Corset Fetish

Corsets are a key component in sexual fetishism, most obviously in BDSM activities. In a BDSM scene or relationship, a submissive can wear a corset which could be laced very tightly and give an adjustable degree of restriction to the wearer.

A dominant can also wear a corset-often black-but for a completely different reason, such as aesthetics. The garment, when worn correctly and fitted precisely is almost guaranteed to promote a commanding appearance. It becomes a type of armour and the tightness of its styling and the material of its construction adds an inflexible quality to the authority and presence of the dominant.

A very common fetish costume for women is the dominatrix one. She would usually wear a corset or bustier with stockings and high-heeled footwear of some sort. High boots are quite common as they enhance the woman’s stature and capacity to dominate while the corset flaunts her decision to sculpt and control her own shape. A specially designed corset, in which the breasts and vulva are exposed can be worn during vanilla sex or in other BDSM activities.

The Pain of Retro Lingerie

When I think about wearing retro lingerie, I always remember the pain it gives you just to get the right look. Dressing for a retro lingerie shoot takes up more time than any other. This is especially true if there’s a corset involved. I have to remind myself to attach my favourite six-strap suspender belt to my stockings before the corset is laced up because it’s almost impossible to do it afterwards. I always have a few problems with fitting...

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I forget how effective my rebellious red curls are as a shield for my neck; it feels so covered up when I wear it down. That all changes when I wear my hair up, then my neck feels naked, exposed and available to endless sets of hungry eyes. Its exposure makes me instantly aware of minor shifts in room temperature, sharp drafts from open windows and odd alterations of atmosphere. That edgy awareness extends to the instant effect its display seems to have...