Bondage

Bondage is the art of restraining someone or tying them up in some way that induces intense feelings of sexual gratification for both parties in opposite ways. It can be as simple as tying a simple knot or as sophisticated as Shibari or Japanese rope bondage. The person being tied up can relax and allow the person doing the tying to provide pleasure for them, which in this case is related to feelings of helplessness and lack of free-will. The individual doing the tying up derives an equal and opposite enjoyment from their own feelings of empowerment. Power, in this context of discipline for the sake of arousal, must not be abused. It will never become an issue as long as both partners approach bondage games in an atmosphere of mutual trust.

Being tied up by someone you trust implicitly allows you to feel protected and cherished in a way that can’t be experienced at any other time. Tying someone up, on the other hand, makes you feel trusted and needed by them in return.

It is taken for granted that people in high powered jobs like these kind of sexual games, because they are able to let someone else take control so that they can lose control. It is also fair to say that it is usually imaginative people who enjoy these games, because they are better able to get lost inside them.

Items that can be used for restraints can include ropes, scarves, neck-ties, ribbons, underwear or hosiery.

Bondage for Lazy Lovers

Sex isn’t always mind-blowing, and if you only like explosive sex with people that you’re really attracted to, then as a singleton, you can either wait until you find someone who really inspires you (although you might be waiting a long time) or you can masturbate excessively. It can be very frustrating. This is when resorting to a “second class shag” can become tempting.  It’s never a good idea to go down to third or forth division…, one has to have some standards! By “second class” I mean someone you like, but perhaps that particular person doesn’t make you go weak at the knees, no matter how drunk you are. For me, the desire for real sex isn’t necessarily synonymous with the desire to explore another body, (I reserve that for my first class encounters). Perhaps I just want to be selfish and it’s in these second division shag situations that I’ve found that bondage is the perfect solution for lazy lovers, as my passive state is justified all of a sudden.   Thanks to a couple of knots, it can suddenly seem like a first class shag. Photos by Lourdes Ribas For more Foot Fetish and Bondage photos form this session, see the full set (32 photos) in theMEMBER’S AREA Members | Billing Support

Ankle Fetish

There is a primitive thrill associated with properly applied ankle restraint. The heady eroticism that is experienced through it can often be combined with an instinctive response that can only be described as animal in nature. Ankle restraint does not have to be part of a bondage game to reveal its sexual potential. Having doggy-style sex is extremely horny on its own terms but if my lover takes the opportunity to grab my ankle, when I am powerless to resist, our excitement can be multiplied. I am not only immobilised but I am suddenly turned into a submissive creature at the mercy of my lover’s whims and capriciousness. It doesn’t get much better. Even the sensation of wearing something around the ankles is arousing; I am thinking about a particular pair of sandals, that I bought recently, that have a slightly abrasive ankle-strap. I make sure that the strap is always a little too tight when I am out walking. That subtle pressure on my ankles makes me feel more secure, more aware of that special part of my foot. No one walking past me would ever know that my feet feel “strapped-in”. They would only see me smiling if they had the time to notice anything at all. On the other hand, a fetishist would spot a clever little ankle detail on a pair of high-heels, or boots, before anything else. When bondage is applied to my ankles, the result can leave me feeling like a mermaid. Although handcuffs can […]

Fifty Shades of Grey: You’ve read the book, seen the trailer, now what?

Fifty Shades of Grey is trending again and it feels as though it never went away. The truth is, it’s always there now, in the back of our aroused minds. It is, in no small part, the responsibility of its author, E.L. James that 2012 will be remembered as a watershed for erotic literature and the portrayal of BDSM as a viable and peculiarly effective ingredient of modern sexuality. Now, we have seen the first trailer to the forthcoming Fifty Shades of Grey film. Everyone seems to be watching it, talking about it or avoiding it in case it does not live up to their private visualisation of the two main characters involved. Nevertheless, everyone will have to wait until Valentine’s Day 2015 to see it… If the length of the wait seems like a special type of torture then do not get overly concerned. Fifty Shades of Grey is all about BDSM. The punishing delay until fans of the books can see the film seems quite appropriate when you look at it from that perspective. If you need to keep yourself and your own personal Mr Grey distracted and entertained while you are both waiting patiently, then I can think of no better way than to take full advantage of the official Fifty Shades of Grey sex toy collection. The amazing variety of products it comprises will guarantee that neither of you will ever get bored. The collection includes toys such as vibrators, ben wah balls, G spot vibrator, […]

A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM

Introducing a little BDSM into your relationship can be a really great way to intensify things, learn your limits and become closer to your partner, but it can also be really intimidating–especially if you’ve never dabbled in it before. Perhaps you’ve been kicking around this site for awhile or you just stumbled here after wondering what BDSM was really like, either way, you’re not alone if you’re worried. Beginning a BDSM adventure can be exciting, but it’s going to take communication, honesty, and an open mind. Use this as your beginners guide and then continue to physically and intellectually explore your options. Communication Communication is key to having a successful and pleasurable BDSM relationship. You can’t dive in without discussing the semantics, rules, limits, and safe words. Make sure your partner has a full understanding of what BDSM will entail, what the different roles (dom/sub) mean and who will be who. It won’t work if you both want to be the sub or vice versa. You will also need to discuss what your limits will be. Are you okay with anal play? Paddling? What level of pain or loss of control are you willing to go to? You want to make sure you are both on the same page. It’s fun to push limits, but you don’t want to push them so far that it becomes scary or someone gets hurt. The best way to ensure no one gets hurt is to set up a safe word that you can […]

Outdoor Fetish

Although Fetish photography usually works best when it’s done in a controlled environment like a dungeon or a specially decorated studio, I like to push the boundaries. One way to do this is to perform discreetly in a public place like a pizza restaurant. Part of the fetish value can be found in the simple fact that it happens without the other customers realising that it is. Another advantage is that the event occurs halfway between a closed set and the outside world. There’s nothing quite like going outside for real though and shooting a fetish set where bystanders, voyeurs and joggers might catch a glimpse adds even more to the experience. When I’m posing outside, I have no idea what might happen. Having an unknown number of people in the background is always a risk. They may, or may not, even be aware that something provocative might be happening before their eyes or just at the periphery of their vision. What made this shoot even more thrilling and intimidating was that it took place in an area of dense woodland. That type of environment can attract and hide any number of onlookers. Some could be totally innocent. Others might have different reasons for being there. As I shed my clothes, my imagination began to suggest any number of perverse stories in my mind. I’d planned the shoot well in advance and I thought that I had everything under control and all eventualities accounted for. Then, in the distance, or […]

More Tickle Torture

Even though the summer has faded, the effect of “50 Shades of Grey” still lingers. I’m sitting at my writing desk and I’m thinking about sex. Nothing unusual there you might think. It seems to me that everyone is caught up in the meaning and uses of BDSM in their own lives and relationships. Something has been forgotten in all of those TV discussions focused on strap-ons, handcuffs and spankings. I haven’t heard any debates recently about sex and humour. Have we forgotten how to be dirty in the bedroom and actually laugh while we are doing it? I haven’t. When I think back to those times when I was turned on and trying hard not to laugh I always end up remembering the same afternoon. It was the day I was being photographed by a tickle fetishist and my ankles were tied onto a horizontal metal bar while I was blindfolded and sitting on an office chair. The tight white panties I had chosen for the shoot would look scandalous I hoped. Now that a reasonable amount of time has passed since the shoot I can appreciate just how unusual it really was. It was like a job at the time and I took it seriously. The photographer was committed to getting the most out of the session. He had rehearsed his tickling plans in perfect detail. When my stockinged legs were opened and raised  and the blindfold was fitted on my face I was defenceless. I only remember […]

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