Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
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‘I can’t stop thinking about an older man.’ I confessed. My friend raised his eyebrows in disbelief. ‘But much older than you. A man in his eighties.’ I specified. My friend burst out laughing, not quite believing what he was hearing. But I didn’t. I was being very serious, so I decided to elaborate. His age and experience not only accentuate my youth and beauty, but he also makes my clitoris throb uncontrollably. His formal nature that is typical of his generation is a total turn on. But I want to encourage him to forget the formality and do what he has always craved and never dared to do.
Although I’m single, choosing a suitable candidate with which to test couples toys is always a challenge. When it comes to vibrating eggs, however, that isn’t the case. I can hand the remote control device to anyone. That’s precisely what I did with this wireless vibrating egg from Odeco, available at IMO Toys. It can be worn discretely in public while the controller can be pressed by any number of random fingers. Those digits can be attached to individuals whom I don’t have to be intimate with.
When Zemalia invited me to choose a product of theirs to test, there really was no doubt. As soon as I saw the Venus vibrator, I knew that it had to be mine. Besides, Zemalia obviously had good taste; giving something a good name must mean that it’s a good product.
I chose the name Venus for myself for several reasons. At first, it was because I always felt like a Venus. I studied fine art as a teenager and when I discovered the image of the pale-skinned, redheaded, Renaissance Venus, it made me wonder if I’d been born a few centuries too late. The generic, plastic, porn-look was beginning to gain popularity at the same time and that was something that I’ve never wanted to emulate. I’ve always been a fan and a proponent of natural beauty.
Check out my hottest rabbit vibrator! This is Alex from Rose Rain, a rabbit vibrator has seven different vibration patterns and a heating function that can be operated separately. It offers two different temperature settings. Just imagine taking a cold shower while enjoying the effect of a hot vibrator? I don’t think I’m quite brave enough to explore that option, unfortunately.
Atom Plus is a cock ring, but not just any cock ring. In fact, it’s the world’s first integrated dual motor cock ring that provides powerful perineal stimulation for the male partner and intense clitoral stimulation for the female partner at the same time. In other words, it’s worn around the shaft and the scrotum simultaneously
When I bent down to put on my socks after my shower, I couldn’t help looking at my naked vulva. Instead of feeling proud of my treasure, I suddenly felt incredibly guilty: ‘I have to give you better sex,’ I said out loud to myself. Then, I put my hand between my thighs to hug my vulva and thought about how I could find a conscious c**k to please my most intimate desires.
I have been going through a spiritual awakening for the last year. I have been spending more and more time in the conscious community. It refers to vegans, yoginis, tantrikas, zen, environmentalist, and teetotal people. Undoubtedly, sharing values is important, but I confess that in addition to my ethical reasons, I am convinced that I am in the right environment to find the conscious c**k I crave so much.
I remember the first time that I tried LELO LUNA Beads Noir. I was taking the bus on my way to a photo shoot a few years ago. It was mid-morning and not too busy. So, for the thirty minute journey, I could sit wherever I liked. Naturally, I chose the seat that was positioned directly above the engine. This meant that I could get the maximum value out of the extra vibrations that would inevitably follow. I hoped that there would be some unpredictable bumps in the road to make it an even more stimulating half hour. Later, at the shoot, I had an extra-special glimmer in my eye while I posed. Even the photographer noticed. I revealed my secret after we wrapped the session. I had been conducting a sex toy test all along.
When I received Anya – a powerful, warming vibrator from Svakom – I was grateful for the extra-cold weather after all. Using the toy would be like having my own personal heating system, one that would provide me with orgasms. In addition, it was the very first warming sex toy that I’ve tried.
Bonnie is a different prospect entirely. It’s a double ended vibrator with two independent motors that can be used individually or simultaneously. The wider end is reminiscent of a wand massager in that it’s big and round but more lightweight. This makes it ideal for clitoral stimulation or even massaging other parts of your – or your partner’s – body. The narrower end is perfect for G-spot stimulation, direct clitoral stimulation and for caressing nipples, and other body parts during foreplay.
“If you want to take control of my sex toy, send me a DM.” That’s exactly what I wrote on a recent instagram post featuring Miss On The Go, an App-controlled pelvic floor trainer from Miss VV’s Mystery.
Within minutes of posting the provocation, I received numerous messages with offers attached. Some of the names were familiar to me as they came from individuals who have followed me for years; they had commented regularly on my posts and pics, belfies, toes, no makeup/no filter selfies. There were others who contributed to the excitement; some newbies who I’d never heard of before.
When it comes to travelling abroad with sex toys, I have a confession to make-I get excited by the prospect of getting caught carrying erotic contraband. I remember being stopped once because I had neglected to separate my liquids, but the paranoia stayed with me afterwards. You shouldn’t mess around with airport staff; distracting them from concentrating on security issues by having indiscreet dildos with you is never recommended.
Although I consider myself a minimalist, from time to time I love to enjoy opulence and take advantage of things that are not part of my day to day life. This is precisely what happens to me when I go to a luxury hotel. Although I cannot help imagining what it would be like to enjoy such an ambience every day, I know that if I took it for granted, it would lose its appeal.
Did you know that masculine beauty can improve female friendships? Now, isn’t that a wonderful thing?
I was pondering that idea when I discovered Cheeky Butlers in the Buff in Marbella Banus. Their service is a fantastic way to invest in your friendships while extolling the numerous virtues of the male body.
‘NO’.’ It is one of the first words that we learn. It’s doubly curious then, that there are people, boasting a very rich vocabulary, who still find it difficult to comprehend the meaning of that most basic of terms. This is what I thought when I discovered that there were classes teaching students about the nature of consent in some university campuses in my home country. The success of these studies cannot be measured by students simply understanding the significance of a ‘no’. It is also necessary that there is a clear understanding that if someone is not in a physical condition to consent, that is, if he/she is drunk, drugged or asleep, the immediate assumption must be that it is the equivalent of ‘no’.
Did I really need anything else to help get my juices flowing? I pondered this more fully when I discovered Saludbox Amore. This supplement, in the form of a chewing gum, is said to improve your sex life.
When it comes to increasing and improving the yield of my juices, it’s unlikely that there is much room for improvement. My homemade Venusian nectar has always been somewhat overabundant. In actual fact, my libido could sometimes benefit with being turned down a notch or two, if only to keep me grounded.
I didn’t despair about not having a partner even after receiving the Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples to test. When I compared it to the others in the range I knew that I could use it perfectly well on my own. Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples is an erotic toy that can be used during penetration to increase the intensity and variety of pleasurable sensations that a woman can experience. It stimulates the clitoris with air pressure waves while the G-spot component vibrates simultaneously. It also stimulates the man’s penis.
Giving the gift of orgasms is the finest thing that you can do. I had this notion very much in mind when more than one Satisfyer Pro-G Spot Rabbit was delivered to me. I resolved to give the spare one away to my best friend. She already owned a Satisfyer Pro 2 and she loved using it. I thought a rabbit-shaped version of her existing toy would fit very snugly into her limited collection of pleasure products. With this up-to-the-minute addition, she could indulge herself with dependable internal stimulation when real life might not offer up suitable candidates.
Now that I have discovered the new SATISFYER PRO PLUS VIBRATION, participating in the no fap challenge in the future will be even more difficult. It’s the toy that I used first after finishing the no-fap and it’s really easy to get hooked on it. It’s the first time that I’ve shown so much enthusiasm for a clitoral suction device. Despite the glowing reviews and increasingly enthusiastic reports associated with this type of sex toy, I’ve been a little reluctant when it comes to singing their praises. In my case, I have tended to use them once to enable me to write an honest review before returning them to their packaging for storage. Perhaps I’ve taken them out again to make videos or take photos but never with the express intention of using them again.
I had already heard about the first edition of this toy the first time I ever went to Erofame in Hannover a few years ago. Of all the products on show – thousands of them to be precise – I remembered this one for its originality. That is something seriously lacking in the sector. So many smaller companies are content to merely copy designs from the big brands and not innovate unnecessarily. Those who do something different always tend to stand out from the crowd.
So, this is what Freud meant by ‘penis envy’, I thought to myself as I adjusted the angle of the strap-on dildo. I was wearing a cute set of lingerie and I was about to participate in an indoor photo shoot. It was my intention that the resulting photos would be perfect to illustrate the LGBT section of my book English for Perverts that was published a few years ago.
Queen Bee is a revolutionary clitoral stimulator that features patented ‘pulse plate’ technology. When I first held Queen Bee in my hand and switched it on, I was intrigued. This is exactly the type of stimulation that my bashful clitoris enjoys the most I thought; it was not as pointy and certainly not as direct.
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