Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
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One orgasm at a time.
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Why don’t you just get married? That is a question I have been asked on numerous occasions, even when I did not have a boyfriend. The traditional thing, of course, would be to find the boyfriend first and then think about getting married. But, those people who have asked me this question knew that I was single. What they really wanted to ask me is why I do not try myself a man with money, get married and be financially ‘sorted’ for the rest of my life.
As an Independent woman, living in a foreign country, I have no choice but to work hard. I am determined to make both ends meet because, for me, there is no backup plan or safety net. I used to complain about the lack of employment stability, the precarious salary levels, working conditions and employment contracts here in Spain. But now, I know that real stability comes from within and I realise that flexibility is strength. Thanks to my varied experience in different sectors in the past, it is easy for me to adapt to new working situations now. Here are some of my previous job titles:
“So, what’s the best thing about your job?” a journalist asked me once.
Was it the free sex toys to test and review? The numerous invitations to kinky parties? Seeing the fruits of my labour appear regularly in print via the medium of books and magazine articles? The simple fact that I got paid to write about my scandalous sexplorations?
No. It wasn’t any of those things. Simply put, the best thing about my job is that it allows me to live a No Alarm Life.
LAYA II – Review – A Superior Clitoral Stimulator from FUN FACTORY
When I went to Bremen, Germany for the first time last year to record a video for FUN FACTORY, I only travelled with a handbag. Not only because over the years I have learned that travelling light is always best, but also because I imagined that once there, I would accumulate even more sex toys for my collection and that I would be returning with quite a lot of luggage, and I was right.
Wild Rabbit from Nomi Tang is a rechargeable rabbit vibrator that is ideal for G-spot and clitoral stimulation.It features an innovative itouch slider. Wild Rabbit has a wonderfully elegant appearance and the symmetrical groove, on its shaft, is designed to enhance G-spot stimulation even further.
Partner Plus is a rechargeable vibrator that can be used with a male partner during penetration, or on your own. It is produced by the same company as the Satisfyer. They are no stranger to imitating good concepts and making designs available to the market at more accessible prices. I first saw this toy’s general shape with the We-Vibe Couple’s Vibe. I have tried Lelo Tiani which has a similar look, and We-Vibe Sync. In essence, the concept is the same. It is a G-spot and clitoral stimulator that you can use during penetration with a male partner or all by yourself.
The Black Line from FUN FACTORY – Discover Your Dark Side
The colour black goes with everything, whatever the colour your lingerie, your bedclothing, or even your car. Fun Factory’s new Black line will definitely match.
The collection comprises three of Fun Factory’s bestselling toys: Miss Bi, Tiger and Big Boss.
Is it a sin to be unfaithful?
Although I do not practise any religion, every time I have an orgasm convinces me a little more that there must be a higher power. Besides, whoever I am in bed with, and whatever their name is, the name I loudly proclaim during my moments of ecstasy is ‘God’, as in ‘oh my GOD!’
It was supposed to have been the trip of my lifetime. A week in a five-star hotel in the Caribbean. The sea views were supposed to be amazing. One whole week of premium chilling out, only to be interrupted by great sex-sessions with my amazing boyfriend at that time. As I crossed-off the dates on my calendar, I became more and more excited about it. What could possibly go wrong?
If a vibrator claims to be better than chocolate then, naturally, one would have some very high expectations. To earn that superlative, it must be as blissful in its own way as the taste of chocolate is on my discerning tastebuds. The toy would need to make me moan and squirm in my bed with sweet delight.
Cayona FUN FACTORY – Review
I went to visit Fun Factory in Bremen, Germany earlier this year. While I was there, more than one person asked me if I had a personal favourite sex toy from the selection offered by Fun Factory. I did not hesitate before I replied. “Miss Bi”.
I received The O Wand at the end of December last year. Ever since then, I have not stopped using it. In fact, I keep it under my pillow and I start most days with an O Wand wake-up session. It is the world’s most powerful rechargeable wand massager. It’s stylish loop handle makes it more ergonomic to use than most wand massagers.The O Wand is incredibly powerful and the weight of the toy is very pleasant. You can also use it with a partner to massage other parts of your bodies. It has a variety of settings and comes complete with different mains adaptors so that you can use The O Wand with your old electrical sockets wherever you are in the world.
Why Don’t Women Make the First Move?
This is a topic that came up during an English Language Workshop that I gave in Barcelona a couple of years ago. It was to a group of lesbians, which made a change. I had just got to the end of the workshop when a girl raised her hand. I smiled and nodded to her.
“Aren’t you going to teach us some techniques for making the first move’ She asked “You know, tips for pulling?”
For me, veganism is not just about healthy eating. It is a lifestyle. There is nothing I would love more than to meet a hot vegan guy. They are, however, few and far between and seemingly hard to track down. As a task, it resembles trying to source a good avocado in winter. I think culinary compatibility is incredibly important when choosing a viable partner. At this point, I don’t think I could imagine living with someone who wanted to have meat in the refrigerator, for example.
Penetration is a very small part of my sex life. And it seems to be getting smaller and smaller lately. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it. On the contrary. I love it, I find that reserving it for special occasions makes it even more explosive when I finally do feel something inside. It had been weeks since I experimented with any type of penetration when I tried Tyrsta from Svakom.
Trysta from Svakom might look like a conventional rabbit vibrator, but it’s much more sophisticated. It is a Targeted Rolling G Spot vibrator.
When I was a student, I used to work as a waitress to get some extra money. I was willing to work in any type of restaurant except Italian ones. I have nothing against Italians. Quite the contrary. In fact, Italian was my absolute favourite food at the time. It was just that I was afraid that I would end up getting sick and tired of it. Because I loved it so much, I was not going to let that happen.
When I was 20 years old, I thought that reaching the age of thirty and being single would be a disaster. At that age, I speculated that my body clock would be ticking louder than ever. Back then, each time I had sex I would be wondering if the man I was with could be a viable candidate for being the father of my children. Now that I am in my thirties, however, my opinion about this has changed completely.
I have always envied women who are able to walk easily and elegantly in high heels without falling over. Sadly, I do not have as much luck as they do. It is very difficult for me to find shoes that combine sex appeal with comfort. The few times that I have gone out wearing high heels have ended up the same way and bruises are something that are never thought of as sexy. Because of my clumsiness, I only wear heels for photo sessions and sex sessions.
This toy had been in my ‘incoming’ review box for several months. I had tried to write it on several occasions previously. The problem was that every time I set about typing, just the thought of this clitoral stimulator made me want to use it again. And again. Time after time, the official review had to take a back seat to my personal pleasure.
When I saw the first pictures of The O-WAND, I knew that I had to have one. I was impressed by its generous dimensions and I was convinced that it would stand out from the rest of my sex toy collection. I was intrigued by its loop handle. It reminded me of a hand-held vacuum cleaner but a much sexier one of course. I was also seduced by the promise of a strong, rechargeable, waterproof wand massager. These are not the attributes that are usually combined in the same model of this type of toy.
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