Venus O'Hara - Artist - Author - Sexpert
I want to change the world
One orgasm at a time.
Can you help me?
My mission is to liberate and educate people about sexuality through art, humour and my own experiences.
Blogposts, reviews and more!
I usually wake up early, to be met by the sound of birds singing and the light of the recently risen Mediterranean sun in my face. I don’t put my blinds down as a rule because I love being stirred by that bright light. It gives me energy for the day ahead. After opening my eyes slowly, I usually reach out for one of my vibrators. I have a small collection of my favourites under my pillow, ready to use for moments just like these.
Coworking has changed my life. As a professional sex toy tester, it is safe to say that I probably have the best job in the world. But, even so, it is not absolutely perfect. The testing part of the job, although fun, must be undertaken at home and for obvious reasons. And when I am writing about the experience after the fact, it can be a very lonely affair indeed.
Sex dating is getting increasingly popular, thanks not only to the internet but also to people’s mentalities getting more progressive over time. You might be at a point in your life right now where you’re not with anyone but you still desire some sort of company, or simply put you’re just looking at getting laid without the hassles that relationships can bring onto the table. So maybe sex dating could be a good thing for you, but before you jump into it there are a few rules that you should know to make your quest for sex easier and more successful.
What I miss most about having regular intimate sessions are the caresses. Casual encounters prove to be far too frenzied and temporary for my liking. I usually prefer a full-body, tactile exploration of my most sensitive areas. But, I usually go straight for my clitoris, bypassing my erogenous zones, even when I am on my own. It goes without saying that those places still crave their share of my attention. After all, it is not just a question of tits and ass.
Beauty products do not make you beautiful. In actual fact, they do the opposite. In my opinion, they make you become reliant upon them. It is only when you wear them that you feel beautiful. This state of affairs can hardly be called empowering. I have worn makeup since I was thirteen years old. I suffered from the combination of pale skin and acne. I became obsessive about covering my face up. I used: foundation, concealer, powder, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, and lipgloss. I recall that I hated seeing my face without makeup on. I could barely look at myself in the mirror. I felt ugly.
I first heard about the Womanizer Plus Size at the EROFAME fair in Hannover last October. As a vegan health freak, I didn’t think that I was the target user of a Plus Size sex toy. But then I discovered the O-Wand, the world’s most powerful wand massager, and you could say that I have acquired a taste for long-handled sex toys. This inspired me to give the Plus Size Womanizer a whirl.
I arrived in Barcelona on a May morning at Sants train station. I had travelled from Madrid on a night train. The reality was that I had left my job as an English teacher, my apartment and my boyfriend behind me. With a grand total of 400 euros to my name, determined not to give another English lesson as long as I lived.
Oh my God! Please give me a few moments to get my breath back. I have just tested Trigger, a new Rabbit vibrator from Adrien lastic. It has 3 independent motors for triple the pleasure. Trigger has far exceeded my expectations in every way. Before I tried it, I switched it on and held it in my hand for a moment so that I could better appreciate the ‘come-hither’ function in action. It reminded me of ‘Ina Wave’ from LELO. But, when I put the toy to proper use, I discovered that the user experience was very different. This was for several reasons for this.
Why I Don’t Drink Alcohol – Confessions of a Teetotaller.
I used to love drinking wine, especially sharing a bottle with someone over dinner. I preferred red wine in the winter because I loved how it warmed my throat after I swallowed. It did not matter that it stained my lips sometimes. In summer, I used to enjoy chilled white wine. It was perfect to sit on a terrace and sip it slowly on a warm summer’s evening.
Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Lubricants
Sex should be all fun, orgasmic and it should definitely leave you happy. Sex has a lot of benefits such as relieving stress, it is the best exercise for your body and heart, it balances your testosterone or estrogen levels plus it also lowers your blood pressure. We could go on and on about the various benefits of sex but then we would miss out on your guide to sexual lubricants which is why you are here!
This week, I received the Satisfyer Pro Deluxe. It is a brand-new suction device to add to my growing collection that comprises: the Womanizer W100, Womanizer w500 Deluxe, Satisfyer Pro Plus, Satisfyer Pro Penguin and other manual clitoris pumps
Why don’t you just get married? That is a question I have been asked on numerous occasions, even when I did not have a boyfriend. The traditional thing, of course, would be to find the boyfriend first and then think about getting married. But, those people who have asked me this question knew that I was single. What they really wanted to ask me is why I do not try myself a man with money, get married and be financially ‘sorted’ for the rest of my life.
As an Independent woman, living in a foreign country, I have no choice but to work hard. I am determined to make both ends meet because, for me, there is no backup plan or safety net. I used to complain about the lack of employment stability, the precarious salary levels, working conditions and employment contracts here in Spain. But now, I know that real stability comes from within and I realise that flexibility is strength. Thanks to my varied experience in different sectors in the past, it is easy for me to adapt to new working situations now. Here are some of my previous job titles:
“So, what’s the best thing about your job?” a journalist asked me once.
Was it the free sex toys to test and review? The numerous invitations to kinky parties? Seeing the fruits of my labour appear regularly in print via the medium of books and magazine articles? The simple fact that I got paid to write about my scandalous sexplorations?
No. It wasn’t any of those things. Simply put, the best thing about my job is that it allows me to live a No Alarm Life.
LAYA II – Review – A Superior Clitoral Stimulator from FUN FACTORY
When I went to Bremen, Germany for the first time last year to record a video for FUN FACTORY, I only travelled with a handbag. Not only because over the years I have learned that travelling light is always best, but also because I imagined that once there, I would accumulate even more sex toys for my collection and that I would be returning with quite a lot of luggage, and I was right.
Wild Rabbit from Nomi Tang is a rechargeable rabbit vibrator that is ideal for G-spot and clitoral stimulation.It features an innovative itouch slider. Wild Rabbit has a wonderfully elegant appearance and the symmetrical groove, on its shaft, is designed to enhance G-spot stimulation even further.
Partner Plus is a rechargeable vibrator that can be used with a male partner during penetration, or on your own. It is produced by the same company as the Satisfyer. They are no stranger to imitating good concepts and making designs available to the market at more accessible prices. I first saw this toy’s general shape with the We-Vibe Couple’s Vibe. I have tried Lelo Tiani which has a similar look, and We-Vibe Sync. In essence, the concept is the same. It is a G-spot and clitoral stimulator that you can use during penetration with a male partner or all by yourself.
The Black Line from FUN FACTORY – Discover Your Dark Side
The colour black goes with everything, whatever the colour your lingerie, your bedclothing, or even your car. Fun Factory’s new Black line will definitely match.
The collection comprises three of Fun Factory’s bestselling toys: Miss Bi, Tiger and Big Boss.
Is it a sin to be unfaithful?
Although I do not practise any religion, every time I have an orgasm convinces me a little more that there must be a higher power. Besides, whoever I am in bed with, and whatever their name is, the name I loudly proclaim during my moments of ecstasy is ‘God’, as in ‘oh my GOD!’
It was supposed to have been the trip of my lifetime. A week in a five-star hotel in the Caribbean. The sea views were supposed to be amazing. One whole week of premium chilling out, only to be interrupted by great sex-sessions with my amazing boyfriend at that time. As I crossed-off the dates on my calendar, I became more and more excited about it. What could possibly go wrong?
This post is also available in: Spanish