text from the 13th century, which restricted its use to noble women and forbade prostitutes and common women from adopting it. Ancient Greek texts have also spoken of veiling and seclusion of women being practiced among the Persian elite. Statues from Persepolis depict women both veiled and unveiled, and it seems to be regarded as an attribute of prostitution under their belief system. Sometimes veils would have been used, as an alternative to a mask, as a simple method of hiding the identity of a woman who was traveling to meet a lover, or doing anything she didn’t want other people to find out about. More practically, veils were also sometimes worn to protect the complexion from sun and wind damage (when white skin was fashionable), or to keep dust out of a woman’s face. In Judaism, Christianity and Islam the concept of covering the head is or was associated with propriety. All traditional depictions of the Virgin Mary , the mother of Christ , show her veiled. It was a […]
In BDSM, a top or dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or in a BDSM scene who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner. Domination means being able to extract excitement from the pleasure you give to a submissive by every word you speak and every gesture you make no matter how trivial. That enjoyment only increases if a submissive offers unqualified acts of worship. A male dominant may make up for a lack of control in his professional life by expressing his desire for it in the bedroom whereas a female dominant can be regarded, undeservedly, as being counter-intuitive and unnatural in her desires. Most dominants, however, find that a single whiplash is worth more than a thousand wasted words of justification. There are three variables at work in a dominant’s connection to their submissive: Firstly, dominants require a degree of dedication and attention that applies whether they are male or female. For them, the act of worship from a submissive represents a depth of adoration from an individual that simply cannot be found anywhere else. Secondly, in setting tasks and duties to an eager submissive outside of the controlling environment of their BDSM relationship, the dominant understands that the submissive derives nothing but pure joy from the distance application of their adoration. When the submissive is busily proving his or her dedication to the material needs of their dominant even when the dominant is asleep or busy then the […]
Love Me Like You Hate Me – Teaser
I recently made my acting debut in the acclaimed short film “Love Me Like You Hate Me”, written and directed by Erika Lust, (Lust Films 2010). It is an arousing exploration of the seductive thrills of domination and the fear and excitement of submission in which I play seven characters. Now, the film has been re-edited, re-scored and re-imagined to further emphasise its unusual ability to disturb and excite with its lurid and fetishistic imagery of domestic servitude, confinement and spanking, gloves fetish, glasses fetish, wet clothes fetish and much more. In its new form it has become an unusually kinetic and intense type of BDSM thriller which restores footage-previously regarded as too intense-of me bound hand and foot and constrained by a ball-gag, to its list of astounding highlights. I’m still shocked at how effective the following teaser is and I can hardly wait to see the more provocative cut of the film when it debuts soon. Photo above by Kristyan Geyr Images TEASER LOVE ME LIKE YOU HATE ME Cargado por lustfilms. – Mira más videos de TV y películas.
The Fetish Appeal of Masks
In ancient Rome, persona meant ‘a mask’ and the word mask came via French masque and either Italian maschera or Spanish máscara and its possible ancestor is the Latin (not classical) mascus, masca which means “ghost”. In modern terms a mask is an article worn on the face, typically for protection, concealment, performance or amusement. The fetish appeal of masks is founded on their enduring powers of pretence and play. For a submissive a mask hides his or her likeness beneath an undifferentiated screen that indicates their captive state. It is for the dominant that the real influence of a false face can be found. For them the correct mask can combine, simultaneously, the hiding of personal identity with the promotion of a powerful and intimidating image. Any obvious indications of enjoyment or vulnerability are obscured; it is the assumed persona that prevails. I felt anonymous behind the catwoman disguise but my most significant features loomed large in the lens of the camera. My huge and hungry eyes stared out of the slits cut in the mask and my rich, pouting mouth appeared beneath it like the homicidal promise of a sensual predator. The photographer shrunk back as I felt a different Venus flaunt her power. Buy the featured PVC gloves here. Photography by Sebas Romero.
Remembering my Time in Paris – Venus O’Hara
Photos by David Vega I remember my first ever French lesson at high school vividly. I listened attentively and took special care with my usually messy notes. I wrote neatly and underlined the titles with two red lines. I smelled the brand new Tricolore text book and dreamed that one day I would study French at University and have the opportunity to live in France. Years later I was living my dream studying French at uni and I was about to choose a year abroad programme. I had dreamed of living in the South of France in a small picturesque town by the sea and doing an Erasmus (orgasmus) programme. Unfortunately economic reality struck and I had to choose a work placement instead. So dreams of palm trees and Mediterranean life were shattered and images of Paris started to appear in my mind. Admittedly, my initial feeling was disappointment but then I started getting used to the idea. It took me a few months to adapt to Parisian life. Being in a foreign country was one thing but also adapting to working and non-campus life was equally challenging. I worked in a multinational near La Defense and I rented a studio close to Place de Vosges in Le Marais. Weekends were lonely at first but that changed when I discovered the “FUSAC” magazine and I became involved in many expat social groups and French classes for foreigners after work. Soon enough I made many friends and my out of work agenda […]
I have no liking for housework, in fact, I hate it. Being a domestic goddess just means endless repetitions of the same futile chores. They have no seductive potential for me. That’s the point though. What seem like dull duties to me, become highly arousing to a cleaning fetishist who will always appreciate my efforts and my outfit. To entertain myself I wear my yellow marigold gloves and a tiny apron. To stimulate my audience I add my discount heels and a sheer top to the ensemble. I can make any domestic duty look sexy. I think that the popularity of this fetish is based on the the movements that women make when they do things around the house. When they are on all fours, scrubbing steps and floors, the regular rhythm of their hips, forwards and backwards, duplicates the way they might look when they’re having great sex. When they’re dusting they inevitably push their bottoms out, proudly. Who could resist? Photos by Daniel Bauer.