Beauty products do not make you beautiful. In actual fact, they do the opposite. In my opinion, they make you become reliant upon them. It is only when you wear them that you feel beautiful. This state of affairs can hardly be called empowering. I have worn makeup since I was thirteen years old. I suffered from the combination of pale skin and acne. I became obsessive about covering my face up. I used: foundation, concealer, powder, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, and lipgloss. I recall that I hated seeing my face without makeup on. I could barely look at myself in the mirror. I felt ugly.
The word fetish derives from 15th century Portuguese feitiço, which meant charm or spell. A fetish is an object believed to have supernatural powers, or in particular, a man-made object that has power over others. Essentially, fetishism is the attribution of inherent value or powers to an object. The terms “erotic fetish” and “sexual fetish” were first introduced by the French psychologist Alfred Binet in the 1940s.
Today a “fetish” is an object, non-reproductive body part or action whose presence or existence causes excitement and/or arousal in an individual. An object might be latex or heels, a non-sexual body part could be legs or feet and tickling or smoking are examples of actions.
“Fetish” is also used as an adjective that relates to anything connected to the world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadomasochism) such as fetish wear or fetish clubs.
Please find Venus O’Hara’s Fetish Glossary below with definitions and images.
Apron fetishists understand that this particular garment doesn't just protect clothes when someone is cooking. Most people, if they see an apron being worn by an attractive woman, ...Read more
The armpit fetish – or maschalagnia - has only recently crossed over into mainstream consciousness via popular media. Armpit fetishists experience a powerful sexual attraction to...Read more
Globophilia is the sexual arousal provoked by the presence of balloons. This response can be a result of blowing them up or letting them down. The fetish can also involve the aroma...Read more
Blindfolds possess unique fetishistic potential. They are particularly potent when used to experiment with the sensory deprivation of a p...Read more
Bondage is the art of restraining someone or tying them up in some way that induces intense feelings of sexual gratification for both parties in opposite ways. It can be as simple ...Read more
For bra fetishists, the reality of naked female breasts can never be as stimulating or significant to them as the way that those breasts can be presented by a brassiere that perfec...Read more
Plenty of men are into the bridal fetish. Traditionally, a bride, dressed in white silks and satins, is a visual metaphor for virginity and exclusivity. Her imminent sexual unavail...Read more
In cleaning fetish, a subordinate performs menial duties around a house, or apartment, for the viewing pleasure of a fetishist. This usually takes place in an exaggerated recreatio...Read more
In collar fetishism, a submissive wears a collar to represent his or her status as an owned creature or as property possessed by a dominant or goddess. To be “collared” is a te...Read more
Corsets are a key component in sexual fetishism, most obviously in BDSM activities. In a BDSM scene or relationship, a submissive can wear a corset which could be laced very tigh...Read more
In BDSM, a top or dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or scene who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner.Domination mean...Read more
Flagellation or flogging is the act of methodically beating or whipping (Latin flagellum, “whip”) the human body. Specialised implements for it include rods, switches, the cat ...Read more
Voyeuristic food fetishists are usually male and, in most cases, they take the food imagery so popular in women's magazines one step further and seek to realise their erotic fantas...Read more
Podophilia or foot fetishism describes a popular and complex fetish. For foot fetishists in general, the foot duplicates the attractions of an enti...Read more
The freckle fetish is an essential kink for individuals who appreciate the effect that decorative imperfections have when seen on very pale skin. The patterns that freckles make on...Read more
The potency of the fur fetish can be partially explained by the sense of its forbidden qualities. The main reason, however, is that it gives a woman presence, power and authority: ...Read more
Gags have connotations of punishment and control and can be used as an aid to physical humiliation in a BDSM scenario....Read more
It only took me a short time to understand why gingham is such a major turn-on for some people, me included. A gorgeous young woman looks even younger when she puts on a gingham bl...Read more
Glasses fetishism is characterised by the effect that a pair of glasses can have on the erotic imagination of a spectator. Glasses are often a key component in many role-playing sc...Read more
Glove fetishism is a specific clothing fetish where an individual is attracted to, and stimulated by the sight of another person, or themselves, wearing gloves on their hands. The ...Read more
The effect and attraction of handcuffs, to a fetishist, are as significant in the concept of them as they are in the use of them. They have become a vital component...Read more
Heels Fetish is based on the transforming quality of premium footwear on the shape of the female foot and lower leg. To wear high-heels well an...Read more
Hoodie Fetish relates to a single piece of modern clothing that contains, within it, conflicting messages and meanings. It is this quality which permits fetishists, to impose their...Read more
Hoods and masks appeal to fetishists in a specific and powerful way. Whether made from rubber, latex, PVC or leather, their unique value lies in the effect they have on the individ...Read more
Hosiery fetishists have an attraction towards individuals wearing either tights or stockings and they are also drawn to the individual items in their own right. The common denomina...Read more
Latex has become such an important fetishistic material that it has become almost interchangeable with real flesh for many latex fetishists. Latex can re-shape, sculpt and transfor...Read more
Modern leg fetishism has been with us ever since the end of the Great War. After that, skirts began to rise, revealing the calf and then the knee. Thick unflattering stockings were...Read more
Lips are a particularly effective starting point because just seeing a beautiful pout allows men to use it as an imaginative vulva....Read more
The popularity of the lipstick fetish can be explained quite simply; some colours, particularly red, when applied to a woman’s facial lips make a direct imaginative connection be...Read more
Trichophilia or hair fetishism is a paraphilia in which the subject of the fetish becomes sexually stimulated in the presence of-or is compelled by-human hair. It is most commonly ...Read more
Mismatched underwear fetishists understand that, instead of themed sets, a random collection of clashing styles when it comes to bras, panties and leg wear has been proved to be fa...Read more
Neck fetishists find the female neck to be the centre of their obsessions and its veneration to be the best way to realise their own arousal. Necks are particularly vulnerable and ...Read more
Some fetishists prefer women's panties to any other fetish object. Their eroticisation of this underwear can encourage behaviours which can include the collection and sharing of pr...Read more
The Redhead Fetish has been around for centuries. Russet, ginger or honey-blond, it doesn't matter how it's described-this shade maintains its popularity despite the increasing rar...Read more
The act of ripping clothes apart as they are being worn by a beautiful woman is a highly popular fetish because the identification of the garment with the body that wears it allows...Read more
There is nothing more essential to some fetishists than the sight of a young woman wearing ripped tights. This type of hosiery was intended as a functional replacement for traditio...Read more
The fetish for women dressed as schoolgirls is significant in Japan where a highly formal subculture has grown to cater to consumers of this imagery. Every country has its own vari...Read more
The secretary fetish is based on the imagined persona of of an individual, traditionally a woman, who represents the kind of professional submissive that we are all familiar with. ...Read more
There can be a surprising disconnect between raw, physical attraction and the deeper animal knowledge that can be found in the mix of pheromones that a new partner offers. It is qu...Read more
Smoking fetishists are aroused by the sight of someone enjoying a cigarette. Seen as a socially unacceptable habit, the eroticisation of the cigarette is a provocative act in whic...Read more
The fetish for seeing women with smudged make-up is a kink that relies upon the disruption of a widely accepted enhancement to female beauty. Cosmetics need to be thoughtfully con...Read more
Sock fetishism refers to those enthusiasts who are attracted to-and aroused by-the wearing of socks and their removal within sexualised scenarios.The kinky value of socks can incre...Read more
The act of consensual spanking consists of one partner striking the buttocks of another with a bare hand to cause temporary pain and erotic sensation. When an object is used instea...Read more
The fetish known as “Wet and messy” is also called “Sploshing”. This kink relates to the use of sticky drinks and gooey foodstuffs to cover and smear young women in a scena...Read more
In BDSM a bottom or submissive is the partner in a BDSM relationship or a BDSM scene who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role, to that of the top or the dominant.They ass...Read more
In Japan, Thigh Fetishism has inherited a specific term to describe it. A recent poll about the favourite “secret fetishes” of Japanese businessmen found that the most popular ...Read more
Although many people find being tickled themselves or tickling someone else to be a pleasurable experience-even a social one-tickling fetishists take it much further than that. The...Read more
Veil fetishists understand and enjoy the significance of veils and the women who wear them, the effect that this piece of material can have on them is phenomenal. By covering, disg...Read more
Vintage fetish is the erotic attraction to imagery, objects and lingerie / clothing from a different era. For the fetishist, the Victorian period is particularly rich in its collec...Read more
To be a voyeur is to have a sexual interest in observing others or to be actively involved in the erotic surveillance of them. The desire at work in voyeurism ( from the French voy...Read more
“wet and messy” fetish is all about seeing rebellious young women being smeared and splattered with gooey foodstuffs...Read more
The attraction to wet clothes as a fetish is based on the contradiction inherent in having a fully dressed woman either being drenched in water by someone else or, indeed, getting ...Read more
Why Don’t You Just Get Married?
Why don’t you just get married? That is a question I have been asked on numerous occasions, even when I did not have a boyfriend. The traditional thing, of course, would be to find the boyfriend first and then think about getting married. But, those people who have asked me this question knew that I was single. What they really wanted to ask me is why I do not try myself a man with money, get married and be financially ‘sorted’ for the rest of my life.
My Vegan Fetish
For me, veganism is not just about healthy eating. It is a lifestyle. There is nothing I would love more than to meet a hot vegan guy. They are, however, few and far between and seemingly hard to track down. As a task, it resembles trying to source a good avocado in winter. I think culinary compatibility is incredibly important when choosing a viable partner. At this point, I don’t think I could imagine living with someone who wanted to have meat in the refrigerator, for example.
High Heel Fetish
I have always envied women who are able to walk easily and elegantly in high heels without falling over. Sadly, I do not have as much luck as they do. It is very difficult for me to find shoes that combine sex appeal with comfort. The few times that I have gone out wearing high heels have ended up the same way and bruises are something that are never thought of as sexy. Because of my clumsiness, I only wear heels for photo sessions and sex sessions.
Vegan Leather Fetish – Enter the MAZE by Bijoux indiscrets
The MAZE Collection – Vegan Leather
As soon as I saw the appropriately titled, MAZE collection from Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that I needed to find my own path into it. I did not care about forgetting the way I went in, taking a wrong turn or, indeed, solving the puzzle. I just felt the need to get lost in a confounding, and thrilling, realm of fetish fantasy.
Tantric Massage – My Experience
Even though I consider myself to have a liberal mentality, the thought of having a professional tantric massage never arose. Now that I’ve had one, however, I’m so glad I did. I was dying to feel someone’s hands on me. But, I wanted to feel them in a way that you just don’t experience during a conventional massage. You can’t get that sensation during sex either, not unless you have a partner who is really into long foreplay sessions. Even during post-coital embraces I wish the hair stroking and nape caresses would last much, much longer.