Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
I want to change the world
One orgasm at a time.
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I had already heard about the first edition of this toy the first time I ever went to Erofame in Hannover a few years ago. Of all the products on show – thousands of them to be precise – I remembered this one for its originality. That is something seriously lacking in the sector. So many smaller companies are content to merely copy designs from the big brands and not innovate unnecessarily. Those who do something different always tend to stand out from the crowd.
So, this is what Freud meant by ‘penis envy’, I thought to myself as I adjusted the angle of the strap-on dildo. I was wearing a cute set of lingerie and I was about to participate in an indoor photo shoot. It was my intention that the resulting photos would be perfect to illustrate the LGBT section of my book English for Perverts that was published a few years ago.
Queen Bee is a revolutionary clitoral stimulator that features patented ‘pulse plate’ technology. When I first held Queen Bee in my hand and switched it on, I was intrigued. This is exactly the type of stimulation that my bashful clitoris enjoys the most I thought; it was not as pointy and certainly not as direct.
This week, I received Dr Whale, an app-controlled pelvic floor trainer from Sistalk. It must be said that I’ve never had the pleasure of using an app-controlled pelvic floor trainer before, even though they’re highly recommended and supposed to make the whole experience more fun and stimulating. I have to confess that up to this point I’ve lacked the motivation to seek one out.
She was the first woman that I had ever been intimate with and she made me question my sexuality. I felt a desire for her that I hadn’t felt for a man since my first love. I couldn’t get enough of her and when we walked along the street, hand in hand, I felt like the luckiest woman in the world. Even a simple thing like watching tv, snuggled-up on the sofa, was highly erotic, especially when our hands inevitably started to wander across each other’s bodies again.
As soon as I saw Cookie and Candy on Svakom’s Instagram feed a few weeks ago, I knew that they had to be mine. I’ve been living in an apartment by the beach for just over a month now. I’ve been mesmerised by every beautiful sunrise. It’s such an awe-inspiring way to begin the day. Cookie and Candy look like beautiful marine objects that could have been washed up on the shore. As such, they couldn’t be more appropriate with the ocean theme and my current living situation. They are vibrators but they can also move independently. Cookie has a trio of pleasing, teasing tentacles and Candy has a pouting mouth that summons up the image of a kissing fish.
Live, Learn, Share, Inspire. This is the philosophy that underpins my work. Unfortunately, the things that I have to share are not always orgasmic. Some of them can be very much the opposite, in fact. Having to live with machismo is one of them. If I had to be more specific, I would term it the wilful abuse of masculine power. It is something I have experienced and I feel that I have to share my observations of it.
Can you be spiritual and kinky?
The MAZE collection from Bijoux indiscrets allows me to be just that.
“Exciting paths that unveil secret directions with one true end: finding your true self” the packaging reads.
This philosophy certainly conforms with my current spiritual journey. I’m surrendering to the universe and seeing where it chooses to take me. It will lead me, hopefully, into the arms of someone who is as blissed-out and kinky as I am.
LELO Sona Review - One of the best clitoral stimulation sex toys on the market today. Check out my Sona comparison to similar Womanizer and Satisfyer products LELO Sona Review Raising orgasmic awareness is no small task. In fact, it’s a 24-hour operation. Even if I...
If you rearrange the word dildo, you end up with dodil. The dodil is a dildo that you can reshape according to your own preferences.
I have been exploring what it really means to be a minimalist in my day-to-day life. This has resulted in my decision to throw out anything that does not earn its place by bringing me continual joy. My main inspiration in this has been Marie Kondo’s book. Since reading it, I have been careful not to acquire anything new that I do not really need. I have donated books to a library, taken old clothes to a charity shop and made gifts of my furniture to neighbours. The process has been wonderfully liberating.
Finally! I am able to provide a review of a lubricant that I can actually get wet about.
There is a wide variety of lubricants on the market. And it is never an easy thing to choose the ‘right’ one. Sometimes your selection can be influenced by the packaging, the price, the promise of only natural ingredients, longer-lasting usability, the presence (or absence) of perfumes. Don’t forget any stimulating effects, whether it’s compatible with your sex toys. It’s really no surprise that making an informed judgement can be a little confusing.
I was itching with anticipation as I unboxed The Satisfyer Pro Penguin Next Generation. After working my way into the box, I was delighted to discover that it’s black & white silicone body is seemingly modelled on that of a penguin wearing a tuxedo. It had even seen fit to dress up further for the occasion; a red sculpted bow tie was worn proudly around its neck. The Satisfyer Pro Penguin was clearly serious about its intention to provide me with high-end orgasmic delight.
When the package containing the new Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation device arrived, I knew I was in for a treat. This was in spite of an ongoing dispute between myself and my unpredictable full-time landlord/occasional flatmate/onetime friend. There was a time when having his property littered with my exhausted sex toys amused him. He was just as fascinated by my array of charging docks, with their blinking lights, filled with yet more devices awaiting testing.
I was in a terrible mood when I tried Lea by Feelz Toys for the first time. I had just been woken up in the early hours of the morning by my flatmate / frenemy who was making a great deal of unnecessary noise. It was clear that he didn’t give two hoots about whether I got enough sleep or not. His coughing, door slamming and stomping around made it clear that we are going through the equivalent of a platonic separation. Our situation is reminiscent of a film that I remember seeing. ‘The Breakup (2006)’ starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn tells the story of a couple trying to go their separate ways.
When I went to bed – I decided to test Zumio, a powerful clitoral stimulator that’s ideal for enjoying pinpoint pleasure. Naturally, I wondered what it would be like to share Zumio with another woman as I revisited my sapphic fantasies. I put Zumio to work on my hungry clitoris and closed my eyes. I imagined soft skin, expert caresses and – of course – the singular sensation of four breasts rubbing together.
I’m certainly not a natural born beachbum. But, when I received seven new Magnifique designs from Bijoux Indiscrets, I was instantly inspired to go to the beach and try them out. Even if you don’t live by the sea, a piece of the Magnifique collection won’t take up too much room in your suitcase if you go on holiday this summer. The response you get from putting it on display could be amazing.
Teatime with porcelain dildos instead of scones
In the UK if you have a problem, a cup of tea will almost certainly be part of the solution. In fact, when presented with a problem, the first response is most likely to be: ‘let me put the kettle on’. Tea and sympathy makes everything seem better again. And now – with these special teatime porcelain dildos – I think I’m going to enjoy this ritual more than ever.
OMG! I’ve just tried the new Womanizer 2GO for the first time and I’m still in a state of shock. I was literally screaming as I came. The orgasm arrived with no warning, and was so intense, that biting the pillow just wasn’t an option. I must admit that, in the past, clitoral suction devices such as womanizer – and rival devices such as the Satisfyer – have tended to be a little too powerful for my liking. I usually prefer to use a vibrator for indirect clitoral stimulation. That doesn’t mean, however, that I didn’t have a lot of fun. It was, simply put, incredible.
If you crave penetration with more cms than what your partner has to offer in the trouser department, then Play Ball from Adrien Lastic could be the perfect solution for you. For many, suggesting a penis sleeve might be insulting, but Play Ball, stimulates the end of your vagina, and the A spot, a pleasure point located at the deepest point on the anterior wall of the vagina, above the cervix, a place not all guys can reach.
Lubricants can be used in a variety of ways. The first thing that I look at when assessing the practical value of a given lubricant is its list of ingredients. If it contains glycerin, then you can be quite sure that the product will not be going anywhere near my vulva or my sex toys. That doesn’t mean that I dismiss it completely, however. It will still be useful for hand jobs, foot jobs, or even armpit or tit wanks if I’m in an exotic mood.
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