I must admit, I’m getting really into couple’s sex toys. This may seem like a strange statement from a professional sex toy tester. But the truth is, it has taken me lots of testing to get to this point. Whenever I got some human action, I used to prefer to keep my adult novelties in their respective boxes and enjoy some rare skin to skin action whenever I the opportunity arose. Then, I would use my silicone friends to remember my sexual encounters. And sometimes, to imagine the next ones. But now that I’m getting a lot more sex, I have discovered that sex toys are the perfect compliment for keeping the passion alive in a relationship. The Discovery Kit from We-Vibe contains ten erotic novelties for solo or couple use to mark ten years of We-Vibe. The kit also contains a Womanizer Starlet as a result of their recent fusion with Womanizer. Valentine’s Day is around the corner and if you want to indulge in some sexual and sensual discovery with your partner, this kit is ideal. The advantage of a gift like this is that it is something you can enjoy together. Moreover, it will inevitably bring you closer and it will certainly provide orgasmic experiences. The We-vibe Discovery Kit is ideal for those who have limited or no experience with sex toys. You can discover clitoral stimulation, G spot stimulation, dual stimulation, anal play, as well as sensual BDSM play. It is also ideal for those who […]
Blindfolds possess unique fetishistic potential. They are particularly potent when used to experiment with the sensory deprivation of a pliable submissive within a BDSM context. There is a key fetish connected to the use of blindfolds in which the exploitation of sense pleasures is especially important. It is termed Amaurophilia and it refers almost always to the blindfolding of a woman.
For Amaurophiliacs, having sex with a compliant woman who is already wearing a blindfold or who puts one on during the act itself represents the summit of their particular fantasy. This may also include the preference for having sex in complete darkness which only increases tactile sensations and sensitivity. Wearing a blindfold increases the other lover’s sense of power. Eye-contact can be avoided completely, contrary to normal social protocols, which enables the seeing lover to take more liberties with his or her need for voyeuristic satisfaction. The thrill for the wearer of the blindfold rests in them knowing that they don’t have to do anything themselves.
The ways in which vision can be slowly, but safely, restricted are many and varied. They can range from scarves to items from an underwear drawer-the longer it takes to manufacture a DIY blindfold the better. The male fetishist maintains strict visual contact with his subject while she works on covering her eyes.
Fifty Shades of Grey: You’ve read the book, seen the trailer, now what?
Fifty Shades of Grey is trending again and it feels as though it never went away. The truth is, it’s always there now, in the back of our aroused minds. It is, in no small part, the responsibility of its author, E.L. James that 2012 will be remembered as a watershed for erotic literature and the portrayal of BDSM as a viable and peculiarly effective ingredient of modern sexuality. Now, we have seen the first trailer to the forthcoming Fifty Shades of Grey film. Everyone seems to be watching it, talking about it or avoiding it in case it does not live up to their private visualisation of the two main characters involved. Nevertheless, everyone will have to wait until Valentine’s Day 2015 to see it… If the length of the wait seems like a special type of torture then do not get overly concerned. Fifty Shades of Grey is all about BDSM. The punishing delay until fans of the books can see the film seems quite appropriate when you look at it from that perspective. If you need to keep yourself and your own personal Mr Grey distracted and entertained while you are both waiting patiently, then I can think of no better way than to take full advantage of the official Fifty Shades of Grey sex toy collection. The amazing variety of products it comprises will guarantee that neither of you will ever get bored. The collection includes toys such as vibrators, ben wah balls, G spot vibrator, […]
It was just recently that a good friend made an observation about my fetish for blindfolds. “It seems as though the main reason you wear blindfolds is so that you don’t have to see the men that you sleep with” She said. I agreed that sometimes it was true, but that it wasn’t always that simple. Since that night, I’ve been thinking about blindfolds a lot. When my eyes disappear behind one, it isn’t just my ability to see that’s affected. With my eyes covered, I can immerse myself in a private fantasy world. A simple touch suddenly means so much more. What seems like just a relaxing caress from fingers I can see becomes thrilling and charged with excitement when it involves ones that I can’t. It’s impossible to anticipate their intention or predict their next movement when I’m behind the blindfold. I don’t need to think at all. I can be perfectly selfish and deliciously passive for a change. [nggallery id=62] Photos by Yuky Lutz
More Tickle Torture
Even though the summer has faded, the effect of “50 Shades of Grey” still lingers. I’m sitting at my writing desk and I’m thinking about sex. Nothing unusual there you might think. It seems to me that everyone is caught up in the meaning and uses of BDSM in their own lives and relationships. Something has been forgotten in all of those TV discussions focused on strap-ons, handcuffs and spankings. I haven’t heard any debates recently about sex and humour. Have we forgotten how to be dirty in the bedroom and actually laugh while we are doing it? I haven’t. When I think back to those times when I was turned on and trying hard not to laugh I always end up remembering the same afternoon. It was the day I was being photographed by a tickle fetishist and my ankles were tied onto a horizontal metal bar while I was blindfolded and sitting on an office chair. The tight white panties I had chosen for the shoot would look scandalous I hoped. Now that a reasonable amount of time has passed since the shoot I can appreciate just how unusual it really was. It was like a job at the time and I took it seriously. The photographer was committed to getting the most out of the session. He had rehearsed his tickling plans in perfect detail. When my stockinged legs were opened and raised and the blindfold was fitted on my face I was defenceless. I only remember […]
Venus O’Hara’s Cover Shots
I used to love going to the nearest kiosk to buy Spanish GQ so that I could see my monthly column in print. It was even more of a thrill when I had an article in the pages of Primera Linea. Nothing quite prepared me for seeing a rack of magazines with me on the cover though. There’s nothing like it. Sensualité September 2012 issue The creative team responsible for the magazine “Sexologies” has published the second digital edition of their new publication and I am its covergirl. Although I was posing for the photographer wearing a crotchless bodystocking, he chose to focus on my face instead. Then I remembered that the magazine was intended for a female readership. Sado and Bondage. A new and exclusive wraparound cover has been produced to update the Spanish version of Love Me Like You Hate Me, my book about BDSM written with Erika Lust. The book will now feature one of Sebas Romero’s most definitive portraits of me. This covergirl is wearing full make-up and a lace blindfold, of course. Primera Línea – June 2012 issue Although this cover image was taken in February, there was warm sunlight washing over me as I posed naked. I was concerned that my nipples wouldn’t appear hard enough so I asked the photographer if she had some ice. She nodded and smiled. I was careful to rub it on them so that they stood up just the way I wanted. Bedeseme – May 2012 issue This […]
Mundo X – Canal Plus
I’m writing this text in little pieces. It is easier to add to it in between doing bits of housework. The housework is a way to distract myself so I do not keep thinking about tonight. I am excited but it is still early and there are hours to go yet. It will not be long before Mundo X is on TV. It is not the subjects that they will be discussing that interest me the most. As I water the plants I see myself in a mirror and notice that I am just wearing a tight vest and purple panties in this heat.The tight red latex dress that I wore for the interview reflected every bright studio light. MadRubb supplied me with the outfit. As usual, I could not wear panties under the latex. I was careful how I crossed and uncrossed my legs while I explained the academic exercises in my new book “Ingles Para Pervertidos”. The idea of an accidental upskirt moment that could be broadcast across Spain added to my tension. It was fine. This was the second time I have appeared in Mundo X and I had an amazing time. If you are curious about the interview you can watch it tonight HERE.. If you are intrigued about the book Inglés para pervertidos, you can buy it here
English for Perverts Cover Shoot (Blindfold)
The publishers of English For Perverts were waiting for me. I was under pressure to deliver a really powerful image of myself wearing a blindfold. It was necessary to try a second photo-session to find the killer shot because the results of the first were just good when they had to be great. I must admit that I was a little nervous when we began again. I understood the objective. We needed a perfect portrait of my face, hidden beneath the beautiful blindfold supplied by Le Boudoir. The Union Flag design would be photo-shopped onto it, in colour, to complete the printed design. Against the rich black and white of my face the famous pattern would express the intention of my book. Learning English and, in my case, being English should be clear to anyone seeing the cover. We began by shooting in colour. My pouting mouth was emphasised by the precise application of bright red lipstick. A fan blew cold air into my face to lift my long red hair up and make it seem to float in the pictures. It was such a strange sensation to be unable to see under the blindfold while I could feel my hair being pushed around. Every strand felt alive with movement while the sound of the fan was louder than I could believe. We tried a variety of different blindfolds and those alternative shots are interesting in their own right. It was so cold in the photographer’s house but none of […]
English for Perverts – New Book!
It has been said, quite often, that the most rewarding way to learn another language is to do it when you are in bed with a foreigner. You may find that they are only too pleased to lead you through the lessons and correct you ,with humour, when you make a little mistake. What would you do though if you were in bed with someone and you did not know what to say or how to even begin? Sex is a universal language, but to have great sex relies upon good communication and conversational skills to explain to them exactly your perversions are. Ingles Para Pervertidos “English For Perverts” (Bookad 2012) encourages you to learn and practise all of those words that your teacher would always disapprove of and punish you for repeating in class. They would never show you the words or even acknowledge them. My new book has eight chapters: “The Human Body”, “In Bed”, “LGBT”, “Sexy Shopping”, “The Dark Side”, “Porn”, “Chat” and “Sexual Health”. Each one is beautifully designed and contains all the sexy vocabulary you’ll need for almost any occasion. The grammar exercises are unique and unlike any teaching materials you have ever seen before. Ingles Para Pervertidos is intended for use by intermediate level English students but do not be discouraged by this because anyone, at any stage, can benefit greatly from its arousing approach to education. At any point in the text, if you need a break from the hard work of learning, […]
Black Lace Blindfold
Many fetishists think that lace blindfolds are a bit pointless. After all, a blindfold should restrict vision and deprive the wearer of vital sensory information – not allow them to see their master/mistress whenever they choose. As far as I’m concerned there’s only one drawback with black lace blindfolds and that’s the number of people who just can’t see their obvious fetish potential.When I wore the black lace blindfold – that you see in these images – I felt dominant in front of the photographer, not submissive as I might have anticipated. When I wear sunglasses I can see perfectly but the person I’m talking to can feel uncomfortable and anxious because the eye-contact between us has been disrupted – wilfully, – by my choice of eyewear. My feelings, responses and thoughts – usually so easy to read in my huge, expressive, eyes can no longer be interpreted or relied upon. Lace blindfolds serve the same function in BDSM roleplay. This accessory is unique in the grey area it occupies between submissive blindfolds and dominant masks. If you want to be submissive in a lace blindfold, all you need to do is close your eyes and adopt that persona. If you want to be dominant, just keep your eyes open and use the confusing filter of the black lace to intimidate your slave further by staring at them through it. They won’t know how to respond, trust me. During the shoot I wasn’t able to express myself with my eyes […]
My Top Five Fetishes
Here are my top five fetishes: Blindfolds I love being lazy and having someone else apply their touches, caresses and breath to unexpected areas of my body. The inability to see and anticipate the next possible movement from random hands just accelerates my desire and makes me anxious to find out all the faster. Spanking I love spanking but it has to be done a certain way. It should begin an involving role-play scenario followed by alternating spanking and soft caresses. It’s just as much fun to give as it is to receive, particularly when the opportunity to apply several slaps to a fine arse can be a mutual pleasure mixed with occasional burning warmth. Panties I can never have enough pairs of panties. Some women collect shoes, others want a private museum of handbags but, for me, the different effects, styles and cuts that a variety of panties offer me for photo-sets, nights out and private appearances can’t be over-estimated. When I have new pairs sent to me and they fit perfectly, I’m never happier. Although I’m a true panty fetishist with over 200 pairs, choosing just the right ones is always a challenge. Tickling I love how relaxing it can be to be tickled by an true tickle fetishist. They know how to use it as an ice-breaker at first before the awkward silences are replaced by sudden fits of laughter. Like the flip-side of spanking, tickling also relies upon the tension between tickles, the anticipation and the […]
Tickle Torture (Tickle Fetish)
This photo-set was shot by a tickle fetish expert. It was my first set based on this kink and I’d been anticipating it for weeks before it finally happened. I have very sensitive feet so the excitement built up for days beforehand. My objective was to produce a set that captured all of my natural and unrehearsed reactions to the random, unexpected tickles on the soles of my feet. Posing for photo-shoots usually means smiling and pouting in a practised way. This time, the value of the images would rest in my spontaneous responses captured in the moment. They might not be my prettiest looks but the honesty of my laughter would make the point. I arrived at the photographer’s studio and I showed him my extensive collection of stockings. We’d agreed that the right pair would be an important part of the success of the set. He explained his ideas for the scenario which included sitting me on a hard office chair, tying my ankles to a horizontal metal bar and placing a blindfold on me. When we began, the reality of the ankle restraint became clear. He used his skilled hand first and the delicious tension in the pauses between his abrupt tickles reminded me of being spanked. When it got too much I told him to stop. Then, unknown to me, he began to use his “secret tickling implements” and, because of the blindfold, I had no idea what they might be. Even with his skills, I […]
Lingerie on the Beach
I wore lingerie on the beach at Barcelona instead of a bikini and, as I posed for the photographer, the sand was cool on my pale belly. As an authentic redhead, it’s hard for me to spend any serious time on the beach in the summer so I took my chance in January and chose my outfit with that in mind. I love mismatched lingerie so I made sure that I made an impression with my transparent polka-dot bra, tight black boy-shorts, hold-up stockings and high heels. The image of those heels digging into the sand – as I walked along the beach – stuck in my mind as the photographer did his work. As I lay there, the sun became too bright for my green eyes and I had to cover my face with my warm, red hair. It seemed obvious to play with this idea by using the blindfold from Le Boudoir that I had in my bag for emergencies. Even though knew that there were nude sunbathers a little further up the beach, I felt more conscious of them under the lace blindfold than if I could’ve seen where they were looking. I suspected that some of them might be photographing our shoot for their own benefit but I didn’t really care. I just posed and felt safe and reassured that I was warm, dry and that the cool waves washed up way behind me where they couldn’t reach. Instead, the cold water crept up and shocked […]
My First Book: Love Me Like You Hate Me – Venus O’Hara
In this era of 24/7 social networking, anyone can call themselves a writer because their words can be published online whenever they feel like it. I’ve always had plenty to say and my free website was the first ongoing outlet for my views and opinions. At the start, writing my posts was something fun I did on a Sunday afternoon; it was a hobby. Within three months though, I had an offer to co-author a book with Erika Lust and, suddenly, my hobby had to be taken a lot more seriously. The masochist in me enjoyed the unhelpful conditions I suffered to complete the project. For example, I always sat in the same old vintage leather chair-featured in many of my photo-sets-to get the work done. I wore old jogging bottoms, an ancient hoodie and, as it was during the winter months, I was usually wrapped up in a blanket that my grandma had sent to me; it had kept generations of O’Haras warm and I was very glad to have it. The door to my balcony was broken and no matter how much furniture I piled up against it, I still heard the rattle as it let in another bitter draft of cold air. My fingers were frozen and I could see my breath as I typed, busily, on the keyboard of my tired, unreliable laptop. I’ve got a new one now, thank God. I knew, even then, that I would look back at the hardship of the writing […]
The following images were styled and produced by myself to illustrate my book LOVE ME LIKE YOU HATE ME, written with Erika Lust. My objective in producing this set was to demonstrate that the power of bondage can be expressed and projected as easily from ordinary household objects and environments as it can from high-end fetish apparatus. In fact, the ability to fetishize familiar routines-things that we all do everyday-has to be the sexiest use of DIY that I know. Everyone showers or bathes. We know our bathrooms more intimately than any single place other than our bedrooms. In Barcelona on a cold February day I found myself abandoned in a strange bathroom. There was no real warmth to speak of, just two weak heaters to warm me up. The slippery mosaic tiles were freezing to my feet and as I got into the bath, my discount heels threatened to slip on the tiny, cold trickle of water left in the bottom. I was grateful to be wearing even a skimpy silk top, blue, sequinned knickers and my slave collar. Even my old snakeskin scarf, reworked as a blindfold, gave me a little bit of relief from the numbing cold. My shoulder blades, the small of my back and my firm derrière lay flat against the chilly porcelain. I felt my soft skin rise in lines of goosebumps and I was so drained of warmth that I couldn’t keep a single thought in my head. The photographer coiled the ordinary […]
Amaurophilia (Blindfold Fetish) – Venus O’Hara
Blindfolds possess unique fetishistic potential. They are particularly potent when used to experiment with the sensory deprivation of a pliable submissive. There is a key fetish in which the exploitation of sense pleasures is especially important. It is termed Amaurophilia and it refers almost always to a woman being blindfolded. For Amaurophiliacs having sex with a compliant woman who puts on a blindfold during the act itself represents the summit of their particular fantasy. The fetish works its magic because the simple fact of a lover’s visual restriction increases his own sense of power. The ways in which vision can be slowly, but safely, restricted are many and varied. They can range from scarves to even something from your underwear drawer; the longer it takes to manufacture a DIY blindfold the better. The male fetishist maintains strict visual-contact with his subject while she works on covering her eyes. Photos by Sebas Romero