Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
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I received The O Wand at the end of December last year. Ever since then, I have not stopped using it. In fact, I keep it under my pillow and I start most days with an O Wand wake-up session. It is the world’s most powerful rechargeable wand massager. It’s stylish loop handle makes it more ergonomic to use than most wand massagers.The O Wand is incredibly powerful and the weight of the toy is very pleasant. You can also use it with a partner to massage other parts of your bodies. It has a variety of settings and comes complete with different mains adaptors so that you can use The O Wand with your old electrical sockets wherever you are in the world.
Why Don’t Women Make the First Move?
This is a topic that came up during an English Language Workshop that I gave in Barcelona a couple of years ago. It was to a group of lesbians, which made a change. I had just got to the end of the workshop when a girl raised her hand. I smiled and nodded to her.
“Aren’t you going to teach us some techniques for making the first move’ She asked “You know, tips for pulling?”
For me, veganism is not just about healthy eating. It is a lifestyle. There is nothing I would love more than to meet a hot vegan guy. They are, however, few and far between and seemingly hard to track down. As a task, it resembles trying to source a good avocado in winter. I think culinary compatibility is incredibly important when choosing a viable partner. At this point, I don’t think I could imagine living with someone who wanted to have meat in the refrigerator, for example.
Penetration is a very small part of my sex life. And it seems to be getting smaller and smaller lately. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it. On the contrary. I love it, I find that reserving it for special occasions makes it even more explosive when I finally do feel something inside. It had been weeks since I experimented with any type of penetration when I tried Tyrsta from Svakom.
Trysta from Svakom might look like a conventional rabbit vibrator, but it’s much more sophisticated. It is a Targeted Rolling G Spot vibrator.
When I was a student, I used to work as a waitress to get some extra money. I was willing to work in any type of restaurant except Italian ones. I have nothing against Italians. Quite the contrary. In fact, Italian was my absolute favourite food at the time. It was just that I was afraid that I would end up getting sick and tired of it. Because I loved it so much, I was not going to let that happen.
When I was 20 years old, I thought that reaching the age of thirty and being single would be a disaster. At that age, I speculated that my body clock would be ticking louder than ever. Back then, each time I had sex I would be wondering if the man I was with could be a viable candidate for being the father of my children. Now that I am in my thirties, however, my opinion about this has changed completely.
I have always envied women who are able to walk easily and elegantly in high heels without falling over. Sadly, I do not have as much luck as they do. It is very difficult for me to find shoes that combine sex appeal with comfort. The few times that I have gone out wearing high heels have ended up the same way and bruises are something that are never thought of as sexy. Because of my clumsiness, I only wear heels for photo sessions and sex sessions.
This toy had been in my ‘incoming’ review box for several months. I had tried to write it on several occasions previously. The problem was that every time I set about typing, just the thought of this clitoral stimulator made me want to use it again. And again. Time after time, the official review had to take a back seat to my personal pleasure.
When I saw the first pictures of The O-WAND, I knew that I had to have one. I was impressed by its generous dimensions and I was convinced that it would stand out from the rest of my sex toy collection. I was intrigued by its loop handle. It reminded me of a hand-held vacuum cleaner but a much sexier one of course. I was also seduced by the promise of a strong, rechargeable, waterproof wand massager. These are not the attributes that are usually combined in the same model of this type of toy.
Sex blogger Sacrifices
I like to imagine that I’ve got the best job in the world and I probably have. It has been 7 years since I established my website. Now I work full-time as a sex blogger. My job has several obvious advantages: free sex toys, complimentary lingerie and most importantly, no alarm-clock in the morning. When I am at a party with other professionals and it is my turn to explain what I do, I always end up impressing them by having the coolest job of anyone by far. It does not really matter that it is not the most well paid.
“You’re really loud today” someone once informed me in the middle of the sex act. Louder than normal? I pondered this when I recalled the shuddering orgasm that I experienced a few minutes earlier. Yes, it had been louder. This was partly because I was really into it at that moment. On further reflection I had to concede to myself that my increased volume was more to do with the fact that I was in a hotel room.
I was so thrilled to receive a Satisfyer Pro Penguin last month. I got my hands on it at Erofame in Hanover, Germany. I was very curious to see what the Pro Penguin compared after trying the Womanizer W100, the Womanizer Pro and the Satisfyer Pro Plus. These are all suction devices and they work on the principle that the clitoris can be stimulated without the need for actual contact. They have proven to be highly popular around the world and many women report experiencing intense and rapid orgasms with them.
I had always wanted to try strap-on sex. This was due to the simple fact that I could determine the size, the texture and the design of the fake phallus that would be attached to it. For me, the most important thing about a real penis is not it’s size per se. It is my preference that it should be absolutely rigid when it matters most. I always imagined that a strap-on must be fantastic for this very reason because its perpetual stiffness was guaranteed. I was intrigued about using one with another woman, especially because I could both give and receive its pleasures. Fortunately, I have a female friend who shared my curiosity.
The main reason I do not watch porn comes down to personal taste. I would always choose erotica over porn. My preference is for a well-written script interpreted by talented actors as opposed to real sexual positions adopted by porn performers. I suppose that I want to put my own imagination to work. In mainstream porn, imagination is seldom required. The monotonous gynaecological close-ups do nothing for me, I have to say. I do not find them overly explicit as much as I consider them standardised and boring.
The MAZE Collection – Vegan Leather
As soon as I saw the appropriately titled, MAZE collection from Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that I needed to find my own path into it. I did not care about forgetting the way I went in, taking a wrong turn or, indeed, solving the puzzle. I just felt the need to get lost in a confounding, and thrilling, realm of fetish fantasy.
“Goodbye” I whispered to my beloved sofa as I saw it being pushed out of my front door by three Italian students. For many, a sofa is just a piece of furniture that you relax on to watch television or have a nap on. But I have never had a single siesta on my sofa, even though I live in Spain. To be honest, I have not mastered the art of it. Nor have I watched television on my sofa because I don’t have one. For me, my sofa was a place to recline after a long day or, most importantly, it was my favorite place to have sex.
When I read Bridget Jones’ Diary during my teenage years, I hoped that I wouldn’t end up like her. That is to say, a thirty-something, childless, single woman spending my Saturday nights wallowing in self pity and drinking wine at home on my own. It’s obvious, looking back, that Bridget didn’t own a decent vibrator.
Lesbian porn isn’t the same as ‘porn for lesbians’ or ‘porn for bi women’. Lesbian porn is, without doubt, focused on the needs of the male spectator with its obsessive focus on close-up, gynaecological shots and surgically enhanced actresses with long, fake nails that look like claws. That detail in particular is a big no-no when it comes to sex between women. Another, typical feature is an overemphasis on the use of sex toys like dildos and harnesses. During my sapphic era, it would never have occurred to me to sit on a sofa and lick a dildo with another girl but that scenario is sadly typical in lesbian porn.
Stimulating the A spot is a highly efficient way to achieve orgasm because it doesn’t use much energy, doesn’t take very long and always results in an intense climax. It sounds wonderful, I know, but it’s not all good news. In my case, because of the effectiveness of my A spot, I failed to give my clitoris the time and attention it deserved for years. I believed that women were either clitoral or vaginal when it came to orgasms. I have now discovered, however, that I can reach climax either way, even though achieving a clitoral orgasm, in my case, requires me to put in much more time and effort.
Even though I consider myself to have a liberal mentality, the thought of having a professional tantric massage never arose. Now that I’ve had one, however, I’m so glad I did. I was dying to feel someone’s hands on me. But, I wanted to feel them in a way that you just don’t experience during a conventional massage. You can’t get that sensation during sex either, not unless you have a partner who is really into long foreplay sessions. Even during post-coital embraces I wish the hair stroking and nape caresses would last much, much longer.
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