Collar Fetish

In collar fetishism, a submissive wears a collar to represent his or her status as an owned creature or as property possessed by a dominant or goddess. To be “collared” is a term that recognises the arrangement or relationship between a Top or a Bottom in a BDSM relationship.

The term “Collar” can refer to any device that symbolises the subordination of the owned partner. A standard form is a dark, leather band around the neck that incorporates fittings to permit the attachment and continued use of a leash. A leash is particularly useful when utilised in an extended role-play scenario that is centred on humiliation.

At a purely physical level, wearing a collar at home in the absence of a dominant can summon up his or her presence and bring a greater sense of emotional connection through the tactile sensation of the accessory.

They are often owned and attached by the dominant as part of a ceremony. This can also include the signing of a submission contract as well. For some, such ceremonies can be considered an equivalent to marriage.

Slave Duties

Slave Duties Cleaning can be the most valuable of slave duties that can be given out as a punishment. It can be repetitive and demeaning but it always gets something done that a dominatrix would never choose to do herself. The pleasure in watching someone else scrub, polish and tidy is increased by making them wear suitable clothing. This set was intended to illustrate the “Masters and Slaves” section of my book Love Me Like You Hate Me, so I I made a special...
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Hoodie Fetish

Hoodie Fetish The hoodie fetish went mainstream on every news channel, in every country, this summer. Between 6th and 10th August, numerous London districts and – in a series of copycat incidents – other cities and towns in England saw widespread acts of rioting, looting and arson. When I saw all those feral teenagers out shopping aggressively in high street sports shops, electrical retailers and designer boutiques I thought to myself “it must be cold...
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Love Me Like You Hate Me 2

Love Me Like You Hate Me 2 A few years ago, when I was an English teacher, I recall giving a class called “The power of music”. It was a listening exercise in which an expert explained the link between music and emotions; for instance, the way classical music relaxes the listener. He went on to describe how Hollywood directors understand this link all too well. Film music tells us how and what to feel and manipulates us emotionally. The saddest scene in a film is often...
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Submission

Submission In BDSM a bottom or submissive is the partner in a BDSM relationship or a BDSM scene who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role, to that of the top or the dominant. Many submissives are high-flying professional males seeking escape from their almost overwhelming responsibilities and their power to determine the fates of their employees in public. They do this by assuming their subordinate role in private and by enjoying the fantasy of having no...
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Menswear

Menswear I’ve started to develop deep hatred towards ties, or rather tie-wearers. After working in an office full of them, I am annoyed by the status they try to transmit when in actual fact they are nothing behind that tie. I worked in luxury real estate for two years and I was the number one agent. Nobody could touch me, I was responsible for over 90% of the agency’s operations during the time I was there. One day my boss, who was in a tie of course,...
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