Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
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One orgasm at a time.
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Although I consider myself a minimalist, from time to time I love to enjoy opulence and take advantage of things that are not part of my day to day life. This is precisely what happens to me when I go to a luxury hotel. Although I cannot help imagining what it would be like to enjoy such an ambience every day, I know that if I took it for granted, it would lose its appeal.
Did you know that masculine beauty can improve female friendships? Now, isn’t that a wonderful thing?
I was pondering that idea when I discovered Cheeky Butlers in the Buff in Marbella Banus. Their service is a fantastic way to invest in your friendships while extolling the numerous virtues of the male body.
‘NO’.’ It is one of the first words that we learn. It’s doubly curious then, that there are people, boasting a very rich vocabulary, who still find it difficult to comprehend the meaning of that most basic of terms. This is what I thought when I discovered that there were classes teaching students about the nature of consent in some university campuses in my home country. The success of these studies cannot be measured by students simply understanding the significance of a ‘no’. It is also necessary that there is a clear understanding that if someone is not in a physical condition to consent, that is, if he/she is drunk, drugged or asleep, the immediate assumption must be that it is the equivalent of ‘no’.
Did I really need anything else to help get my juices flowing? I pondered this more fully when I discovered Saludbox Amore. This supplement, in the form of a chewing gum, is said to improve your sex life.
When it comes to increasing and improving the yield of my juices, it’s unlikely that there is much room for improvement. My homemade Venusian nectar has always been somewhat overabundant. In actual fact, my libido could sometimes benefit with being turned down a notch or two, if only to keep me grounded.
I didn’t despair about not having a partner even after receiving the Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples to test. When I compared it to the others in the range I knew that I could use it perfectly well on my own. Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples is an erotic toy that can be used during penetration to increase the intensity and variety of pleasurable sensations that a woman can experience. It stimulates the clitoris with air pressure waves while the G-spot component vibrates simultaneously. It also stimulates the man’s penis.
Giving the gift of orgasms is the finest thing that you can do. I had this notion very much in mind when more than one Satisfyer Pro-G Spot Rabbit was delivered to me. I resolved to give the spare one away to my best friend. She already owned a Satisfyer Pro 2 and she loved using it. I thought a rabbit-shaped version of her existing toy would fit very snugly into her limited collection of pleasure products. With this up-to-the-minute addition, she could indulge herself with dependable internal stimulation when real life might not offer up suitable candidates.
Now that I have discovered the new SATISFYER PRO PLUS VIBRATION, participating in the no fap challenge in the future will be even more difficult. It’s the toy that I used first after finishing the no-fap and it’s really easy to get hooked on it. It’s the first time that I’ve shown so much enthusiasm for a clitoral suction device. Despite the glowing reviews and increasingly enthusiastic reports associated with this type of sex toy, I’ve been a little reluctant when it comes to singing their praises. In my case, I have tended to use them once to enable me to write an honest review before returning them to their packaging for storage. Perhaps I’ve taken them out again to make videos or take photos but never with the express intention of using them again.
I had already heard about the first edition of this toy the first time I ever went to Erofame in Hannover a few years ago. Of all the products on show – thousands of them to be precise – I remembered this one for its originality. That is something seriously lacking in the sector. So many smaller companies are content to merely copy designs from the big brands and not innovate unnecessarily. Those who do something different always tend to stand out from the crowd.
So, this is what Freud meant by ‘penis envy’, I thought to myself as I adjusted the angle of the strap-on dildo. I was wearing a cute set of lingerie and I was about to participate in an indoor photo shoot. It was my intention that the resulting photos would be perfect to illustrate the LGBT section of my book English for Perverts that was published a few years ago.
Queen Bee is a revolutionary clitoral stimulator that features patented ‘pulse plate’ technology. When I first held Queen Bee in my hand and switched it on, I was intrigued. This is exactly the type of stimulation that my bashful clitoris enjoys the most I thought; it was not as pointy and certainly not as direct.
This week, I received Dr Whale, an app-controlled pelvic floor trainer from Sistalk. It must be said that I’ve never had the pleasure of using an app-controlled pelvic floor trainer before, even though they’re highly recommended and supposed to make the whole experience more fun and stimulating. I have to confess that up to this point I’ve lacked the motivation to seek one out.
She was the first woman that I had ever been intimate with and she made me question my sexuality. I felt a desire for her that I hadn’t felt for a man since my first love. I couldn’t get enough of her and when we walked along the street, hand in hand, I felt like the luckiest woman in the world. Even a simple thing like watching tv, snuggled-up on the sofa, was highly erotic, especially when our hands inevitably started to wander across each other’s bodies again.
As soon as I saw Cookie and Candy on Svakom’s Instagram feed a few weeks ago, I knew that they had to be mine. I’ve been living in an apartment by the beach for just over a month now. I’ve been mesmerised by every beautiful sunrise. It’s such an awe-inspiring way to begin the day. Cookie and Candy look like beautiful marine objects that could have been washed up on the shore. As such, they couldn’t be more appropriate with the ocean theme and my current living situation. They are vibrators but they can also move independently. Cookie has a trio of pleasing, teasing tentacles and Candy has a pouting mouth that summons up the image of a kissing fish.
Live, Learn, Share, Inspire. This is the philosophy that underpins my work. Unfortunately, the things that I have to share are not always orgasmic. Some of them can be very much the opposite, in fact. Having to live with machismo is one of them. If I had to be more specific, I would term it the wilful abuse of masculine power. It is something I have experienced and I feel that I have to share my observations of it.
Can you be spiritual and kinky?
The MAZE collection from Bijoux indiscrets allows me to be just that.
“Exciting paths that unveil secret directions with one true end: finding your true self” the packaging reads.
This philosophy certainly conforms with my current spiritual journey. I’m surrendering to the universe and seeing where it chooses to take me. It will lead me, hopefully, into the arms of someone who is as blissed-out and kinky as I am.
Good things come to those who wait. Literally.
It seems that LELO has been busy researching their own clitoral concerns and the result is SONA.
I have to say that I am thrilled that LELO has brought out a new toy. It has been a long time since NEA 2 and LILY 2. I have often wondered what would come next. Naturally, I had very high expectations, as my most repeated toys of my extensive collection are SIRI 2, NEA 2 and LILY 2. Despite this, I must admit that when I first saw pictures of SONA, I was initially underwhelmed. A suction device? These toys have taken the world by storm. I know so many women who love them, but they are not my thing if I’m entirely honest.
If you rearrange the word dildo, you end up with dodil. The dodil is a dildo that you can reshape according to your own preferences.
I have been exploring what it really means to be a minimalist in my day-to-day life. This has resulted in my decision to throw out anything that does not earn its place by bringing me continual joy. My main inspiration in this has been Marie Kondo’s book. Since reading it, I have been careful not to acquire anything new that I do not really need. I have donated books to a library, taken old clothes to a charity shop and made gifts of my furniture to neighbours. The process has been wonderfully liberating.
Finally! I am able to provide a review of a lubricant that I can actually get wet about.
There is a wide variety of lubricants on the market. And it is never an easy thing to choose the ‘right’ one. Sometimes your selection can be influenced by the packaging, the price, the promise of only natural ingredients, longer-lasting usability, the presence (or absence) of perfumes. Don’t forget any stimulating effects, whether it’s compatible with your sex toys. It’s really no surprise that making an informed judgement can be a little confusing.
I was itching with anticipation as I unboxed The Satisfyer Pro Penguin Next Generation. After working my way into the box, I was delighted to discover that it’s black & white silicone body is seemingly modelled on that of a penguin wearing a tuxedo. It had even seen fit to dress up further for the occasion; a red sculpted bow tie was worn proudly around its neck. The Satisfyer Pro Penguin was clearly serious about its intention to provide me with high-end orgasmic delight.
When the package containing the new Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation device arrived, I knew I was in for a treat. This was in spite of an ongoing dispute between myself and my unpredictable full-time landlord/occasional flatmate/onetime friend. There was a time when having his property littered with my exhausted sex toys amused him. He was just as fascinated by my array of charging docks, with their blinking lights, filled with yet more devices awaiting testing.
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